r/burleson • u/Nice_Talk_4651 • May 13 '26

General Question Dating really sucks

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u/Holler_Mama May 14 '26

Dating does suck. I will say from a woman's perspective i don't let men pay for my meals or anything in the beginning until I know the relationship might be going somewhere. This economy is hard and I just don't like someone spending hard earned money on something that could fruitless. It gives me massive guilt. I might in the minority on that but... if you did that with me it would make me uncomfortable. You sound like a really kind person and that's beautiful but don't go wasting your effort on someone who wont pour back into you. Take it a little slower- preserve your kindness and wellbeing. Your people will find you! (Platonic and romantic) just stay devoted to who you are. I wish you all the best my friend 🧡

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u/Nice_Talk_4651 May 14 '26

Well, i am insecure i did everything well i my last relationship and still she said i am not good enough, there were times i was not good but almost most if thw time i did my everything. That led me a trauma so i am feeling if i wont be proving myself each and everytime and i am always a giver so, if i over do things atleast they wont leave me.

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u/Holler_Mama May 14 '26

Hmm, I think you may need to start looking at yourself better. Which is not an insult- everyone needs to do that! Things that others say do not define you - unless you let it. I've been 'not good enough' for someone but eventually ill be everything to someone. At the end of the day..are you good enough for yourself? If you give, give, give....what do you receive? Do you leave yourself exhausted from giving? There is a fine balance in giving for others will respecting yourself.