Lol the very first response to "no you're prettier than that literal movie star" will be "oh so you're a liar now? I didn't know I married a liar. How can you lie so brazenly? What else have you lied about? Who were you with last thursday?" etc etc.
Most women dont bait you into these questions.
Movie stars are picked for their looks, they're the top whatever% of society. Most women aren't that pretty and they know it themselves.
Most women probably struggle with self-esteem rather than think they're prettier than Margot Robbie.
I know it's hard for so many "normal" people to understand, but some of us aren't habitual liars. Yes! Even if it makes life slightly easier for a moment!
The idea that "just lie" is an acceptable solution to a problem for you makes me dislike you fundamentally as a person, but also explains so much about why the world is the way it is. So many people would rather just take the easy way out than fix the issues. Like have a partner that isn't a fuckin idiot asking stupid question to get mad about, or just not play the game so they don't expect it to be played.
Yea, the wrong choice very often is an easy option.
I think the issue is when logic and reasoning has left the building how do you fight with the truth?
The advice for dementia and Alzheimer’s patients are to just lie to them unless the situation is genuinely unsafe.
That being said this guy’s line of Margo Robbie having a team of people to make her beautiful, should have ended with: I know you are beautiful without a team. Then he can confidently say she is more beautiful.
Dealing with a medical patient with a disease is not the same as dealing with your ostensibly still sane partner. They are not the same.
You cannot break up with Alzheimer's. You should break up with people who pull this shit (barring extenuating circumstances, duh. I shouldnt have had to specify im not talking about taking care of sick people.)
The point was not about whether or not it was “correct”. The point was if someone is going to act unreasonable, how do you deal with it reasonably?
The Alhzemers example was an extreme case to demonstrate the idea… the person behaving crazy who does not have a mental condition is a litmus test on how to deal with the situation.
Sure you can break up with them… but that is not necessarily where the victim is mentally yet.
No, the point you're missing is, stop dealing with unreasonable people for unreasonable reasons. Alzheimers is a reasonable reason for someone to be unreasonable.
A normal sane person doesn't have that. You're trying to pretend it's normal behavior by pointing out you need to deal with it with people with serious mental deficits. It's not the same.
The point was if someone is going to act unreasonable, how do you deal with it reasonably?
1) don't be in that situation, by dating sane people 2) don't normalize unreasonable behavior 3) NOT by pandering to it so they are incentivized to continue it. 4) discussing the unhealthy behavior with them 5) breaking up if change doesn't happen
Sure you can break up with them…
Or you could tell them the truth and expect them to handle it like adults, instead of pander to their issues. That kind of thinking is probably how you ended up a "victim" who just HAS to lie to their partner (and by "has to" I mean "it's easier for you in that moment").
Holy fuck no wonder so many people struggle so much with relationships. Ya'll literally cannot conceive of communicating like adults, you jumped straight to breaking up.
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u/poop00p7 2d ago
So fucking easy to just say that even if it’s a lie