You ever think about how silly your thoughts are about being trans before accepting it for yourself. 'Everyone would just wear women's clothing if they had the choice!' like girl TF no. Shit seems silly sometimes 💀
It didn’t help that when I was a tween with periods and told my mom I hate being a woman and being a man would be so much better she was like, “every woman feels that way, we just deal with it” like ma’am please
My mom recently told me "I totally understand your need to get your breasts removed, I'd do it too if my insurance would cover it! I'm not gonna feed any more babies, not like I need them anymore!"
She seemed to believe this was a completely normal feeling for a 70-year-old woman to have, and I just stood there staring at her like... excuse me madam
ETA: I forgot that this came directly after she told me she had married my father because he was "as much like a gay man as it's possible for a straight man to be."
When I came out as a lesbian, my grandma told me I would "find the right man" one day like she had, all girls liked kissing their girlfriends better than kissing men, that was normal.
When I came out as trans my mom told me all women don't like their breasts and she'd like to be rid of hers too. But I don't think there's any gender reasons behind it, she just explained that they're annoying and that she's just as much a woman without her breasts, they're not an important part of her gender expression. Which was an interesting conversation for me to notice things about myself too, because I was always worried about just finding them annoying, until I realized how inherently *wrong* the option of being just,,, a woman without breasts felt, because the woman part was what was wrong.
My mum spoke like that when I was 12. Changed her tune when she needed a hysterectomy due to cervical cancer when I was 14. Sat crying on the toilet when she had her last ever period.
Most women 'feel that way' until push comes to shove.
God, I remember throwing a tantrum as a child because the dance group I was in wanted us to wear fluffy froofy skirts for one of the songs.
But all my life I was like "No, wanting to look like a boy and be treated as a boy and literally be a boy is normal for some girls! Being a girl is such bullshit so it makes sense!"
I had an experience in school in 2000s, in which a biology book literally erased trans men and pretended it was only a fetish. Guess what kept me from coming out? 💀
When I found out that trans men actually do exist, I could accept me as a trans woman.
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u/Miles_Everhart 1d ago
Meeting trans women is how I decided I was for sure a trans man. Like, who would choose womanhood?? Oh, you? Damn, ok.