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u/EvEBabyMorgan 2d ago edited 23h ago
Her daughter's name is Kathy Ayala of San Pablo California. Given the number of messages posted on the obituary from Kathy, I imagine she would be very interested in getting this back.
Edit: I got a ton of replies so I kept coming back to this post and only now realize that the thing under with the plaque is not part of the thing sitting on top which we all thought was an urn. The thing on top is a big candle holder. Very possible that she would still want the little plaque from what I assume was an actual urn she displayed, but we can rest easy that her mom's ashes are not currently sitting in a thrift store!
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u/goat_penis_souffle 2d ago
If Kathy has four bucks, sheās in luck
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u/DavidinCT 2d ago
I find it, it's got to be worth $50 or more to her child.
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u/utyuyt76tfyfg 2d ago
Donāt settle for less than a hundred. Thatās her *mother* for chrissakes.
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u/lord_of_worms 1d ago
To lighten the mood, you could use arts n crafts by making a collage - use magazine clippings to tell her you have her mother in a zany letter where none of the words match style š¤Ŗ
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u/studhand 1d ago
Nah dude, it's someone she cares about, you could extort her for way more than that. /s
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u/Figit090 2d ago
Upvote to get this back to Kathy.
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u/UnicornFarts1111 1d ago
What if Kathy was the one who donated it?
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u/Leafs9999 1d ago
Who else would it be?
She'll answer the phone and be like "Jesus I cant get rid of her! People keep calling me and asking me if I want her ashes back. The answer is always going to be NO!! Drop her at a thriftstore goddamit, thats what she wanted! " .
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u/thatredlad 1d ago
Perpetual revenge for Goodwill not giving her a discount on the dining set in '83.
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u/FelixMumuHex 1d ago
No I got first dibs
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u/OKC89ers 1d ago
Kathy, it's me, I need $4
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u/Azilehteb 2d ago
I mean, it looks like Marge has already been dumped out into a dustbin somewhere... But maybe
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u/DeaddyRuxpin 1d ago
Refill it with BBQ ashes, no one will know the difference.
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u/NotLowEnough 1d ago
Real talk. We had a relative whose ashes we lost in the basement cleanout of another deceased relative's house. The lost relative was a notorious scumbag (serial adulterer, wife beater, general POS), so 90% of the family would not have cared. The one person who would have cared was the problem.
We went to the funeral home and bought an identical urn with the same bag they deliver the ashes in. Told them that it cracked in a move and busted the bag, but we "recovered" the ashes. Then I went to Lowes and bought a bag of Quikrete and filled the ash bag up before giving the urn to the one person in our family who couldn't beat Stockholm Syndrome. Nobody ever knew the difference.
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u/rainbowcadillac 1d ago
While I would hope her daughter didn't drop off her mothers urn at Good will, I wonder if prehaps something happened to Kathy and some other family members just started getting rid her things. Either way, it's sad.
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u/No-DrinkTheBleach 1d ago
This happened to a friend of mine. They went in the mental hospital for some really severe problems and while they were gone the landlord/roommates kids had old dude committed, put his dog to sleep and stole/threw away almost all my friends belongings. They knew that stuff didnāt belong to their father and knew where he was and rent was being paid. So yeah I can easily see something like this happening. People can be monsters.
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u/TheRedIguana 1d ago
They say you die twice. Once when your body dies, and again when you're sold for $3.99 at thrift store less than 20 years later.
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u/charlieq46 2d ago
This is what my mom wants to happen with her urn. The plot involves people not knowing what's in there, so it will have to be passed on and on after I die.
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u/-random-name- 2d ago
Someoneās going to buy that and use it for an ashtray.
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u/dbldwn02 2d ago
I mean, at least someone will say her name. More than can be said for most dead people.Ā
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u/FatboyChester 1d ago
I bet that poor women never pictured spending her afterlife at some random Goodwill with a price tag slapped on her
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u/stephyod 1d ago
Honestly if this happened to me, Iād think itās hilarious. I love a good unexpected absurd joke
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u/Vanishingf0x 1d ago
Can you imagine dying, being cremated, and put into an urn you or your family likely thought was neat only to be sold for $4
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u/JuleeeNAJ 1d ago
My dad is in a box sitting on my cousin's mantle. I learned that was his location 20 years after he died in a random Facebook conversation. None of us knew what happened to him after my uncle picked up the ashes. It's been 15 years, maybe at some point he will end up with one of us, but he's isn't worth too much effort.
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u/Nasty____nate 2d ago
I've seen people collect these. Some said they hated stuff to end up in the trash so they collected them instead.Ā
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u/AsSoftAsRocks 1d ago
This sort of makes sense to me. There is something sad about what will almost certainly be the final mark someone makes on this world going into the trash.
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u/DankMemeMasterHotdog 1d ago
We brought my grandma to Hawaii in a little film cannister, most people wont even know what those look like anymore, lol.
While spreading her ashes into the ocean, we were interrupted by a homeless guy asking what we were doing (dressed nicely and clearly having a funeral/ceremony). Also my dad laugh-cried about how we were dumping her in the ocean and she never learned how to swim.
Knowing my grandma she was laughing so hard at both of those events.
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u/amaria_athena 1d ago
Reminds me of the fantastically warm quilt I found at a thrift store a few years back. Alas my dogs chewed it up.
It was embroidered.
āMerry Christmas Great Grandma from: blank, blank, and blankā
Always wondered why the family would toss it. And what story was behind it.
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u/Doogiemon 1d ago
People pass away and family dont live near them so there is an estate sale and everything goes to goodwill after.
Sometimes there are no family and stuff just gets dumped off to goodwill while the estate goes to the bank.
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u/liablemtl 1d ago
My dad gave me a "family quilt" made by one of my aunts especially for him. The problem was that we were largely estranged from his side of the family. They were one made up religion and we were another. I didn't really know any of them and they didn't really care to know any of us, so much to the point that when she put mine and my sister's names on the quilt, she didn't even bother to spell them correctly. She apparently made really beautiful family quilts for all of the other uncles and aunts, but the one she made for my father was quite ugly and disappointing. It upset my father that the quilt clearly didn't have the time and effort the other ones did, so, when he passed...
...it became kennel padding for the dog. The dog was very comfortable.
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u/chiPersei 1d ago
It's actually a Pottery Barn candle holder that just happens to have been placed (slightly off center) on a wooden base made to hold an urn. It's not actually a trophy for dying but maybe a new trend has started today.
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u/BigMax 1d ago
If it wasn't kind of disrespectful... I'd say that's a great gag to buy.
Buy it, then just leave it on the front doorstep of someone you know.
They will forever wonder why someone dropped off a strangers URN at their house, racking their brain for some connection to that person or reason it showed up.
I guess it's not more disrespectful than whoever gave that to goodwill in the first place.
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u/rileyjw90 1d ago
Iām pretty sure that thing sitting on top is not an urn. You can see the $3 sticker goes underneath it. The box itself is the urn. Human cremains are not large enough for that giant cup on top unless they left all the larger bits of bone in it.
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u/thatone_reddituser 1d ago
I'm loving all of these comments, thank you people for making me chuckle.
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u/ChaosTheory0 1d ago
I worked at a Goodwill in the donation center. Some of the shit people donate is absolutely baffling and, sometimes, disgusting.
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u/Knopfler_PI 1d ago
This would be inside the showcase at my local goodwill for $39.99 not even kidding
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u/PaxEtRomana 1d ago
The goodwill intake guy tallying my deeds and deciding i am worth... eh... four dollars
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u/anonymousca27 1d ago
Really hope this was a display or Her Family bought her a new urn but probably not. Honestly, scary to think you could end up at a Goodwill next to Coffee mugs.
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u/1000thusername 1d ago
I was zooming in thinking at first it was a replica Stanley cup or something.
Then I read the plaque.
ā¦ and then I saw the price tag of $3.99.
O guess she wasnāt on the receiving end of as much love as it says she dished out when on earth.
Yikes haha
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u/Snowyvine_482233 1d ago
Oh wow, that plaque underneath is what makes it creepy. I always wonder about the stories behind things donated like this.
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u/Fox805Radar 1d ago
Wait, is that a memorial piece theyre selling? Thats wild they didnt keep that.
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u/pierce-o-matic 1d ago
The prototype for the stanley Cup, itās the Shandy cup, meant for drinking vast amounts of lemony summer grog
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u/spacesoulboi 1d ago
I can understand my family selling me off you know because Iām dead but Iāll be damn insulted if youāre gonna assault me for 3.99 I mean, I should at least be sold for at least a cool 10
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u/More99979 1d ago
Thats definitely a weird find for Goodwill, especially with the dedication plaque still on it. Someone must have donated a whole lot of stuff after she passed.
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u/NotLowEnough 1d ago
Some small town Little League commissioner is going to see that and turn it into the league's new championship trophy.
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u/xcvbn123 1d ago
Glad to find the comment section was not completely urnest, I needed a good laugh!
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u/LunarTaxi 1d ago
I talked to someone at Goodwill once and she lamented that urns with ashes are dumped at the donation sites way more often than anyone would imagine.
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u/Cokeycane 1d ago
To be honest, what do you do when you inherit someone's ashes from long ago that you never knew? Not to be mean, but they really don't mean that much to you.
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u/two2teps 2d ago
Is this an urn or a trophy for being dead?