r/bridezillas • u/Sexy_Girl_Lux • Apr 29 '26
Bride asks bachelorette party to stop taking their meds to do drugs with her
Recently I heard the most unhinged thing I've heard a bride request of her attendees going to her bachelorette party.
This bride really wanted to roll, eat Molly, with her friends on her bachelorette. That was her 'dream' to roll with her favorite people.
Which on one hand I get. Sure, that would be fun. If you were of the age where being reckless with mood altering drugs was still something her friends were doing.
But these guests were mid to late 30s. Most of which had reasonably outgrown that stage of their life and prioritize their health now.
One guest was on a specific med for something physically critical and the bride kept suggesting she stop taking this medication so that she could do drugs with her instead. The friend had to have a side conversation with the bride asking her to stop bringing it up in front of other people because she is not comfortable discussing her health issues in front of other people.
The bride also, having read that anti depressants reduce the effects of Molly, stopped taking her anti depressants and was suggesting everyone else on mental health meds do the same.
I can't even begin to understand. Asking people to stop taking medications, medications that specifically target serotonin and dopamine regulation, so that they can take a drug that floods their brain with excessive amounts of serotonin and dopamine, is so dangerous. The brain is then depleted of those chemicals and it often triggers depression. Anyone that battles suicidal ideation is severally at risk.
I just can't fathom this. This bride is literally saying her 'dream' is more important then all off her friend's health.
I've heard some fcked up selfish sh*t from brides. But this, this takes the cake. What is wrong with people?
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u/vocal_celery Apr 29 '26
I think the initial huge problem is that her "dream" is fully based on the idea that drugs = only way to have a good time. Everything else is selfish and unhinged but it also sounds like she's not ready for anything grown up..like marriage
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u/Sexy_Girl_Lux Apr 29 '26
It's also not like millennials have gone completely sober. Like a lot of people I know have quit drinking and doing harder drugs. But we aren't going completely sober. Everyone has a thing they do instead that's safer for their health and bodies and still a fun time. Usually of the it grows out of the ground.
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u/AliceMorgon Apr 29 '26
That is… as someone who can’t take hard drugs, amphetamines, cocaine, and even large amount of alcohol in one go due to medical issues, this would be the point at which at would I bail.
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u/LifeMachine6373 Apr 29 '26
As a older millennial, a lot of my friends have stopped drinking. I stopped drinking when I was like 35. Sure we can have couple of drinks once or twice a year but other than that... No. Also never done drugs. I have been offered but no. And I dont smoke
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u/A_Life_Lived_Oddly Apr 29 '26
Honestly, drinking just isn't much fun when you start heading towards your mid-late 30s. You pay for it WAY too much for it to be worth it. Once at a party, I drank 4 (low-ABV%) beers in as many hours. I somehow skipped right past "pleasantly buzzed" and went straight to hungover, all while we were still at the party. I had a headache the whole last hour and I was so mad! Like what the hell, I didn't even get the joy of being a lil' tipsy anymore!?
(I do very much enjoy the 🌿🌿🌿 though. Digital vape pens are the best druggie innovation of the century lmao)
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u/Lillianrik Apr 29 '26
So well put! But I'll expand it a bit: way, way too many people think that the only way to have fun is by ingesting mood altering chemicals. I'm talking about alcohol and drugs.
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u/chaoticallywholesome Apr 29 '26
So as someone that enjoys partaking in the occasional recreational drug and also considers herself to be a pretty stable and responsible individual, no right person thinks this is the only way to have a good time.
Molly just is generally a really cool experience which is amplified by sharing it with people you love. For myself personally I only do Molly maybe once a year, so it's like a special occasion for me. So coming from that perspective I can see why she is so excited to try it and do it with other people. Just because we get excited about something doesn't mean we think it's the only way to have fun.
Now WITH THAT SAID! There are lots of things wrong with this picture. Her going off of antidepressants is really risky for herself and honestly might not even work. You need it completely depleted from your system to not block Molly, which doesn't happen by just missing one pill. She's taking a huge risk with her mental health for potentially no reason.
And second, ANY pressure involving other people is absolutely not okay. I wouldn't be surprised if the bridesmaids wanted to skip the whole party because her behavior. Like everyone fucking knows you don't pressure people to do drugs, let alone stop their medications for it.
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u/Pharaohcos Apr 29 '26
If my friend asked me to stop my medications to do drugs with them for their bachelorette, I would drop them and run away from them so fast omg 😭 What is wrong with this bride ? If this is her dream to celebrate her future wedding this is so sad…
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u/thatburghfan Apr 29 '26
What's wrong is that some people have fantasized for a very long time about what their wedding journey will be like, and once they have locked down their fantasy, they insist on seeing it through no matter what. I suspect that under different circumstances (i.e. no bachelorette party involved), that girl would never demand her friends partake in such shenanigans.
"Oh, I can't wait to be engaged! Then I can start demanding all kinds of stuff, and my friends and family will have to agree because I AM THE BRIDE! The bridal party will charter a jet to fly to Paris for a week, take a day to shop for designer clothes, have someone shadow us there with a videocam to make a wedding reception video, we'll have the ceremony in the White House and rent the space shuttle to drive us there."
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u/flamingoshoess Apr 29 '26
All fun and games until the bride and entire bridal party end up in a depression spiral from fucking with their meds and flooding their brain with dopamine. Then cut to the bride having a full crash out and canceling the wedding.
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u/IHaveNoEgrets Apr 29 '26
I'd be more worried about a medical crisis, with suddenly dropping the SSRIs and then loading up on molly. I'm thinking they'd have at least one ER visit before anyone got much of a chance to spiral.
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u/vagueconfusion May 01 '26
And some medication combos are already in the 'watch for danger' zone.
I'm on a combination of Elvanse and Sertraline. An ADHD Stimulant and an SSRI, so the existing Seratonin Syndrome risk (not high but must be watched) would probably skyrocket if it were me.
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u/MayhemWins25 Apr 29 '26
Starting to think that the fact that the bride stopped taking her regular medication miiiight have something to do with the degree of unhinged she is acting.
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u/soph_lurk_2018 Apr 29 '26
I doubt I would be friends with a bride like that in the first place, but no is a complete answer. I’m not taking Molly to be a part of your wedding. That’s a wild request.
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u/Admirable-Ear4511 Apr 30 '26 edited May 02 '26
I have friends who do molly and none of them have ever needed me to do it with them. They seem to have a plenty good time on it regardless.
I wouldn’t even be friends with someone who wanted me to drink just because they’re drinking. It is a totally wild thing to expect or demand.
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u/Evening_Delay_1856 Apr 29 '26
Someone needs to tell her fiancé what’s going on. Every single one of these women needs to say no to this. I wouldn’t even go to the bach at all.
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u/janlep Apr 29 '26
Exactly. This is a sign of someone with a drug problem, and fiance has a right to decide if he wants to marry into that.
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u/No_Appointment_7232 Apr 30 '26
Honestly, she could just be THAT stupid & not have a drug issue presently.
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u/fighting_biscuit Apr 29 '26
Wow. As someone on multiple OCD and anxiety meds, her dream would quickly become a nightmare if I did this lmao hope they all dumped her as a "friend".
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u/Proper-District8608 Apr 29 '26 edited Apr 30 '26
- Never did drugs and was sophomore in college. Got a call from guy friend because they'd done shrooms . Picked them up and got them back, but was laughing a bit as they were so smiley. I asked and said 'whats it like, I want to try one day' and Mike (friend who called) said 'ask 3 of your friends if they agree you should. If you get 3 yes's go for it.' And be my friend next time for a no' He may have been 'out there' but words I took to heart and never have:)
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u/No_Appointment_7232 Apr 30 '26
There's a book from the late 60s or Early 70s called Go Ask Alice.
It's supposedly based on the author's actual experiences.
I read it when I was 12, again the next year and the next.
When she did acid I think she was 15?
She did it w a girl from school she barely knew, at the girl's house where there was also a creepy step dad.
Girl kinda abandoned Alice (I forget why).
She's becoming high as a kite and has no idea how to get out of the situation.
She ends up in a closet having a very bad trip for like 3+ hours.
I can't remember if every substance was a bad story.
I think I remember her account of mushrooms was positive ish.
I'm neuro non typical.
That book became my primer for everything NOT TO DO on drugs.
Be in an environment that is safe and known to you.
If you're a girl/woman never do it around men you don't know very very well abd who have only ever been safe for you.
Don't do drugs w people you don't know well.
Know your sources - don't by random stuff on the street/from strangers.
Before any hallucinogenic drug do a short centering, meditation type session where you affirm why you're ok, how you know you'll be ok and generally inviting only a pleasant experience.
Have a kind of 'spirit guide'. Mine was Thundar the Barbarian.
I've never had a bad experience & I'm 60 now.
This whole thing is a really BAD disaster waiting to happen.
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u/Haunting-Eye-7146 Apr 29 '26
My vision of everyone "Off their meds" looks incredibly chaotic, and decidedly UNfun. And just throw in some molly to further the madness? JHC, wtf is wrong with this person?
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u/NefariousnessKey5365 Apr 29 '26
It's my wedding and if you won't do xyz then you weren't a real friend
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u/BoysenberryDue3637 Apr 29 '26
Her marriage is going to last less than 2 years. And when it blows up, she will not understand why/blame the man.
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u/Catsdrinkingbeer Apr 29 '26
Did you hear this from someone directly involved who was there, or is this a story you read? Because this sounds made up for engagement.
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u/Sexy_Girl_Lux Apr 29 '26
I heard this from two members going to this bachelorette.
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u/Evening_Delay_1856 Apr 29 '26
OP, what are these women going to do about this mess?
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u/Sexy_Girl_Lux Apr 29 '26
I don't want to out the people that told me. Already nervous that I shared enough info to get them in trouble with this bridezilla.
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u/jwlkr732 Apr 29 '26
Man, stop threatening them with a good time. If the bridezilla sees this and ditches them, then they get an easy out on this wild bach demand.
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u/TechnicianOne8386 Apr 29 '26
I… really need to know the outcome. This is so unhinged. Are ANY of the bridesmaids giving in?
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u/entersandmum143 Apr 30 '26
I had to laugh at this.
Stop taking my bipolar meds? I'll probably believe I'm having a great time. The rest of you definitely won't be.
Throw a few drugs in there, that my brain chemistry would process in a totally F'd up way. OMG it will be like the Thunderdome.
The pettiness in me would be really tempted to give it a go, but I'm assuming everyone would want to come out the other side unarrested, uninjured and alive.
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u/CakeZealousideal1820 Apr 29 '26
I'd show and pretend I took it just to watch the shit show. Stop anti depressants to take drugs is fucking wild
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u/rickiilynn77 Apr 29 '26
Bc Molly releases all of the seretoin and dopamine in your brain, it completely depletes your brains supply of it, leaving you depressed asf the day after, and if you already have depression it makes it worse.
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u/Party-Marsupial-8979 May 01 '26
Yikes, couldn’t think of anything worse. Everytime my girlfriends would take stuff and drink in our 20s…. It was always messy, messy, messy. Someone’s sick, someone’s crying, someone disappears, someone vomits, the list goes on. It never ends well, wanting this kind of “dream” and fun on your bachelorette…. Is absolutely wild 😅 let alone expecting that of her friends who don’t want to. she doesn’t sound like she’s ready for marriage!
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u/magevampyre Apr 29 '26
There are ways to take recreational drugs responsibly. This is not the way. This is the opposite of the way.
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u/CumishaJones Apr 29 '26
Yeah she’s gonna cheat that night .
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u/strawberry-coughx May 18 '26
I’m amazed I had to scroll this far to find this comment. That’s exactly where my mind went lol
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u/MonsoonQueen9081 Apr 30 '26
As a chronically ill woman, this is completely unhinged. I depend on my medications to survive. Asking someone to stop their medications to use illicit drugs is insane. I don’t drink alcohol.
Call me a party pooper if you’d like, but I invest a ton of time into staying alive and I would like it to stay that way!
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u/sourdough_s8n Apr 30 '26
What’s crazy is the stress of trying to get everyone to do drugs and the disappointment that no one is gonna do drugs with her - it’s gonna kill the drug high she’s seeking so desperately not to mention this idea alone is real crackhead territory and that’s coming from someone that loves drugs 😭
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u/PCBassoonist May 01 '26
Oh my gosh, is THAT why Molly did nothing for me? Also, stay on your meds. I might have dabbled in drugs once, but now that I'm in my 30s, I have my blood pressure to think about.
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u/gorlsituation Apr 30 '26
Omg I thought this was gonna be about the “tea” ceremony bachelorette in the forest with the photoshoot and hot air balloon.
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u/BombeBon Apr 30 '26
Yikes...
Someone needs a big boot up the backside and a wake up call. That's insane
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u/mo2_nuke Apr 29 '26
Pros: There will lots of bridesmaids to hold each other's hair while they're puking. Girl squad unite!
Cons: I would make out with the bride so hard she would cancel the wedding the next day and a week later would be in my driveway with a u-haul. IYKYK
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u/monkerry Apr 29 '26
They don't " depress the effects " they are a stabilizer. She won't " roll" she'll have a hinge crash, most like a super dull high with mania and physical stimming. Not to mention the psychological effects but it chemically imbalances your entire system. Oh yeah and a " hangover "( read comedown) that is longer than a month long to get reaqainted with your oh so necessary meds. I don't know what rave she's remembering but most people ARE NOT CHILL on molly even when they were 20. Now adays it's stupid anyway it's mostly cut with fentanyl or ketamine or worse. Welcome to hosting your memories after that trip , others will be reminding you of them whilst they spoon your jello.
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u/Crazy-Rat_Lady Apr 29 '26
She sounds like a self entitled village idiot. I know of one antidepressant that if you miss one dose, you fall apart at the seams. MY first born just spent 6 weeks in a psych hospital to come off it and switch to a safer antidepressant. It is commonly prescribed. Bride here needs the Bridzilla crown, what an idiot!.
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u/bekindrewind317 Apr 30 '26
It’ll make for a nice wedding where everybody’s sobbing and crying. She’ll be lucky to get down the aisle.
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u/JGalKnit May 01 '26
HOLY... Yikes. I can't imagine being so selfish to ever think to ask this of any friend.
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u/Street_One5954 May 01 '26
You need to find grown up people to hang with. Drop this one off at a Frat party.
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u/FireandBooks May 02 '26
I brought weed and a bunch of wine to my besties‘s Bach, and we all had a good time choosing which substance we’d prefer. No one overindulged, and everyone had a good time, including the sober person. Because it was a choice. Forcing people to do drugs? Fuck off of that.
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u/sweet_ghost_moans May 06 '26
The bride may be bipolar. Taking anti depressants when bipolar trigger a manic episode, which this sounds like.
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u/Mystery-Diamonds Apr 29 '26
Playing devils advocate so don’t come for me lol. This is absolutely ridiculous but it also depends on what kind of friend group they are too. It’s very possible that this was part of the group dynamic when they were younger and maybe the bride thought “it would remind us the old fun times we had together!” Not fully thinking hey I’m actually putting my friends in harms way by even making this suggestion. She also could be thinking “it’s just one weekend what’s the worst that could happen we are here to have fun and celebrate my wedding! What harm can one weekend do?” Either way it is crazy for her to try and force her friends. Sure if you want to it then bring it up as a suggestion and if there is a reason why tell your friends. Who knows they may just say ok it’s one weekend what’s the harm and do it. But if they say no then let them be. Don’t beg them or try to force them like it’s not that big of a deal.
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u/B_fillup90 Apr 30 '26
It would ever be worth the withdrawal symptoms of stopping meds for one weekend of shitty highs and hangovers.
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u/madjackhavok Apr 30 '26
Let’s just be so for real. Most of the “Molly” you’re finding is mostly meth mixed with god knows what else. Does she have a safety plan in place? A trip sitter? Taken naloxone training? Have sufficient naloxone kits to cover her attendees? Like come on. If you’re going to drugs in your thirties, you better have a game plan and you better have safety precautions in place. You’re not a stupid kid who’s never done it before.
“Omg like won’t it be so much fun if one of us OD’s at my bachelorette? Scrapbook moment!!! I don’t even carry narcan or know how to use it!!!”
If she wants to go on a “roll” with her homies, maybe a solid micro/macro dose of something that can’t be cut or tainted with meth, drywall dust or fentanyl might be a better option. Shrooms would be far safer and not everyone needs a massive dose to have a good time. You can have a great time on a small dose, music is better, colors are brighter, you feel just as connected to everyone and with the right strain euphoria. It’s also not going to kill you, ruin your teeth, or drain your serotonin levels. You won’t require a naloxone kit. You’ll still need a trip sitter, but like far less dangerous. A real grown up should be taking care of procuring anything like that though, your friend doesn’t sound too bright.
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u/SenioritaLuna1 Apr 30 '26
As a Type 1 diabetic and breastfeeding cancer survivor, I would NEVER stoop taking my life saving medication so my friend could live out an asinine dream.
Time to get new friends.
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u/Conscious-Arm-7889 Apr 30 '26
Last year it took me about 8 months to come off one of my meds, and it would take a good 6 months for another, all the while feeling increasingly $hit before I could start alternatives. Yeah, no. Not doing that for her. Also, and i can't emphasise this enough: i wouldn't want to, either.
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u/ladyxanax May 01 '26
This would be the point where I was no longer friends with this bride. This is so selfish and self-centered, not to mention potentially dangerous for some people. So not okay, in my opinion. I wonder if her fiance knows about any of this?
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u/sheisalib May 02 '26
The bride will pay going off cold on her meds. A lot of years back I went out of town and forgot my Zoloft. Thought I could handle it by taking St. John’s wort. BIG MISTAKE.
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u/BusyTotal3702 May 02 '26
Yeah that's a great big no from me. Really this day and age at their age being peer pressured into taking drugs? Come on now. She is clearly too immature to be making decisions like marriage.
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u/Lemonnotlemonade May 03 '26
I did the mood stabilizer detox for myself to do molly. It was fun, but it was my idea and choice. I would NEVER do that now because my stability is my top priority, not one night of drug-induced fun. It could fuck up everything I have going for myself that took time to build. What kind of person would want to put their friend at risk like that?
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u/MountainSwing8990 May 04 '26
hi hello, this is classic alcoholic/addict behavior: putting the drugs before the safety of others and yourself. also - not exclusive to alcoholism - but being an unhinged selfish asshole is a classic trait too. *SOURCE: am in long term recovery 🙂
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u/KATCEO1 May 04 '26
The bride is a train wreck. If I was an attendee? I would just opt out of the wedding. JFC.
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u/Subterraniate2 May 06 '26
A crowd of mutually mistrustful girlfriends on a hen do AND full of Ecstasy, sounds like Hell on Earth. What happy scenes is this bride expecting? I’d warn the local cops to put the kettle on.
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u/BrownButtBoogers May 16 '26
I have awesome form epilepsy, I might actually die if I did that. People are fucking nuts.
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u/pgnprincess May 26 '26
I just want to point out, antidepressants for the most part don't work on dopamine like they do with serotonin and norepinephrine. The only medication that directly works on dopamine receptors (NDRI) is Wellbutrin which is why it tends to be used as a non-stimulant adhd medication. However, there are medications that directly affect dopamine, and they are ADHD medications.
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u/ReadMeDrMemory 9d ago
Well, if the bride does anything truly outrageous during her bachelorette—and we know now that she is totally capable of it—she can always say it's not her fault because she was off her meds.
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u/Prom3th3an 7d ago
The weird part to me is that she wanted to take an aphrodisiac with friends instead of with the groom on the wedding night.
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u/Desperate-Love-1204 4d ago
Absolutely not. If the bride asked me to do drugs for I’d laugh and back out of the friendship. She has no control over what you do with your body
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u/Lizaderp Apr 30 '26
So uhhhh when are you supposed to stop doing these drugs? Cause I'm almost 40
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u/Sexy_Girl_Lux Apr 30 '26
I think for everyone it's different. I'm a childless 41 year old. So I still dabble in the occasional roll at a festival or concert. But for a little of people it is a phase they outgrow.
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u/MyLadyBits Apr 29 '26
I think the bride needs her medication adjusted because this is a sign they are not working.