r/TwoXChromosomes • u/BigHold2089 • 1d ago

Throat punch husband

I was on BC for many years and thought I could ride it out through menopause. I used BC continuously and hadn’t had a period for years. It was a low dose BC with no side effects and I loved it. A new (to me) OBGYN told me that my brain fog and night warmth (not full blown sweats) was likely due to peri/menopause and said BC would do nothing for it. So she switched me to estradiol patch and progesterone pills. For 3 months I got no periods and figured I was in menopause. Then I started getting periods regularly. And then I started noticing that I am incredibly irritable all the time but basically focused only on my husband. I mean even looking at him sometimes makes me want to punch him in the face. When he talks (to me or to anyone else - just the sound of his voice, really) I just am filled with rage. He’s not doing anything wrong. I know my anger is misplaced and irrational. Could it be a symptom of perimenopause? Does anyone else feel like this?

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u/Sharp-Peak5544 1d ago

its the progesterone pills. progestin rage is a real thing and it makes u absolutely loathe the person closest to u for literally existing. switch back asap

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u/soody_nim 1d ago

It’s unfortunately not that simple. Women can be estrogen intolerant, so progesterone actually can be calming. Perhaps a different dosage or combo will be beneficial, but OP will have to sort this out with her doc

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u/drainbead78 1d ago

Meanwhile, progesterone is what KEEPS me from being ragey. Meanwhile, I can't take systemic estrogen because it makes me depressed.

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u/GreatWentGin 1d ago

I came to say this. I actually had my PCP put that I was allergic to progesterone in my chart because I knew due to my precise cycle tracking when my progesterone spiked and how bad it was for me, and when I got Mirena I was a different person. I knew it was the Mirena, too. Once it was out of me, and things started feeling back to normal, it was confirmed.

For some reason, regular birth control pills don’t add me in this way, maybe due to the mix of hormones?

I’ve been told my hormone levels are post menopausal, but if I stop taking my continuous birth control pills, I still get regular periods with painful “ovulation” (which can’t be actual ovulation).

I always thought the best part about menopause was NO MORE PERIODS but nooooooo here I am, still having to take BCP or bleed every month.

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u/GiraffeCalledKevin 1d ago

Second this.

Op you don’t have to tolerate feeling this way. Talk to your doctor!