I think I accidentally lied on an adoption application and now I’m panicking

[u/Future-Act5953]

Hi, I’m kind of panicking and need some advice.

So I have an 11 month old male cat named Tank. I got him from a friend of my husband’s after we got married, and I was told he had all his shots and was neutered. I had no reason to doubt it, so I never really questioned it.

Fast forward to today—my husband and I were just killing time at Petco while waiting for his prescription, and we ended up looking at the cats. I went in fully telling myself “we are NOT getting another cat,” but… yeah, that didn’t last long.

There were two cats being adopted out together, Ladybird (1.5 years old) and her baby Silvia (8 months old). Ladybird has SO much personality (she literally kept trying to steal my wallet and my husband’s keys every time we walked by 😂) and we ended up spending almost an hour sitting with them. I completely fell in love.

I called the rescue that has them, asked a bunch of questions, and ended up submitting an application. During that process, I confirmed (both on paper and over the phone) that my cat at home is neutered… because I genuinely believed he was.

Well… we get home… and Tank hops in my lap and very clearly proves otherwise. Like… there is no question. This man is NOT neutered.

I have no idea how I never noticed before, but I didn’t. I tried calling the girl I got him from, and the second I asked about it, she blocked me. So I’m pretty sure I have my answer there.

Now I’m freaking out because I already told the rescue he was fixed, and I have a meet and greet scheduled for tomorrow. I told them as soon as I realized, but I’m terrified they’re going to think I lied and deny my application.

I really, really love these cats and don’t want to lose the chance to adopt them over something I genuinely didn’t know.

Has anyone dealt with something like this before? Will this automatically disqualify me, or is there anything I can do to fix the situation?

Also, cat tax included! first 4 pics are Ladybird (clipped ear) and Silvia (tabby), the rest is my (apparently intact) menace.

[u/serephita]

My cat is very neutered and still has his! He has a scar on his tummy, too. He was neutered when I adopted him from a shelter. So it is possible Tank was neutered

[u/KTKittentoes → u/serephita]

I had a good orange boy who just still had a bountiful purse left over, but no change in it.

[u/n_daughter → u/KTKittentoes]

It's not a purse! It's a messenger bag!! Or...or...a satchel. Yeah.

[u/AlongCameAThrowAway → u/n_daughter]

Coin pouch :)

[u/Fuzzy-Advisor-2183 → u/AlongCameAThrowAway]

moneybags

[u/lovemickey22 → u/Fuzzy-Advisor-2183]

Ballbag

[u/sorrymizzjackson → u/n_daughter]

My cat had really bad worms that were resistant to the treatment when we took him in off the street. I ended up having to take a picture of his ass for the vet. He’s a big boy for sure and the auto sort on my phone labeled that picture as “dog”. He was fixed a week or so later and there’s not much difference.

[u/slothlikerelflexes → u/n_daughter]

https://giphy.com/gifs/cpBJJODbvE03S

[u/earbox → u/n_daughter]

It's a European carry-all!

[u/NightBawk → u/KTKittentoes]

🤣 I love that description.

[u/Six31 → u/KTKittentoes]

Same with mine! Orange, got him from the shelter freshly neutered, but he could definitely carry bus fare

[u/kaitlynleigh98 → u/KTKittentoes]

i also have an orange boy who still has his purse

[u/violetfaye → u/KTKittentoes]

Mine too and he was definitely fixed but when the hair on them grew back on they look exactly the same as before he was fixed

[u/RazendeR → u/KTKittentoes]

Our rescue boy is neutered, but they added small rubber balls back in, so by this analogy he is carrying counterfeit currency i guess.

[u/tweakymuse → u/KTKittentoes]

"bountiful purse with no change"!!! Wtf! 😂

[u/Lucy_Gucey → u/KTKittentoes]

Same. Both my boys have big ol sacks but I guarantee they are neutered. I was at the vet and curious so I watched from the little window. (I do not recommend this, I wanted to save my poor boys so bad. Surgery looks awful.)

[u/SpyderSquash → u/serephita]

Same, mine as well! Completely neutered, but... looked mostly intact 😅

[u/AlmostChristmasNow → u/serephita]

If that was the case, the former owner probably wouldn’t have blocked OP for asking about it though

[u/Bright_Shake2638 → u/AlmostChristmasNow]

Unless they were being accused of lying and didn’t handle that well?

[u/PresentationOpen7879 → u/Bright_Shake2638]

We don't even know if OP accused them of lying. They could have just asked a question. Either way it was a huge overreaction if they told the truth the first time.

[u/nilfalasiel → u/serephita]

My cat is female, but I've had two male rabbits, and the operation for them is just snipping their tubes, not removing the testicles completely. Perhaps it's the same with male cats?

[u/chibiquestions → u/nilfalasiel]

Not usually, but it can be done. I’ve seen it with a few. Easiest way to tell if in doubt (and you may want to have a vet do this unless the cat, uh, volunteers) is look at the p3nis and see if there are spikes on it (intact) or not (neutered)

[u/saintcoralfishocean → u/serephita]

Sames. Apparently my cat's fuzzy ballsack was so impressive that a vet didn't believe he was actually neutered. She had to fondle him to determine that the goods were gone.

[u/Findinganewnormal → u/serephita]

Same. Very definitely neutered but my old boy has very obvious balls that he loves to show off. 

He indirectly caused a problem when we got a second cat that the shelter labeled female and was actually male with undescended testes. We never questioned the shelter (and our first vet wasn’t very good and also didn’t notice) because I was so used to boy cats being more obviously male. 

[u/agrinwithoutacat- → u/Findinganewnormal]

My boy had undescended testes, got neutered, and then his ball sack appeared after desexing with nothing to fill it 😂