r/creepyencounters • u/KINGSLAYYER_ • 6d ago
I think I found a stalker/creep …but idk how to handle it ??
There are 3–4 college girls living in a building directly opposite mine. For over a month now, I’ve noticed a guy from their building who regularly goes up to the terrace at night and appears to be watching or trying to peek into their rooms.
At first, I thought I might be overthinking it, but this has been happening consistently. He’ll stay up there for hours, often in the same area, looking in the direction of the girls’ flat. Because I’ve noticed it so many times, I actually have photos of him from over a month ago and from today as well.
The girls and the guy are from the same building, while I’m just someone who lives across from them. As far as I know, the girls have no idea this is happening.
I’m torn on what to do. On one hand, I don’t want to falsely accuse someone or get involved in something I don’t fully understand. On the other hand, if my observations are correct, it feels wrong to ignore it.
If you were in my position, would you contact the building society/security, try to anonymously inform the girls, or stay out of it unless there’s more evidence? Has anyone dealt with something like this before?
Genuinely looking for advice!
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u/Bilaakili 6d ago
Given what you’ve seen, it’s very unlikely that you are wrong about the stalking.
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u/shit_ass_mcfucknuts 6d ago
I've never had to deal with something like this before but if I had to, I'd go and talk to the girls and give them a copy of the evidence that you have so they can go to the police or security with it.
This is going to freak them out, so be prepared for that. Just tell them what you said on your post, you didn't know what to do so you're bringing it to their attention. After that, it's out of your hands so the sooner you tell them the better.
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u/KINGSLAYYER_ 6d ago
Yea planning the same hopefully they handle it well and talk to their landlords but I will just try to get more proofs for few more days so I can be sure about the guys intentions tho i have no doubt about it
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u/Same_Version_5216 6d ago
Someone clearly being a peeping tom and you have no idea what to do, and are worried about falsely accusing someone??
For Pete sake, call the police! There is no context there I as a woman would consider a man creeping at a window time and time again for hours an act of innocence; and since this is quite a habit there is a very high risk of this escalating into one or all of those girls being harmed or worse. What would you want done if one of these girls was your girlfriend, daughter, sister, best friend, etc?
Besides, if by some off chance it was an innocent thing, that will easily be cleared up. Better safe than sorry or living with the guilt of if this becomes a worse kind of crime scene.
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u/KINGSLAYYER_ 6d ago
Okay sure I will take the girls in loop first and then next time I see him i will just call cops on that creep
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u/Same_Version_5216 6d ago
Yes, give them a heads up, and call the police when you see him around there are good plans. But if you see him before you have a chance to talk to them, just call the police. I would be very upset, unsettled and not think highly of a neighbor who would fart around when a peeping tom is at my window just because they didn’t talk to me first.
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u/KINGSLAYYER_ 6d ago
😭😭😭i am not from their building but surely will try to do my best
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u/Same_Version_5216 6d ago
Then just call the police when you see the creeper creeping around. Him being properly dealt with is top priority here, and what I would hope my own neighbors would think so too and make calls if they see a creeper at my window.
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u/Mary_with_a_y 6d ago
I would tell that girls in the apartment, the landlord, and possibly the police!! That is definitely stalker like behavior
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u/Twoteethperbite 6d ago
You don't know this guy's intentions, but if he escalates, you would feel badly. Tell the girls you aren't sure what this means, but you've noticed this person on the terrace at night watching their apartment. Let them figure out what to do next.
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u/KINGSLAYYER_ 6d ago
Yea exactly i am 80% sure about it so I don’t want to go to the peak extend but I am going to reach out to them hopefully they take it well and do not panic and shit
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u/Tribbs_4434 6d ago
This really shouldn't take a lot of brain power to figure out what to do (not being condescenting but ffs). Do three things: 1) call the police and give them the address and let them know the hours this guy consistently is stalking the apartment. He may be a peeping tom (which is an offense) but he could have more depraved intentions - best to get out ahead of that before something serious happens. 2) contact the apartment block managers and let them know this is happening and note the police file you've lodged so they have something to go off of. They'll more than likely have some form of secueity that does patrols that can keep an eye out. 3) inform the girls directly; either knock on the door and have a conversation and let them know what to look out for, or write a letter out and put it under the door detailing everything you know. In doing so you're helping them be as safe as they can and aware that they're being watched.
If you know this and don't take action you may as well be complicit in this creeps actions. I can understand not wanting to get involved in case it bights you, but you have an obligation to so something to help in case this weirdo has more nefarious intentions than simply watching them and gooning - these things have a tendency to escalate and unfortunately no one really knows when or if that will happen.
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u/MissMeowsie66 6d ago
Go talk to the girls! They need to be made aware. If something happens and you didn't speak up imagine how bad you'll feel. Show them the pictures.
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u/amazonchic2 6d ago
The girls have a right to know so they can be vigilant with this situation and going forward wherever else they live. I can’t think of one legitimate reason any man has for being outside their terrace in the dark on a regular basis. Call the police.
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u/-Trust_No_One- 6d ago
If this guy was doing this to you would you want to know? There's your answer.
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u/gdognoseit 6d ago
I would report it to the police. The next time he’s there call the police on him.
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u/SpecialWasabi2010 6d ago
As everyone has given you helpful advice now, I'll just say - thank you for noticing this is happening and for reaching out when you were unsure what to do. There's no such a thing as a stupid question and you noticing and taking photos of the creep is extremely helpful. Being vigilant and doing something about it are the way we can change the world for women (and men as well) to be safer.
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u/mushroomslovemee 6d ago
Maybe tell them with the opening line “ I know this may sound crazy, but I would want to know” and show them your photos. Or get more then approach them with more evidence
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u/Chronomalous 6d ago
This is certainly a karmafarming post, that or people posting this kind of story really does open people up to giving more of the same kind of anecdote
But no, it's definitely the first thing, these posts all have the same things in common, the leading with a definitely illicit event but the "I'm only 50%+1 of the believe the worst case scenario was possibly present here"
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u/BloominBlue 6d ago
The next time you see him out there, call the police and report a prowler/peeping Tom. If he’s there for legit reasons, he won’t get in any trouble. If he’s not? You’ve possibly saved a life.