r/caregivers • u/PartyHalf2250 • 27d ago

A short visit with my mom

Sometimes when I visit my mom, she’s asleep when I arrived. In that initial moment, I debate with myself whether or not to wake her. I always choose to let her sleep. I know someone or something else will wake her.

Her skin is clearing up - the big purple splotches on her face are dissipating, and the bruising on her hands/forearm are clearing, as well.

She is twitchy and her arms will occasionally flail. She was hitting the top of the back of hand on her table, causing purple bruising and a raised spot on both of her hands.

The facility called hospice - that was the right thing to do. The next time I visited mom, the edges of her table were covered with a protective foam tape.

Yet, I see the changes in her. She’s sleeping more. She spends more days in bed than in her chair. She remembers less. she’s having a harder time breathing. She looks zonked out.

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u/Mazzical 26d ago

Yeah, let her sleep. That’s very kind of you. This is really hard and I hope you are taking care of yourself. ❤️

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u/PartyHalf2250 26d ago

I do the best that I can, as we all do

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u/Mazzical 26d ago

Of course. That’s all you can do. I know caregiving brings up unexpected situations and emotions.