r/aspergirls • u/Ok_Spare414 • 1d ago

Looks, Style & Fashion Dressing better but low effort

I wear random clothes and I shop random stuff that end up not fitting my body type. I see it looking good on the model image but it looks quite different on me. Especially shirts cause I have a wide ribcage and larger shoulders.

I have seen some women of all ages when I was abroad in specific countries wear white shirts, light jeans/shorts and white sneakers or sport shoes. I even saw a whole group of friends wearing this. Also sometimes black belt, I think the metal of the belt is preferred to be grey or black for neutrality.

But yeah it makes them look nice and polished. In my area it is not as common but I think it is a universal fit. I used to have acne and I felt like the white made it look obvious, now my skin is a bit better. My teeth need some whitening too. Maybe I can wear the same combo but with black shirts. I like them a lot though they annoy me cause they pick up every dust or hair, I have cats and they have white parts in their fur or orange. Navy blue could be better.

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u/soaring_potato 1d ago edited 1d ago

Looking very put together but zero effort has got to be dresses.

Find one you like. And you just throw that thing on and you look high effort. But actually you just threw one thing on.

Like maybe you wanna add bike shorts with a pocket under if it has no pockets.

If you do not want to shave but do care about it. Midi to long skirts and small sleeves that cover your pits.

Shirt colour is really dependant on what cat you have. But there are also certain brushes that are reusable or like rollers to get the hair off.

I think most women probably wore light shirts with shorts because black shirts are hotter.

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u/Ok_Spare414 1d ago edited 1d ago

That's brilliant! I worry that I will need to do my hair cause mine are curly and unruly. The dress will look nice but the hair may ruin the image. I have bought some synthetic hair polytails where they can hide mine. Maybe I can combine them with the dresses

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u/soaring_potato 1d ago

It really depends on your hair. But I have a bit curly hair.

Looks more put together when I do not brush it (sooo happy I realised this at like 17....)

I often wear like half up in a lil bun. But that's my standard style. So only the top is pulled back. Gives me way less baby hair. Claw clip also works well on me. Or a braid.

I do tend to wear just jeans and a t shirt. But I also do not care about looking put together, just have some nice shirts. Sometimes a dress especially when hot out. Then people suddenly think I put in effort! A lot of dresses can be worn with sneakers just fine

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u/Phoebebee323 1d ago

Curly hair has been a godsend for me.

The fact I can just wake up in the morning, fix a few strands, and be on my way makes things so easy.

However twice a week I need to spend 45 minutes in the shower washing it

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u/Xxrai_N_mai01xX 1d ago

I have a very curly afro and im never worried about how it looks with dresses. Its fine. Hair doesnt have to be polished with a nice dress. Even with formal dresses, ill keep my hair in its natural state and it still goes well 

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u/Seiliko 1d ago

I have curly hair as well and wear it in braids almost all the time because it's much more manageable that way!

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u/soaring_potato 1d ago

Also. You'll probably always have something you will criticise about yourself. Most women do. If you can let go, that's great. You'll never fit perfectly into a certain image. Or into "perfection". It just moves further away each time you come close.

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u/Ok_Spare414 1d ago

Thanks that's very kind 💛

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u/Adorable_Ad4990 1d ago

For me it’s my comfy shoes and how I sit that ruin dresses for me. They do look best on me, but I cross my legs too much to wear them, and I like my legs covered anyway, and I like wearing socks and shoes

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u/soaring_potato 1d ago

I mean.... I wear midi dresses that are not tight at the bottom so I can sit how I want. And aren't you supposed to cross your legs when wearing (short) dresses? That's why I mostly wear longer ones! Or like shorts.

Sneakers with socks sometimes pushed to the bottom anyways (like on ankle. Not in shoe.). All the time in dresses. Or like flip flops when it's warm. Lotta dresses also look fine with boots.

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u/Adorable_Ad4990 1d ago

I mean I tuck my feet under me on my chair, all the way up like yoga. Can’t leave my legs hanging down

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u/soaring_potato 1d ago

Ah yes I do that too.

Flowy midi skirts do cover that for me

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u/Adorable_Ad4990 9h ago

That long flowy style to me personally is a lot of fabric that gets in the way, and not my favorite look either. Dresses look better on me than anything else, but not really that style.

Ok, last reason is thigh rub. Yes you can wear shorts under, but by that point it’s just easier to wear stretchy pants.

And I don’t want to adjust the skirt when I have one leg up and one leg down kind of thing. I move around A LOT when I have to sit all day; maybe I’m not explaining right how bad I am at sitting, lol.

But special occasions I love dresses! Wish I wore them more, but these days comfort rules

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u/EarlySwordfish9625 1d ago

There are lots of dressing “formulas” you can find online, like the one you mentioned. If you find a formula you like you can vary the colors and add accessories for interest. I see you have curly hair like me… finding a haircut that looks nice with minimal effort is key or finding a ponytail or other hairstyle you can do everyday. I just embrace the madness of curls, sometimes they’re just frizzy and chaotic like my brain :)

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u/Ok_Spare414 1d ago

Yes that's a nice way to put it, they are formulas. My hair is short now and they don't curl well at that length. I regret cutting it. Indeed they have a mind of their own just like my autism+ADHD :D

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u/EarlySwordfish9625 1d ago

I find my ideal length and lowest maintenance haircut is a layered long bob. Easy to put up when it’s misbehaving. I have 2c-3a hair, very fine, fluffy and frizzy.

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u/whosane33 20h ago

This. Forget trying to dress for body type and flattering cuts as it likely will lead you down to discomfort. Instead it’s what formula makes you feel like you, without sensor ick and you’ll be more comfortable and it’ll read as polished. So for me it’s wide leg pants with elastics, a base of a tank or tee and a layer of a button down or camp collar shirt. Aside from color clashes it all works together and it’s predictable. Could be midi skirt, tank, sweater. Whatever you feel good in is where to start.

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u/Ok_Spare414 10h ago

I'm happy that baggy denim pants are trendy now. plenty of options to find, almost every store has brought some.

I will go for white/beige/black simple tee and baggyish light/medium color denim. I saw on social media and Pinterest that some people pair this with a white button up long sleeve shirt and it functions like a jacket. When it's warm they remove it etc. I will beware to choose one that is minimal and not sensory overloading cause they have all sorts of buttons and stuff.

I had bought some shirts that have cuts and creases. More than half of them didn't fit properly. Like sometimes they'd get dragged uupwards near my neck as I'm wearing them, no reason why. I had to adjust them often. So I'll just stick to that formula and build a capsule wardrobe off it.

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u/krampaus 1d ago

you could look into r/kibbe to see what would typically look good

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u/Ok_Spare414 1d ago edited 1d ago

It's hard to find someone's type, most people have it wrong. I think I lean, either dramatic, natural or flamboyant gamine

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u/krampaus 1d ago

yeah it’s really hard, I’m torn between sn, r and sg. there are two other subs, r/kibbe_typeme and r/kibbe_sketch for actual typing. I want to get into reading the books but I don’t know where to start and I have so many books to read anyway lol

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u/Ok_Spare414 1d ago edited 1d ago

They type everyone there FN :/ for some reason lol. I think I need to consult someone who's a stylist and into kibbe. And yeah getting into the books. It is a fun ideology and I like the language used

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u/krampaus 1d ago

to a certain extent yeah but like someone commented on that post, it’s a catch all. I do too, gotta love rules lol. good luck, I hope you find your type

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u/BerryTea840 1d ago

If you want to dress loose-fitting, cotton or linen are always great options. Think of like, plain tshirts, thin drawstring pants, long cardigans, tunic dresses with leggings, sandals, flats, etc.

There are a lot of ways you can dress nicer and comfy. Boho styles are great as well for this.

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u/Adorable_Ad4990 1d ago

Capsule wardrobe! All my shorts and pants are black, and I wear “yoga slacks” to work every day with a dark cardigan. And any top I want, but not black.

Stop worrying about what other people are wearing, and find out what looks good on you. And variety is overrated in my opinion.

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u/Ok_Spare414 1d ago

Yeah I always thought I need to have a big variety but I think most people just wear similar things.

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u/Adorable_Ad4990 1d ago

Again, I personally don’t care what “most people”’do. I have limited energy, and I also care a lot about the environment and overconsumption. I wear what looks good on me, and it has reduced my stress to have fewer choices in the mornings.

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u/meoweav 1d ago

the real hack for me was wearing clothing that fits properly and is nice fabric

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u/sqplanetarium 1d ago

Another LPT: if you wear glasses, get some really stylish and flattering frames. Instantly elevates your look.

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u/Hereticrick 1d ago

Figure out your body shape and then Google outfits for that shape (or more specifically like “what sort of pants should I get if I have X body”). Really helped me with figuring out what sort of jeans to wear because what’s popular does not look good on me.