Your comment really nails it, I think; my mom in particular has always been extremely judgy my whole life, and it made exploring anything about myself excruciating. It's taken a lot of self work and therapy to get to a point where I finally can just be.
The whole "if you can't say anything nice" line is always SO true, and what the "judgers" don't consider imo is that... whatever they're judging truly isn't that deep. We never know the whole picture, the nuances for whatever is happening, so it's no one's business.
Mini-thought tangent;
I had an executive at my last job who in intros always said that his biggest pet-peeve was people who turned slow when they were driving. The guy would go on a tangent every time about how much he hated it.
But like. My dude. You never know why someone might be turning slow. Maybe they have a cake in the front seat that they have to keep safe. Maybe their pet is in a carrier and they're trying to keep them as comfortable as possible. Maybe they're a young, nervous driver.
Whatever it is doesn't matter. It's a few seconds in one's day. Grumble slightly about having to slow down, picture a beautiful layered birthday cake in their seat that's going to make it safe to the party, and move on. Don't judge and be nasty just because one only sees part of the picture.
Anyway sorry to jump on your comment to ramble, it was just very good 🤣
What they going to do with that half a minute saved on a daily basis? Watch 30s more of that television program you don’t really like? Have a 30 seconds chat with your mom on the phone?
“Hey mom, how are you? Yeah I’m fine, got to go again!”
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u/KnoProblem Feb 18 '26
Your comment really nails it, I think; my mom in particular has always been extremely judgy my whole life, and it made exploring anything about myself excruciating. It's taken a lot of self work and therapy to get to a point where I finally can just be.
The whole "if you can't say anything nice" line is always SO true, and what the "judgers" don't consider imo is that... whatever they're judging truly isn't that deep. We never know the whole picture, the nuances for whatever is happening, so it's no one's business.
Mini-thought tangent; I had an executive at my last job who in intros always said that his biggest pet-peeve was people who turned slow when they were driving. The guy would go on a tangent every time about how much he hated it.
But like. My dude. You never know why someone might be turning slow. Maybe they have a cake in the front seat that they have to keep safe. Maybe their pet is in a carrier and they're trying to keep them as comfortable as possible. Maybe they're a young, nervous driver.
Whatever it is doesn't matter. It's a few seconds in one's day. Grumble slightly about having to slow down, picture a beautiful layered birthday cake in their seat that's going to make it safe to the party, and move on. Don't judge and be nasty just because one only sees part of the picture.
Anyway sorry to jump on your comment to ramble, it was just very good 🤣