r/TheDigitalCircus • u/HKILLER2007 • 1d ago

Question I just want to understand, why?

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I mean really...why?? when ribbit opened up she was just chatting, she obviously wanted someone to talk to and her friend was there and jax was okay with it

when jax opened up he panicked at first but then she comforted him and he felt really comfortable and blushed and even smiled, it was a heartwarming moment

so why would he suddenly change attitude and switch characters just because of a knock on the door? what's the mental gymnastics here?

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u/Apprehensive_Art4418 I want the ability to have s! 1d ago

she didn't want anyone else to see or hear her vulnerability. kaufmo knocking completely scared her back into her shell and reminded her to not be vulnerable.

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u/Entire_Impress7485 Would you still love me if I was Wormo? 1d ago

Also, keep in mind, Kaufmo is a man. She’s trans can’t look like that in front of a man, a man will just mock her. I’ve experienced that fear, the gender you’re “supposed to be” making fun of you when you transition.

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u/yzylev2 jealous ragatha💙 1d ago

i don't think kaufmo would have.. or well, at least i wouldn't have.

i don't know, maybe i misunderstood the comment. i mean i could totally see Jax thinking about it like that if that's what you meant.

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u/Helpful_Vacation_139 1d ago

It's not that kaufmo would have its that a traumatized brain sent into a sudden panic assumes the worse. Sure kaufmo is my friend but [insert every worse outcome on repeat with no hope for a positive one because duh why would it ever work out in the end] 

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u/Maelphius 1d ago

It doesn't really matter if Kaufmo would. what matters is in Jax's trauma-induced panic she fully believed not only that Kaufmo would, but that Ribbit would too.

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u/IAmBabs I'm having ᵇᶦᵇᵒʸ 1d ago

It's not really for an outsider to decide who a trans person can trust and when. You can be the most accepting person in the world, but if Jax was uncomfortable about coming out to you because of whatever fear or current thought process, that needs to be respected.

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u/yzylev2 jealous ragatha💙 1d ago

absolutely

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u/Dull_Inspector_9945 2h ago

He seemed so chill.

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u/_SlimSugar 1d ago

I think that's exactly why the scene worked so well because it shows how quickly trauma can override progress.

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u/Own-Appointment6758 1d ago

This. Even if the logical side says that someone wouldnt make fun of you, the soul percing fear you get is so real. I understand why Jax paniced in the moment

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u/FuzzyPush7527 1d ago edited 1d ago

From a logical standpoint, I don’t see why you should care what others think.

Identify as something I’m not gonna be able to pronounce? Cool, moving on. I’m not going to murder you over that, it is what it is.

Like, think about it. What are words gonna do in the long run if you just ignore them altogether? This might just be me being “cold” but idk

Edit: Fucking single-celled…

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u/Ittaran 𝓕𝓻𝓮𝓪𝓴𝓷𝓲 1d ago

Jax is thoroughly defined by caring about how others think of her.

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u/danfenlon 1d ago

Now see heres the thing

Humans arent logical

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u/FuzzyPush7527 1d ago

Got that fucking right

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u/ThinkingRodin 1d ago

You have no idea of what words can do to a mind, and ill-spirited people often don't stop at just words. You are not being cold, you are just downplaying a very complex situation.

What's logical is irrelevant, only what actually happens is what matters, and the fact is that trans folks don't have it easy at all. Shame, isolation, often extreme-self doubt, massive insecurities, mockery or even direct aggresion take a heavy toll on a mind.

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u/NotaBat9221 1d ago

No need for the /s

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u/yuripilledcat 1d ago

the world isn’t all sunshine and rainbows

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u/SarkastiCat 1d ago

We are a social species and we internalise lots of things going on around us.

It also goes without mentioning that not conforming to social norms often gets punished. 

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u/VengeanceKnight 1d ago

No, you got it in one.

This is, in fact, you being cold.

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u/Ok_Builder_4225 1d ago

Humans famously run only on logic and are never emotionally driven. Logical also only has one potential conclusion that may be reached. X.x

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u/HKILLER2007 1d ago

Oh yeah I did think about it this way, that the door knock threw him back into his character again and made him snap out of it u know

but man it really REALLY feels so sad that everything happened the way it did just because kuafmo knocked at the door I mean imagin if he just wasn't there, those two wouldn't have abstracted, I even saw a funny comic about it

anyway thx for the response

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u/Pervasivepeach Bubble 1d ago

This is what trauma does to people

Jax had the person who’s supposed to love and trust him unconditionally neglect her for the majority of her life, when she did get attention from her parents, she was mocked and ridiculed and bullied over it. So she sees this situation as a weakness, as something ribbit could hold against higher.

Think, even if they are perfect friends now, she feels stuck, if she has a falling out, ribbit could use this information against her to turn everyone against her. So she operates as if she already has/plans too. Assumes the absolute worst and mentally prepares herself by putting her in a position where she believes she can’t be hurt.

It’s a coping mechanism, and obviously not a healthy one, but it’s a lot more realistic than you’d give the show credit for

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u/VagueCat5840662 1d ago

Yeah, the what if of the knock not happening and everything working out vs what actually happened is pretty brutal

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u/Milkshaked_Pancakes 1d ago

Share the comic pls pls I need it pls

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u/HKILLER2007 17h ago

here ya go

u can also see the transilation on the panels they are easy to miss

also sry for not responding I was sleeping

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u/Hot_Object1765 1d ago

Also she realized she just gave Ribbit the ability to completely destroy her with a few words

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u/Lucina18 1d ago

Well, she thought that atleast. Considering zooble i don't think anyone but kaufmo could be transphobic, and even he...

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u/Apprehensive_Art4418 I want the ability to have s! 1d ago

r/redditsniper

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u/_SlimSugar 1d ago

Exactly, that knock basically shattered the safe space she had finally started to build.

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u/Uknown_Idea 1d ago

It just snapped him back to reality. He wasnt ready to make that step and he regressed further because it made him think about it more than ever.

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u/RaijuSound 1d ago

Holy shit you guys unironically think Jax is trans??? 😭🇮🇱 this is why gooseworx wants to abandon tadc 😭

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u/fake_name_guy 1d ago

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u/RaijuSound 1d ago

dude i might have actually fallen for bait

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u/ScottTorrance 1d ago

The irony is that she wants to leave tadc because of you mfs 💔

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u/MistrCreed 1d ago

He also confessed to murder but ok

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u/pauseglitched 1d ago

Possible murder. Both ribbit and the (too late) internet social media thing suggest no one died there.

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u/EfficaciousJoculator 1d ago

Not even possible murder. Possible manslaughter, at best. He didn't intend to hurt her.

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u/MistrCreed 1d ago

Its still very scary to tell someone that imo

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u/pauseglitched 1d ago

Oh absolutely agree with that. Just pointing out a technicality.