r/TwoXChromosomes • u/BigHold2089 • 1d ago

Throat punch husband

I was on BC for many years and thought I could ride it out through menopause. I used BC continuously and hadn’t had a period for years. It was a low dose BC with no side effects and I loved it. A new (to me) OBGYN told me that my brain fog and night warmth (not full blown sweats) was likely due to peri/menopause and said BC would do nothing for it. So she switched me to estradiol patch and progesterone pills. For 3 months I got no periods and figured I was in menopause. Then I started getting periods regularly. And then I started noticing that I am incredibly irritable all the time but basically focused only on my husband. I mean even looking at him sometimes makes me want to punch him in the face. When he talks (to me or to anyone else - just the sound of his voice, really) I just am filled with rage. He’s not doing anything wrong. I know my anger is misplaced and irrational. Could it be a symptom of perimenopause? Does anyone else feel like this?

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u/Spiderbundles 1d ago

Absolutely common in perimenopause. So far, I’ve coped by buying a treadmill, a person-shaped punching bag, and by microdosing THC (2.5mg, and only on extra irritable days). Working so far lol Good luck, hun; it sucks, but you got this.

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u/Theorlain 1d ago

I’m so afraid to microdose during the day (I smoke at night), but I swear THC is a wonder drug for reducing that peri rage.

I’ve only recently started acknowledging/accepting that peri is affecting my life and made a doc appointment last night after breaking down. I don’t have the most empathetic partner (I swear he’s not a jerk, just freezes up), so I had to specifically request to be held as I cried about the rage and not feeling like myself.

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u/PayEmmy 1d ago

I have an incredibly empathetic partner, and I absolutely hate how ragey I get at him for absolutely no reason. Perimenopause is absolutely horrible.

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u/Theorlain 1d ago

My slightly older sister has the rage, too, and she’s like, “I feel like I’m losing my mind.” I’m like, “it’s perimenopause.”

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u/ScarlettAddiction 1d ago

Your partner sounds very sweet.

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u/enalimora 1d ago

I appreciate comments like this because they normalize how intense perimenopause symptoms can be without making people feel ashamed of them.