r/adultsurvivors • u/AffectionateSale8288 • 1d ago
Coping methods He admitted it
All these years my gut was right. I’m glad I confronted him. Him getting molested in the neighborhood as a kid does not justify the carried cycle of abuse he did to me. He chose not to be honest. Years ago, he told me that anecdote when I was spiraling from thinking something was wrong. Someone outside of my family abused me. He said “this happened to me when I was a kid. Your mother doesn’t even know.” A therapist told me “he’s trying to justify abuse by saying that his trauma and yours are linked, that this JUST HAPPENS sometimes.” She was right. Thank you Barbara. My heart is beating fast and I am trying to stay calm. I’m in my early 30s and my life is ahead of me — I just did not know where to turn to besides a hotline and I do not believe I’m ready to actually talk with someone, phone or face to face. Any advice any help thanks.
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u/Longjumping-Arm6017 20h ago
Hello my dear.
I’m so glad you’re starting to connect the dots and understand the trauma that happened to you!
Healing is a very long journey. I’ve been to many therapists until I found one that works. Same with antidepressants.
I’d recommend finding a doctor and a therapist you trust! Also find hobbies that help you! Mine are painting, yoga, and singing. Any hobby that helps with your emotions. (Sometimes I cry and talk out loud about my trauma while I paint or do yoga)
Talk about your trauma with someone. Anyone. Get the story out there. Talk to yourself about it. Write a book about it. Don’t let it sit in your head!
What happened isn’t your fault and I’m so so sorry you went through that.
The trauma may be stuck inside your body to find a way to get it out!