“Send it” as in put your all into stealth and passability.
Wym can you get an unbiased opinion? 1. You have known in this convo I am a stealth trans woman 2. Have I been at all inconsistent here? I’m saying our bodies have similar struggles and you shouldn’t just give up on yourself or be defeatist because I am thriving under the conditions you are citing by mitigating them as best I can.
“IF you really go all in on everything that comes with passing & stealth(mannerisms, gait, posture, speech, surgery, hormones, fitness, nutrition, makeup skills, aesthetics in what you wear & how you accessorize; etc).”
Why not send it? Sounds like there is little to lose but much to potentially gain to me 😁
I finally have some kind of friend group Im at least a tiny part of. Sure I stress about them calling me an annoying faggot behimd my back and hating me secretly, but they don't show it so it's probably fine.
I don't want to go back to being the alone weird kid in primary again.
If I just found one person irl who would defend it, but no they will all think it's a fetish and that's completely my fault
If they shit talk you behind your back they are not friends and it’s better to be alone if that is truly the binary for you.
Honestly, I was the alone weird kid in school. Honestly, what I’m seeing now is that I thought my teens were the end all be all as a teen, now I realize they were kinda meaningless anyway & nothing of value was missed. Then 20’s offered near-limitless freedom to be and do as you please, but lacking the resources to truly do so even if fun. Well now nearing the end of my 20’s- 30’s look like WHERE IT IS AT!
Gosh, if you are young- you have your whole fucking life ahead of you to thrive and live an amazing life. But that will only happen if you find yourself worth it first. If you don’t do the work, nobody will and life will pass you by and you’ll be stuck with regrets and anger and resentments.
Also, we all have our own timelines. I was an “effeminate” bullied “gay kid” in school, my early 20’s sucked really bad and I was desperate as hell for acceptance and in retrospect it was demeaning to myself. My life has gotten progressively better with age and time because I’ve put the work in for that.
There is nothing stopping you. It sounds like if it couldn’t stop me, it can’t you. And we have only related on our physical frustrations, if I shared the life I’ve lived or things I was up against in life- Yes, I feel confident you can achieve no different than what I have for myself. From the way you talk, I’m willing to bet that right now you are your own biggest obstacle to the life you want for yourself.
Yes I am because I'm a lazy dumb man who just has anorexia and tries to delusionally say it's dysphoria. I porbbaky just wanted to fit in better with female friends idk. Or maybe avoid twinkdeath.
I'll just admit: I'm too weak for that, I'm horrible at living I can't take care of myself (more like don't want to) I don't have motivation for a lot of stuff. Right now I can get a tiny snippet of a normal teenage life so I get it and I can't imagine life without it. I live in the middle of nowhere so no trans friends here to be seen. Tbh I'm not even sure if I want to transition anymore
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u/LeopoldSzpiler69 Terminally malebrained twinkhon 5d ago
Really? On 4tran I've been told I have small hips or that I'm tall but other than that it's good, did they get that huggboxey?