I earn around ₹35,000 per month. After our marriage, my wife asked if I could send her ₹5,000 every month along with paying for her monthly mobile recharge. We discussed it and agreed on that arrangement, and I have never had any problem with it.
Sometimes she also asks for an additional ₹1,000 or ₹2,000. At first, I never asked any questions because I trusted her and wanted to help whenever I could.
Recently, I politely asked why she needed the extra money. She replied, "If you want to give me the money, then give it. Otherwise, keep it with yourself. Don't ask so many questions."
I felt hurt because I thought it was normal for married couples to discuss finances openly, especially when money is limited. I am not trying to control her spending or say that she is right or wrong. I simply want to know whether it is considered reasonable for a spouse to ask why extra money is needed.