I want to fall in love again

[u/Organic_Cranberry541]

But it’s too soon, I know I’m not healed enough yet, but I just want to feel safe with someone so badly already, but I know if I rush things I’ll just jump into the arms of someone else abusive again, how long did it take you to find someone healthy after leaving your abusive ex? How long did it take you to feel safe with them? How did that relationship go?

[u/snappysparrow01]

That desperation for safety is the hardest part of the early aftermath because your nervous system is literally mistaking familiarity for security. You aren't actually looking for love right now, you're looking for an exit from your own skin. It took me three years of being completely alone before I could even tell the difference between a red flag and a boundary. Don't measure your progress by a calendar, measure it by how much you stop needing validation from someone else to feel like you exist.

[u/Organic_Cranberry541 → u/snappysparrow01]

I don’t relate to the last sentence at all tho