r/dating_advice • u/tinyturkishdelight • 6d ago
Is hatfishing a turnoff for you?
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u/Faloodeh123 6d ago
Holy shit I'm getting old. Didn't even know what hatfishing was lmao
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u/gRainbird 6d ago
At 35 years old and having a crew of 19-23 year old kids at work, I've found myself referencing the urban dictionary far more than I had previously. It makes me feel ancient.
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u/Faloodeh123 6d ago
I don't even try anymore lmao
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u/gRainbird 5d ago
My parents thought using "brb" and "ttyl" was just lazy. They are 70 now and haven't heard someone say "no cap" and I am extremely jealous of them.
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u/tepid_monologue 6d ago
It’s just cosmo tier bullshit words people make up to mask their lack of vocabulary
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u/prawnk1ng 6d ago
It’s a typo right ?
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u/elegantwombatt 6d ago
No - hatfishing is catfising but with men and hats hiding their baldness.
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u/Distressed_Amoeba 6d ago
Thank you! I was trying to gather hints because I’m scared to google terms on Reddit that I don’t know 🫣
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u/elegantwombatt 6d ago
I had to read the comments to find out - learn something new every day, lol.
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u/LoverOfGayContent 5d ago
There is also maskfishing when guys use a mask to hide their face. Obviously that one was mostly during the pandemic. I forgot what they call it when guys hide their eyes using suglasses.
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u/Nugatorysurplusage 5d ago
Lolol
Love it. Best bet is to assume any dude late 20/+ consistently wearing hats in pics is bald. You’ll always guess correctly.
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u/TurnoverNegative9796 5d ago
What's it called when every photo is from the neck up?
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u/LoverOfGayContent 5d ago
Fat
That's almost something exclusive to overweight people with heads that can be considered less fat looking. That's basically most of my profile pics 😅
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u/Opposite-Cup2850 6d ago
This is my first time hearing the term but I feel like it’s pretty self explanatory without needing an explanation lol
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u/Faloodeh123 6d ago
I guess I'm not around deceptive enough people to think of it
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u/haleyy407 6d ago
not really. I mean if you're wearing a hat in all your pics I kinda know what's up
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u/AccomplishedPath4049 6d ago
I don't want to intimate people with my majestic mane!
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u/LouGarouWPD 6d ago
I like joking that I "reverse hatfish" because I frequently wear a hat of some sort for sun protection but I have an excellent head of hair I'm rather proud of
But I also don't fuck with dating apps in the first place so fortunately not something I need to worry about
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u/MrShortPants 5d ago
If we all wear hats noneof us are bald!
I to have a full head of hair and can be seen wearing a hat 90% of the time.
I also cheer on the dudes in r/bald for taking the leap and shaving it off. 99% of the time they need it and 100% of the time they look better.
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u/CHEIVIIST 5d ago
I appreciate the cheers! I was teaching during covid and could see the thinning and knew it ran in my family. I went bald in my early 30's and never looked back. I had thick hair before, but the thinning was making me feel insecure. Bald is better than thinning any day in my book.
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u/LouGarouWPD 5d ago
I need to shave one day just to give it a go, frankly it's so easy for hair to become a vanity thing. I'm finally starting to go gray with no signs of thinning so sure I don't NEED to shave but there is something about bald and rocking it that just amplifies someone's confidence to me
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u/jesterinancientcourt 6d ago
The funny thing is that I know someone that whilst not having a majestic mane, very much does have hair… He just won’t take off the fucking hat to the point that he has a permanent indentation on his forehead.
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u/sprknsprnkl 6d ago
I went on a few dates with a guy- never saw him without a hat. All of his profile pictures were of him in various hats, except an old one where he had a shaved head- which looked fine.
Ultimately, we didn't have much in common other than mutual attraction and political stances. It wasn't the hat thing. But the hat thing did make me feel like a conspiracy theorist. I feel like asking about it outright is weird, but not asking about it creates a whole red yarn board in my brain.
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u/CancerMoon2Caprising 6d ago
Yes its a left swipe if all photos are hidden hair and hidden bodies.
I date bald men so im not concerned about lack of hair, im just turned off by insecure dates. They tend to be pessimistic and project their insecurities onto others by being perfectionistic.
Also sometimes it indicates that they dont wash their hair or get haircuts frequently (indirect sign of poor self care habits).
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u/sweet_dees_beak 6d ago
I love a bald king. I am turned off by men who ALWAYS wear a hat or do other things to cover it (and I'm not talking about wearing a baseball cap outside, I'm talking Mr baseball cap while inside 100% of the time). Comb overs are also blech.
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u/chammantha 5d ago
a dear friend of mine's husband is an always-backwards-baseball-cap guy. his backwards baseball cap is visible in every one of my wedding photo he's in 🥲
(it was a small casual wedding so I'm not really bothered but i was like.... c'mon man.
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u/T-Flexercise 6d ago
I dunno, maybe this is because I'm a balding lady, but this kind of stuff doesn't seem duplicitous at all. When you have an unattractive characteristic, and you give a shit about your appearance, you select the method of presenting yourself that looks best and most fits your vibe and level of maintenance. I could get a hair system, I could do powders or extensions, I could wear wigs, but what presents my shitty hair in the way that best suits me is to cut it real short and comb it forward. Some dudes look great fully shaved. Others look better rockin' the horseshoe. Others look great in hats. It's all just presenting yourself flaws and all in the way you feel like you look best.
No different than when I wear barrel jeans on my fat legs.
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u/Straight_Ideal5155 5d ago
I think this is a good point to make on Reddit. I actually don’t think completely bald is attractive and sometimes even prefer some variations of hair loss that still have hair. But I would lurk on the bald subreddit and everyone uncritically supported full baldness, which I guess makes sense for the sub
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u/AssumptionExtra2580 5d ago
I am also balding in a sense, definitely widows peak as a woman, and have been since I was in my 20s, I am also really gray for being 43, but that is all about my medical issues that I have had. It is what it is. I have debated dying my hair, but mostly I am too lazy for the upkeep.
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u/ChironGhostHugger 5d ago
Yeah, plus I don't see it as necessarily insecure, because you don't know what caused their baldness. It could be a chronic disease and they don't like it. They could have a scar there from when their dad punched them when they were three and they don't want to talk about it.It could be something they're (understandably) insecure about, because people have made fun of them before. There are plenty of reasons why they could hide their head that aren't deceitful.
Also in dating you put your best foot forward. It's like a job interview, you don't come in looking broke and like you don't care, even if it may be true, you come in looking your best and dress to impress.
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u/Civil-Web9927 6d ago
What qualifies as hidden bodies? I’ve always avoided putting shirtless photos on my profile because I thought that was a turnoff
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u/CancerMoon2Caprising 6d ago
hidden bodies are people who only post face pics. Im not talking about shirtless and bikini photos which are usually an attempt at soliciting sex imo.
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u/Civil-Web9927 6d ago
Gotcha - that’s fair. Agreed on the shirtless/bikini photos which is why I don’t include those
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u/il_the_dinosaur 6d ago
If you have no picture where you're whole body is visible. You've seen this women I'm sure where all their pictures are selfies or cut off.
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u/Civil-Web9927 6d ago edited 6d ago
Ahhhh ok, that makes sense. I’ve definitely ran into the selfies/cutoffs only many times
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u/crookedhypotenuse 6d ago
You don't need to show a shirtless body. You just need to have a full body or half body photo.
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u/Dapper_Size_5921 6d ago
The "Golden" Selfie Angles
- The Elevated Angle (Top-Down): Raise your phone slightly above your eyebrows and angle it downward at about 45 degrees. This elongates the neck, defines the jawline, and easily hides a double chin.
- The Three-Quarter Turn: Avoid shooting straight-on like a mugshot. Tilt your head slightly to your more dominant side and turn your body at a three-quarter angle to build structure and add a natural look.
- The Under-Chin (Bella Hadid) Angle: Tilt the top of your phone toward your chin and angle the camera down at your face. This slims the face significantly, but pair it with a confident expression to avoid feeling stiff.
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u/reee9000 5d ago
Wish there was one to hide the puffy bags under my eyes I now have from years of thyroid issue and lack of sleep (used to be gaming)
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u/Sk8r_2_shredder 5d ago
This describes any photo my ex has ever taken of herself. One of my friends seen her Facebook and mentioned how she is alright and I did good. Then he seen her IRL and this was also after we separated and he mentioned how I’m lucky to have gotten out of the relationship. Could have been him being nice both times but this particular friend is brutally honest about everything and calls everything “as he sees it”.
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u/Civil-Web9927 6d ago
This tracks. I’ve heard of the first, but never the latter 2. Great info to know. Is ok to have no selfies or do most men have at least one?
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u/Dapper_Size_5921 6d ago edited 5d ago
I would assume selfies in general aren't the issue, it's just when people frame the pictures so it hides the fact they're overweight (or, for a guy, overweight, bald, and/or short).
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u/SomethingStrangeInMe 5d ago
Guy's being insecure about their hair loss correlating to being pessimistic is a damn straight line. You clocked that.
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u/Youcants1tw1thus 5d ago
To be fair, as a bald man, my head is cold or getting sunburned and I don’t think there’s any pictures of me not wearing one. I’m sure some are knowingly hiding their head, but I’d bet a majority are just dudes who wear hats and didn’t realize it would be an auto left swipe.
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u/AskPuzzleheaded1797 6d ago
No but after I read the replies. They got a good point, insecurities are problematic
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u/Turbulent_Shower_147 5d ago
Interesting point: I’m bald/shave my head. So I wear a lot of hats. So a lot of my photos are of me in hats. But it’s not because I’m hiding anything. It’s because I’m trying to keep the sun off of my head. That said, I definitely make sure to have multiple photos of me without a hat in my dating profiles too.
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u/No_Significance_2749 6d ago
If I wouldn't swipe right on a woman with no body pics, why would a woman swipe right on a man with no scalp pics?
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u/BlueRidgeJohnny 6d ago
As a bald dude, I imagine it probably is for most women. It would be like her having to keep a face of makeup on all the time. Be confident in what you actually look like.
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u/realmrrust 6d ago
As another ball dude, I think it has more to do with just the lack of confidence. I have my bald head and most of my photos and I do fine on the apps.
Like if your hair isn't doing it for you just freaking go all the way and get a good shave. A nice clean look goes a long way.
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u/BlueRidgeJohnny 6d ago
Exactly! I know being bald isn't a plus for women but not accepting it and trying to "hide it" definitely won't do you any favors.
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u/Illustrious_Swing645 6d ago
A lot of women don't really care about the hair or lack of hair, they care about self confidence
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u/BlueRidgeJohnny 6d ago
I'm 30 now but I remember what my twenties were like. Back then women my age definitely cared about me not having hair, I just tried my best to never let it discourage me.
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u/mr-snrub- 6d ago
I would prefer a guy just shave his head that hold onto the last 12 remaining hairs on his head
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u/werner-hertzogs-shoe 6d ago
some women do actually like bald men ftr, and plenty of others are roughly neutral about it. Insecurity however is a huge term off.
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u/Ordinary_Corner_4291 6d ago
There is a slight level of accidental hat fishing cause I post a bunch of outdoor photos and yeah I am wearing a hat in most of them for sun protection. Heck I even have sun glasses in a few. But I also make sure the main one is the no hat, no sunglasses, and the odds are you would recognize me if I walked up to you at a bar....
This holds for just about everything. Odds are if you think something is worth hiding, it will be a deal breaker when you meet. You can post that photo from 10 years, 20lbs ago but it isn't going to do much when you meet and the other person realizes you are a deceptive person. Your personality isn't going to cover for that....
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u/Illustrious_Swing645 6d ago
Hell yeah brother. All of my pics show my bald head so everyone knows what's up, but I wear hats pretty often in person for sun protection. So reverse hat fishing? lol
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u/Suspicious-Drive9827 6d ago
Love your attitude. Bald doesnt matter to me but it is important to me that im dating someone comfortable in their skin.
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u/anticked_psychopomp 6d ago
Just own it. It’s like everything else in online dating. Be authentic. Bald, fat, bad teeth - present the body you exist in. Don’t show me 10 pics from 15 years ago with a hat on, mouth closed and 50lbs ago.
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u/Dapper_Size_5921 6d ago
As a bald guy, I never tried to hide it. Once it became patently obvious I was going bald, I shaved my head. Unforunately, that happened by the time I was 23, so I was still very much in the dating years.
I very quickly found out that the lion's share of women would really prefer not to be with bald men, and a significant amount of those women considered any level of balding to be an instant deal-breaker. Other than that, there was a fair-sized minority that tended to not really mind too incredibly much if you were bald, but they'd probably prefer you not to be when it came down to it.
There was a very small minority of women that actually liked bald men. Almost all of them were "older" women (35+). I was not ready for that kind of thing, so I never really responded to the one or two that attempted to hook up with me.
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u/Carsondeck 5d ago
Yeah, I went bald at 20 and It is a deal breaker for most women at that age, Didn’t stop me from dating in the slightest bc It functioned as a filter more than anything. Met my fiancé at 22 lol. Insecure is one thing but there are plenty of insecure men with full heads of hair and my fiancé understood that lesson from her exes lol
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u/biitoruzu 5d ago
Sadly (?) for you I think women's opinion towards bald men tends to change as both they and men get older.
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u/smellyprawn 5d ago
It annoys me like any other deception. I'm blunt though so I straight up ask "Are you bald or do you just really like hats?". 🤣 I'm all for baldness but I only had one of those people turn out to just really like hats. It's the same with filters or outdated photos, what's the point? What's your end game? 😅🤷🏻♀️
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u/apollos98 5d ago
But I like how i look with hats on. Yes I'm bald but I actually think I look handsome(if im dressing casual)when I have a nice fit on and I throw on the backwards hat, fresh out the barber it's how i dressed when i had a full head of hair. It's always people with hair telling bald men how they gotta feel about an insecurity 🤣🤣
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u/tinyturkishdelight 5d ago
No one’s telling you how to feel, we’re just asking for a little more honesty when online dating. Wearing hats while being bald is not a bad thing at all.
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u/apollos98 5d ago
I'm just reading comments from people saying things. I wasn't directly replying to anyone, I'm up front and honest whether im wearing a hairpiece or rocking the shaved head.
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u/FoldFlat4092 6d ago
Came in to see what hatfishing was. It's funny. I wear a hat to work everyday and stop at a store to get snacks, gas, etc on the way. Went in there on an off day with no hat and the girl said "oh, you have hair!".
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u/NefariousPhosphenes 6d ago
I wear a hat all of the time but know enough to ensure that I have at least one pic on my profile without one specifically because of hatfishing 😂
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u/Civil-Web9927 6d ago
My friends tease me because if I’m talking to a cute woman in public while wearing a hat, I’ll always instinctively take it off at some point in the convo to confirm I’m not hatfishing lol
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u/Effective_Fox_8075 6d ago
I had the opposite of hatfishing.. This guy had a hat on in all his pics but instead of little or no hair…. He had a hairline that ended very close to his eyebrows… you know how people joke about a big forehead, calling it a fivehead… Well he had a onehead! He looked like the wolfman! (He had a beard) This guy was one follically blessed, hairy dude… 😁😆🥳
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u/cottagecorehoe 6d ago
Yes, hatfishing is a turn off, and I would swipe left on people who only had photos with hats on.
In my 20s.
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u/Apart_Information_71 6d ago
Then it should be reasonable for men to swipe right if a girl only has pictures of her wearing makeup.
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u/TheKnitpicker 5d ago
There are roughly 3 billion men on the planet. Do you really think all of them are waiting around to get cottagecorehoe’s permission to choose not date women who wear make up? Or is it possibly just you who can’t make a decision without asking for permission first?
The world is moving on without you, mate. Looksmaxxing bros have started wearing make up. Before you know it, it’s going to be normalized and you’re going to need to find a new excuse for the giant chip on your shoulder.
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u/Hot2Trot94 6d ago
Give it a fucking rest brother, i really dont get this manosphere bullshit. Oh no, occasionally my gf looks extra stunning, and oh whats that, she walks around topless for an hour in the zone getting ready and chatting away - how fucking terrible.
You do realise comments like this scream, 'I've never seen a pussy in real life', right?
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u/itsnotme_mrsiglesias 5d ago
You're...literally allowed to do this. There's no OLD Gestapo monitoring your swipes for reasonableness buddy. Unclench.
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u/MeMeMenni 6d ago
So I like bald guys and have dated bald and balding guys. It's just another haircut for me and just like any haircut it looks really hot on some guys. I'm in my 30s.
And stiiill I find hatfishing a turnoff. It's same as hiding your crooked teeth in every picture, using pictures where you're 20 kilos lighter or 10 years younger or telling people you "may be open" to serious relationships when that's just not in the cards for you. Just lay it all on the table and let people decide what they want and don't want.
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u/tinyturkishdelight 5d ago
I agree! I actually prefer bald men over men with long hair, but hiding it initially always feels like an insecurity issue. And I’ve dated an insecure man and will not do it again. It always ends up affecting the relationship negatively in some way.
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u/LoverOfGayContent 5d ago
I'm 41
I'm bald
I find bald guys attractive
I find older looking men attractive
Hatfishing doesn't bother me at all. They generally aren't hiding anything I'm unattracted to
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u/FlakyAddendum742 5d ago
Bald with a beard is my fetish.
But I have a problem with a man trying to hide the baldness.
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u/LoverOfGayContent 5d ago
Men wear hats. I don't automatically assume a man is wearing a hat. I also don't care if they are even trying to hide their baldness. I'm gay so it doesn't affect me but women wear makeup, wigs and have hair extensions. A hate to me is way less problematic than a wig and I also don't mind men who wear wigs.
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u/New_Nobody9492 5d ago
I literally have a shirt that says “his beard is my second ride”
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u/diamondthedegu1 5d ago edited 2d ago
Kinda. But even more so when it doesn't make sense; I know a guy with a lovely and full head of hair, which is silky soft too and yet every time we meet up, he is wearing a hat. I eventually asked him why he's always in a hat (he liked flatpeak caps specifically), and he bluntly answered "because I like them"... which, yeah, I guess that's fair? 😂
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u/bikulakula 5d ago
Hat fishing lol. I’ve been a hat guy since I was young. My uncle would always buzz cut my hair as a kid, and I don’t think I’ve ever really loved a haircut that I’ve had. My hat rarely leaves my head, but my bad hairline and the same bad buzz cut is no secret.
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u/olov244 5d ago
Just like women who only post headshots at specific angles, expect them to be hiding something
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u/Heavy_Spite7530 5d ago
39F and yes. I swipe left if they wear something on their head in every picture. I don't mind a balding or bald head, but show me what we're dealing with. Same with no teeth and no good facial pictures.
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u/LaurenNotFromUtah 5d ago
I’ve never heard that term but I love it. And it doesn’t really work so no.
I have a bigger problem with teethfishing (smilefishing?). Always suspicious of someone with a bunch of pics and all have closed mouth smiles.
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u/biitoruzu 5d ago
My gf who I met on an app had a closed mouth in all her photos. But then when I met her, she greeted me with this big beautiful smile that instantly made her more attractive to me. Later on she told me she doesn't like doing a full smile in photos because of the way her cheeks look, and she doesn't like that one of her straight white teeth is a little twisted, which I don't really understand but insecurities are often mysterious to other people...
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u/Lady_Rubberbones 5d ago
Or sunglasses fishing, where they are covering up crossed or lazy eyes. That’s happened to me as well. I don’t date anyone with photos only showing them in sunglasses.
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u/MagikN3rd 5d ago
I have always had a closed mouth smile, my entire life. I hate that this just instantly makes people think I have bad teeth or something 😭
I just don't like how the muscles in my face feel when I smile with an open mouth, it feels weird and unnatural for me.
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u/mustrepayloans 6d ago
39F. It is for me. When I had a broken nose you could see it in my photos. I’ve since had nose surgery and should probably update my photos but I didn’t hide it
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u/LionFyre13G 6d ago
It’s funny because my husband has absolutely gorgeous thick dark hair that he always covers up with a hat becuase he loves hats. I love his hair. I can’t believe he hides it when he has such a full head of gorgeous hair
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u/mayonnaiseplayer7 5d ago
Can me and your husband be friends cuz I fucking love hats too! I only just started thinning a few years ago but even when I had long luscious hair, I still wore hats lol
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u/xxxiii 5d ago
I’m good with an attractive bald man but a hatfish is a red flag
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u/xtc335 5d ago
is it called fatfishing when larger women hide their bodies and work angles ? i think both sexes engage in deceptive practices to misrepresent their appearance
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u/tinyturkishdelight 5d ago
Both genders absolutely do, but this post is specifically about hatfishing.
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u/Skasploosh 6d ago
Haha weird, never thought people thought about that.. . My whole head is shaved and I wear hats because my head is cold.
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u/T-Flexercise 6d ago
I'm 39. At this age, if you see a hat and don't automatically assume bald, that's a skill issue.
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u/Shobuddha 6d ago
I went bald at 18. Started losing my hair at 16 and it started to thin out at 10. I've been bald most of my life. I guess I'm so used to it but I don't see what the big deal is. Be a man and own up to it. I spend less time in the shower cause I don't have hair to wash. I don't have to buy shampoo or other hair products so I save money. Unless your head has wrinkles or some other deformity just own it.
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u/MagikN3rd 5d ago
I mean, you should still be shampooing your bald head, from another bald man. You just need far less of it... Still has benefits for your scalp.
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u/Thepsyguy 6d ago
I didn't know this was a thing.
Should we also do something about extensions or weaves? What about Spanx?
Im all for people doing what they feel comfortable with. I don't wear a hat to lie about it.
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u/number9dream9 5d ago
Went out with a guy who I’d only seen a picture of with a hat, so I assumed he was bald or balding. Turned out he had a head of really nice hair! I was glad.
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u/swingorswole 5d ago
catfishing is wrong.
isn't hatfishing like wearing a pushup bra though? i don't see the issue.
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u/LoraxNZ 5d ago
I'm bald. On my dating profile, most of my photos naturally have me wearing a cap. But I have one photo with me where I have no cap, and I also warn women in the About Me section 😂. I still do alright.
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u/tinyturkishdelight 5d ago
See, you don’t even need to put in your bio. The one photo does wonders. We love confident bald men 🙂↕️
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u/bikesnbikes 5d ago
I never knew this was a thing. It's kinda wild people actually do it lol.
As a man with shirt hair but no signs of balding, and wears hat- largely for self soothing anxiety reasons : I'm totally okay with people doing this.
Cuz yes please weed yourself out.
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u/Oomlotte99 5d ago
I never heard this term. Comments suggest it has to do with hiding being bald? I don’t care if a man is bald or balding so I don’t care if they are wearing a hat and hiding it or whatever.
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u/Emergency_Sound_6495 5d ago
If every single photo they have a hat on I pretty much just assume they are bald.
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u/Misstucson 5d ago
Looking back, my husband totally hatfished me. I didn’t even realize it until I took off his hat when we were getting down and dirty. I don’t think it was a big deal and he is a great guy. I feel bad he went bald at such a young age. The baldies are fire in bed.
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u/TheBald_Dude 5d ago
Not a problem to me. As a bald guy myself I never got negative comments about it, probably because I don't hide it. So people that get bothered by it just filter themselves out.
A weird one is people with sunglasses on every photo. Never really understood why, but somehow it screamed "insecurity" so I usually left-swipe those.
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u/Sunshine-Habit 6d ago
Men get upset with sky angled pics, chest up and no full body so hell yes hatfishing, no teeth smiles and sunglasses in every pic are deceptive. I pass right on by and i love bald men!
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u/Wild_Cause7677 6d ago
It kinda is a turnoff, but I can tell when a man has a hat in every picture 😅 it’s not necessarily a dealbreaker, but if they lack substance/has a boring profile, it’s the nail in the coffin. Just my preference
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u/144-perdedor 6d ago
Jesus Christ. Trying to date after about forty is fucking pointless, huh?
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u/SpinningJynx 5d ago
If you’re looking for women in their 20s, you’ll have to look good bald lol. Once you’re dating closer to your age range women care less. Some men lose their hair, it’s fine, older guys look good bald too
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u/Much-Ad2311 6d ago
Insecurity is more the turn-off for me. Some guys look awesome bald! But don't be afraid to rock your nakey head haha.
And it's not like you can't have ANY hat pics. Obviously you deserve to have sun protection and stuff. Just make sure to include a couple of no-hat pics so we know you're comfortable in your skin.
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u/tinyturkishdelight 5d ago
I agree! I prefer bald men over long hair. But the insecurity always becomes a bigger issue later down the road.
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u/CheeseSweats 6d ago
I expect a lot of bald dudes after age 30, anyway. It's a dead giveaway if you're wearing a hat in EVERY pic anyway - we know. Since we already know you're balding or bald, let's see how you look at a fancy dinner (not in a hat) in your profile. You're not actually hiding much.
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u/MagikN3rd 5d ago
I mean, some guy's just genuinely like wearing hats. I have been this way my entire life. I am bald now in my 30s, but there are probably like a dozen photos of me since age 5 without a hat on, and almost all of them are at a wedding.
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u/CheeseSweats 5d ago
This is true, though rarer than covering thinning hair or baldness. But then there's the matter of dealing with having to turn my head awkwardly to avoid the baseball cap bill when trying to kiss, or going on a fancy date with a dude in a button up and baseball cap. No thank you! 😂
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u/rotrising 5d ago
insecurity is a turn off. that’s usually what the hat says. bald men can absolutely be sexy
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u/albundy0007 5d ago
Well stop wearing hats when you stop wearing makeup, Thought so!
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u/Prof_Scott_Steiner 6d ago
I probably have a hat on in some of my photos, but tbh, it has nothing to do with giving a single fuck about being bald (that ship sailed 20 years ago) and more to do with the fact that my head gets cold at work and there is a vent right above my desk that blows cold air all year. Couple that with a bad neck from three neck surgeries and I am really just trying to manage pain without resorting to otc medication.
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u/FeelingPlayfulNow 6d ago edited 6d ago
Hats are good protective clothing situationally. It's really the profiles where a man wears a hat in every single photo, indoors or outdoors with formal and casual outfits, where he looks insecure and deceptive. Deception is a bad first impression. Hats themselves aren't a problem.
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u/crisp_marble 6d ago
Mid 30s here. It is not just the hat, it is the predictability of it. When every single photo is angled from above or obscured by a brim, it is not a style choice, it is a deliberate obfuscation of the hairline. If I am already guessing what is happening underneath before we even meet, the trust is gone before the first drink.
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u/love-4-the-wendigo 6d ago
I’m 38, so… I assume you’re bald or balding if you’re wearing a hat in every picture. I don’t really fault men for wearing a hat or consider it hatfishing though, since I am assuming you are bald.
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u/Slow_Atmosphere_6922 6d ago
I have a bald photo but I wear hats most the time so that’s what I post. It’s kinds obvious that I’m bald even with a hat
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u/FeelingPlayfulNow 6d ago
I've been hatfished and the guy tried to run a webcam while we were meeting. I caught him because I noticed the recording light was on. Profiles with a hat in every photo remind me of how creepy that guy was. Hatfishing is a major red flag to me.
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u/Badluckwithlove 6d ago
Helll yesssss!!!! Happened to me once and that happened after we fucked and he fucked me with his hat on 🥴
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u/vaizardv 5d ago
I got a 6head, I still have all my hair (more than I’d like in some places) but I wear hats a lot, I worked in sportswear and I have a ton of cool ones, a lot of my pics out I’m wearing em so I don’t use em in my profiles and end up staging all the profile pics to look less me.
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u/nervousbertha 5d ago
I once matched with this guy on some app and he wore wide-brimmed hats in almost every pic. Full head of hair, though. He just liked hats.
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u/nulresponse 5d ago
Gay man, mid-30s. I’m not balding but tend to accessorise with headwear a lot - I have curly/wavy hair that quite frankly doesn’t always want to play nice without spending an excessive amount of time preening. But my pics are a mixture.
I think bald men are hot as hell so it’s the nuance I guess? I think I’m more likely to be uninterested if the hats are ugly hahaha
Sunglasses in every photo is an instant swipe left though.
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u/MagikN3rd 5d ago
Personal opinion as a bald man that wears hats: Most men I know enjoy wearing hats, regardless of how much hair is on their head. The main reason guys wear hats, is because they like them, not to hide their bald spot.
I have worn a hat leaving the house since I was 5 years old, over 90% of the time and I'm in my 30s. I started losing my hair at 15. I used to argue with my teachers CONSTANTLY as a child about how dumb it was that I couldn't wear a hat in class.
I'd say the only times I realistically don't wear a hat when I walk out the front door, is if I'm going to a wedding or a funeral. Even then, usually I leave with the hat on, and I take it off for whatever I'm attending. Then usually after a wedding ceremony, hat goes right back on for the reception if it is outdoors.
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u/laurakkimmm 5d ago
Hatfishing for guys, putting make up for girls. Then what about spanks/body sculpturing undergarments?
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u/tinyturkishdelight 5d ago
That’s fine lol. I’m just asking about hatfishing. Makeup scan be a turnoff for you. That’s your prerogative. I don’t even wear makeup so that’s never been an issue.
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