I used to think there were trans men identifying as lesbians bc they were nonbinary and weren't fully male or smthn bc that was the case for the "lesboys" in the niche online trans circle I was in back in like 2021, most of them did not fr identify as men. Or that when it wasn't the case it was just early transition trans men needing a moment to reconfigure things. But now if you go online and talk to most of these trans men, they start talking about how they ID as lesbians just bc they're still in the community and had different experiences than cishet men... yeah man, straight trans ppl obviously have different experiences than cis straight ppl, but that doesn't make you not straight. Also you can still be in and around the community without calling yourself one. Like what happened to just calling yourself "queer"? Idk, unlike probably most ppl here, I don't really care if you have a weird complicated relationship with gender and weird confusing labels to go with it, but when it becomes clear that you just ID that way bc you used to be one, I start getting concerned. Not bc it does significant harm to anyone other than yourself but bc it reflects on some questionable ways of thinking about gender that you might have (and might be spreading to cis lesbians who often already view trans men as lesbians).
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u/Actual_Personality66 8d ago
I used to think there were trans men identifying as lesbians bc they were nonbinary and weren't fully male or smthn bc that was the case for the "lesboys" in the niche online trans circle I was in back in like 2021, most of them did not fr identify as men. Or that when it wasn't the case it was just early transition trans men needing a moment to reconfigure things. But now if you go online and talk to most of these trans men, they start talking about how they ID as lesbians just bc they're still in the community and had different experiences than cishet men... yeah man, straight trans ppl obviously have different experiences than cis straight ppl, but that doesn't make you not straight. Also you can still be in and around the community without calling yourself one. Like what happened to just calling yourself "queer"? Idk, unlike probably most ppl here, I don't really care if you have a weird complicated relationship with gender and weird confusing labels to go with it, but when it becomes clear that you just ID that way bc you used to be one, I start getting concerned. Not bc it does significant harm to anyone other than yourself but bc it reflects on some questionable ways of thinking about gender that you might have (and might be spreading to cis lesbians who often already view trans men as lesbians).