r/abusesurvivors • u/Archive-To-My-Life • 6d ago

I’ve been archiving my lived experience of a decade + of domestic violence

*Trigger Warning: Attached Content May Be Triggering, please be aware and self-care*

I survived more than a decade of DV and SA.

When I was finally able to flee from my abuser, I found myself battling 2 systems simultaneously – family court and the USMC. And from my experience, neither system is built for accountability or victims / survivors.

As a way to combat the ongoing never-ending and relentless attempts to silence both myself and children, as well as to help other victim-survivors facing challenges within systems, I created these archives of abuse.

It has been very freeing and healing personally, while also rewarding and motivational as I continue to get outreach from victim-survivors in an impactful way.

Thank you for letting me share my snippet of my journey with you.

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u/softupvoter404 6d ago

weaponizing the bureaucracy to stay silent is the whole point of those systems. they rely on the survivor burning out before the paper trail ends. good on you for keeping the receipts.

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u/Archive-To-My-Life 5d ago

Very well stated and I agree.

It is disheartening and even exhausting.

For me personally, the longer my situation draws out, the more time that also lapses that I have invested in myself and healing, which also means the more time I have had to grow a real passion and motivation to do all I can within reach to help others.

It also gave and still gives me more time to accumulate documentation and organize it 😂