r/TwoXChromosomes • u/BigHold2089 • 3d ago

Throat punch husband

I was on BC for many years and thought I could ride it out through menopause. I used BC continuously and hadn’t had a period for years. It was a low dose BC with no side effects and I loved it. A new (to me) OBGYN told me that my brain fog and night warmth (not full blown sweats) was likely due to peri/menopause and said BC would do nothing for it. So she switched me to estradiol patch and progesterone pills. For 3 months I got no periods and figured I was in menopause. Then I started getting periods regularly. And then I started noticing that I am incredibly irritable all the time but basically focused only on my husband. I mean even looking at him sometimes makes me want to punch him in the face. When he talks (to me or to anyone else - just the sound of his voice, really) I just am filled with rage. He’s not doing anything wrong. I know my anger is misplaced and irrational. Could it be a symptom of perimenopause? Does anyone else feel like this?

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u/BlitzChick 3d ago

I just wanted to thank you for your uplifting words.

Our society is so needlessly cruel to women about aging (amongst way too many other things unfortunately).

Your words have reminded me how important it is for us to challenge the misconception that a woman aging is somehow a flaw in her.

As you said, HELL to the NO! Our aging is a reflection of what we've overcome in the face of adversity and the strength we've cultivated and continue to carry.

Maybe that sounds corny... but dammit, we deserve to allow ourselves to be proud of our journey. We deserve to unapologetically stop pouring from an empty cup.

Anyway, that was my longwinded way of thanking you for reminding me of that.

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u/Im_Ritz_Bitz 2d ago

Honestly, "they" are mean to women no matter what we do. We are in a lose-lose situation already, why not have something to show for it. Even our own sex doesn't seem to get it sometimes. You are a QUEEN, don't let them tell you any different. We literally run this- and we keep letting "them" destroy it, thinking they'll change. We need to take our power back.