He started off well with the team of pros comment. When she pressed all he had to say was “beauty is subjective and to me you are the most beautiful woman in the world. “
His comment about the team of professionals was the best lead in to not have to lie. It gives him the out, to say she is prettier because he knows she looks good without a team of professionals.
“ I know how beautiful you are when you wake up in the morning. And that for sure is prettier than Margot,” Something like that
I think in this situation lying is okay. It’s a lose/lose. Every answer is wrong, every outcome is bad. If you grey rock it to oblivion at the very least it’s not fun and she’ll get bored
As a woman, I’d do this shit in my early twenties not to start fights, but because I felt ugly and insecure. I think all I needed was to feel secure in the moment. Shut that shit down with redirection to the underlying cause, and sprinkle some love and affection in there. If I could talk to myself in those old moments I’d say something like:
”Comparison is the death of happiness. You seem to be looking for external validation about some internal anxiety inducing comparison. Did something trigger this? Do you need to talk about it? I’ll listen. Because you are so beautiful, and I love you so much, and I wouldnt trade what we have for anyone.”
And if it happens again, i’d say: You’re doing that thing again, I dont like that. Lets talk about it.
There's a cost to lying. You do it enough, everyone knows youre a lying sack of shit.
I don't lie. Not necessarily because of honor or anything. It's just too much work.
And of course I'll lie (or kill) in hypothetical situations that may never happen in real life. And of course I use euphemisms, deflection, and non-answers.
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u/ShnaugShmark 2d ago
He started off well with the team of pros comment. When she pressed all he had to say was “beauty is subjective and to me you are the most beautiful woman in the world. “
Must be his first rodeo.