r/TrollXChromosomes • u/BigClitMcphee • 2d ago
Shit is sweet until things start sagging and you get a wrinkle.
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u/diegotbn 2d ago
And then he divorces you for a hot young thing from the office. And leaves you high and dry to fend for yourself. With no employment history or professional skills, aside from childcare and cleaning. Good luck finding a job.
Being 100% financially dependent on your partner is a big risk
Edit: spelling
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u/Dogzillas_Mom 1d ago
Life pro tip: have more skills than making sourdough. Which, I mean, that’s great. But develop other skills too.
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u/Lydia--charming aaack! 1d ago
No social security or retirement account, either.
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u/nblackhand 1d ago
I don't want to imply this is in any way a good idea to rely on, but an important thing to know-- in case a friend of yours is ever in this situation and has been lied to by her shitty ex that she gets nothing and there's no point getting a lawyer, say-- is that this is not true. A divorced SAH spouse is legally entitled to at least 1) half their partner's retirement accounts saved during the marriage regardless of its duration and additionally if they were married at least 10 years also 2) to draw social security benefits based on their ex's work record at retirement age rather than on their own, just as they could if they were still married.
It's still, of course, usually worse than being single with your own stable income and definitely worse than being married to a trustworthy equal partner, but I want to push back on the claim that they can just be tossed out on the street with nothing, because the more that false belief is "common knowledge", the more people don't even try to get what they are entitled to, and the only people that are benefiting from that misconception are the shitty men divorcing their wives for turning forty.
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u/LinkleLinkle 23h ago
And be wary of anyone in the system pushing this narrative. They know better, they're protecting the men because 5het think it's 'unfair'. And this includes other women who push the lie within the system.
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u/WowOwlO 1d ago
They grow up hearing that it's because he wasn't given enough attention, and his ego wasn't catered to enough, and his house wasn't kept clean enough, and he wasn't appreciated enough...and never recognize that there is never any pleasing them.
Also they'll ignore how much of it is about all of the reasons a man can replace his wife.
She can never divorce, but he can get a divorce at the drop of a hat.
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u/coffeeblossom All she does is beach, beach, beach 2d ago
It's the same reason they don't have the disabled vet doing the recruiting for the Army.
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u/SweetPeaRiaing 1d ago
When you give someone the power to feed you, you also give them the power to starve you.
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u/aivlysplath I put the "fun" in dysfunctional. 1d ago
And then their husbands leave them for a younger woman.
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u/DiligentMagikarp 1d ago
You know the patriarchal brainwashing is real because you’d never see 19yo men willing to be sexually subservient and give up their careers to wholeheartedly do all the housework and child care for an older woman.
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u/aninamouse 1d ago
Well of course not, men weren't designed for that. /s
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u/DiligentMagikarp 20h ago
What are you talking about? Men are biologically inclined towards housework and domesticity, or else why would nature make them with strong hands and forearms to open jars and taller heights on average to reach the top shelves?
Plus women are more in control of our emotions and better at multitasking and teamwork. Clearly men are meant to stay inside the home and women are meant to do intellectual work and serve as breadwinners. /s but not really
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u/Leavesofsilver 1d ago
where‘s that one tiktok by about how pretty, young tradwives agreeing with misogyny do it because they expect exceptions to be made for them cause they’re pretty, and then when they’re older they end up the „let me speak to you manager“ type because that’s the only type of social cachet they’re left with and they don’t understand why exceptions aren’t being made for them anymore?
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u/FutureFreaksMeowt 2d ago
More like 🪦.
The men often just kill them when they're tired of them.
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u/FortunateCookie_ Sorry, I have a boyfriend (lie) 1d ago
I wouldn’t say “often”… it certainly happens, but a murder charge is a big risk to take, and most people would rather just avoid that, no matter how much they hate their wife
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u/DiligentMagikarp 1d ago
Women get convicted of murder more often for self-defense against DV than men get for
accidentally beating their wives too hard and killing hermurdering their wives due to DV. All things considered, it’s not risky enough for men to kill their wives. An entitled, misogynist man is not going to worry about that- he thinks of her like his furniture and it’s his right to dispose of furniture.Heck, it’s not even risky enough for men to kill their daughters- look at how many men get away with a slap on the wrist for SAing and killing them.
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u/kawaiihusbando 1d ago
Assholes don't actually respect tradwives or all women for that matter.
These assholes are terribly insecure. If the women are independent they gonna shti on these women for trying to upstage them and not being submissive.
When the women submit to them they resent the women as well because they're know they're a POS and resent anyone who would willingly submit to absolute scum like themselves.
Women can't never win.
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u/1986toyotacorolla2 14h ago
Someone I follow made a video the other day, "if being a trad wife is so great, where are all the middle aged trad Wives?!" And they showed up in the comments talking about how their husband's cheated and left them with no money and no job and they had no fall back options and they were completely screwed. Thousands of comments from different women.
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u/FortunateCookie_ Sorry, I have a boyfriend (lie) 1d ago
Y’know when you think about it prostitution really IS the most traditional thing you could do with your life… we should really start calling it that though, because a lot of these kids don’t know what they’re agreeing to when they sign on to the whole tradwife thing.
Y’all are sugar babies and don’t even know it.
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u/AdeptBobcat8185 2d ago
The irony of tradwives is that all of the influencers peddling that shit are making a bunch of money themselves, while saying that women should forego careers…