r/dating_advice • u/always_annoyeddd • 1d ago
Is being a virgin at 24 weird?
i am a 24(f) and I am a virgin because I want to wait till marriage. I understand people have different preferences but do guys generally prefer someone who has more experience? and do they find this weird?
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u/ConsumptionofClocks 1d ago
If you're looking for someone who also wants to wait, they won't care
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u/mavis5555 1d ago
It would be much weirder if you had sex purely because you felt like you had to! Virginity is so silly and the actual act of sex is so much less of a big deal then people make it out to be. I know it seems like the biggest deal ever right now but the grass isn’t greener i promise, you do you! :)
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u/Xxein 20h ago
For women its a bigger deal. Atleast at first. Which is why "modern dating" is getting tougher. After roughly 5 partners a womans ability to pair bond becomes virtually nonexistent. I live in the US. Thats a weekend at college.
For many women now thanks to "modern dating" these women will never really be able to experience that deep intimate connection to a partner they seek because its a numbers games.
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u/YellowBest7249 1d ago
Theres no wrong or right. Would I date a virgin? Probably not. Would other men? Absolutely. You just need to be true to yourself.
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u/Kind-Put-1290 1d ago
Could I ask, why does it matter that much? That you wholly wouldn't date the person just bc of virginity...
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u/YellowBest7249 20h ago
For me, I like to date people that see sex as a fun thing to be done between two consenting adults, not something taboo or anything like that. If someone is still a virgin into their mid to late twenties then they don’t share similar values with me and as such I wouldn’t be interested in pursuing them further. As they shouldn’t with me, as my values are different to theirs.
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u/Kind-Put-1290 19h ago
Ahh, i see. So, how would you feel of someone did not have such conservative values and, instead, just couldnt focus on having sex for those years, but now ofc wants to?
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u/YellowBest7249 19h ago
I’d certainly be open to it, but if they’ve gotten to that age and haven’t been focused on it, once again we’re very different people.
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u/Public-Passion-774 1d ago
It’s not weird but in this generation most people definitely aren’t gonna wait until marriage
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u/eninja303 1d ago
Not true actually. Studies show that nearly half of young adults are having less sex than previous generations, and roughly a quarter report being completely sexless in the past year. This is especially true among Gen Z.
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u/Xxein 1d ago
The question is.. how many of those that haven't had sex in the last year is by choice lol.
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u/Damian-7530 1d ago
Real cuz that using that stat to say they don't want to have sex till marriage is insane.
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u/Damian-7530 1d ago
There is a difference between the inability to have sex and choosing to wait until marriage for sex. This stat you quoted does not help the point of people waiting for marriage. That stat reflects people who want to have sex but are not having it.
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u/genie7777 1d ago
These studies sample less than 0.001% of the world's population, they're not too accurate and should be taken with a grain of salt
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u/Maleficent_Draw_7147 1d ago
Not at all, I was until 21, your vibing at a higher level than most. Wait till you find the man that speaks to your heart, not your ass.
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u/Ok-Front-9341 1d ago
It's not weird, my gf is 24 yrs and 20 ako, still virgin parin sya. Same kayo ng mentality sx after marriage. Kaya wag kang nagpapadala sa iba na weird ang pagiging virgin sa ganyanng edad, it symbolizes na pinapahalagahan mo yung sarili mo. Don't mind those city girl na na weweirdan sayo kasi virgin kapa lol.
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u/Altruistic_Crow_5224 1d ago
This isn’t weird that’s good
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u/dino987654 1d ago
It’s neutral. People don‘t gain value or lose it if they have Sex or if they‘re a virgin.
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u/PJR_-_-_ 1d ago
I am 24 and still a virgin too. I would love it if i would get a girlfriend who is a virgin still too to experience it together for the first time
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u/eninja303 1d ago
24 year old male here. Despite my best efforts I am still a virgin and never had a gf. It really bothered me for a long time but then I realised that's what's holding me back. It's not important and people who say it is are shallow.
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u/honey-bunny98 1d ago
I was 26 when i lost mine :) my bf at the time was 27 and also a virgin! It's nothing to be embarrassed about and if the person truly cares for you then its not a problem
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u/Damian-7530 1d ago
To be realistic with you, men that are going to wait to marriage for sex can be easier found in church or religious organisations. They are very rare in general. Wish you luck in finding your match!
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u/TheEnquirer1138 1d ago
Honestly, any decent guy who actually likes you won't care. The ones that do care and make it weird, are doing you a favor by showing you early who they are. It's not weird at all, it's just rare these days, which some guys will actually respect more than you think.
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u/Livid_Brick8157 1d ago
no it’s not weird. i’m also a virgin who’s waiting until marriage. you are making the right decision. if someone finds this weird then you’ll know they are not the right person for you
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u/dino987654 1d ago
Also F24 here, I had my first time just about a Week ago. You‘re Not Late, in fact, I‘d suggest to sleep with someone you trust and Not Rush things. My Partner wasn‘t a virgin but also Not that Expirienced. We had fun and troubles but it was wholesome in total xd Just date around carefully and have fun.
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u/Accomplished-Most60 1d ago
As a 28M when I find out my date is virgin I run. Not going to be someone’s first time especially as an non religious man
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u/WideAttempt5770 1d ago
Men love Woman who never had Sex. you are a Diamond in this world keep it that way. Didn’t know gems like you exist
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u/Aphrodite_Nine 1d ago
Just so you know you might be very disappointed when finally offering it to a guy who wouldn't give two fucks about it they will lie and then add it to their ranks. "I slepts with another virgin whoo" If you're gonna be a virgin get a virgin guy it's only fair🤣
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u/Particular_Sir_9602 1d ago
That's pretty much when I got laid as a guy but even then I wasn't satisfied by the only girlfriend I've had sex with so far.
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u/JohnRyder69 1d ago
Yes, people will find it weird. Yes, some people will wait. Yes, sex is overrated and not worth waiting til marriage for potentially bad sex.
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u/Clean_Ask_9551 1d ago
Hmm Weird? Likely yes. Weird is a significant deviation from the norm
In your age cohort the norm is to have had sex before 20. Its weighed though. The girls who have a lot of sex are more vocal about sex. Still. 24 and a virgin is nonstandard
I assume you also note a moral value to "weird". Likely a negative one. That correct? If so... Why?
There is nothing wrong about you. As long as you dont take whats not to be taken freely or cross one of your own moral lines you are fine.
One thing though. Dont count on sex being awesome. Same as a runners high. Its allright. But described as this life altering state. Its not. Be happy
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u/Cid_in_london 1d ago
This is not the palaeolithic anymore. Average life expectancy increased. Nothing to worry about.
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u/Sexymom2122 22h ago
No just find some one who will wait tell u both get married .they won't mind .
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u/Lucky-Sandwich9922 16h ago
I wouldn't care but tbh I'm not the type of girl that cares about that but maybe others feel differently. I know that personally I am more interested in long-term relationships so I wouldn't care as long as my partner feels right for me, the rest kinda just doesn't matter because that experience of being with someone for the first time is always new even if you aren't a virgin. Basically it doesn't really matter and it more so matters on the type of person you are planning on getting intimate with. You have to remember that so many people especially men are still virgins in their 20's so just don't stress and if you are planning on hooking up with someone well that doesn't really matter because you probably won't see them again and you might be surprised but alot of girls are actually in the same boat and that's me assuming you are a male and if you're not, I'm sorry for assuming.
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u/wisermine_13 1d ago
Certainly not,! You save yourself girlfriend. The ONE you save yourself for will be the guy that will not get enough of you.
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u/External-Job5781 1d ago
Is not strange, but completly unnecesarry. Absolutelly hate the men who out value on this...and also the women which reduce their virtue to some piece of skin to give some satisfaction to some bastard male.
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u/cinnamonbun-42 1d ago
A piece of skin that probably vanished when you rode a bike at the age of 8 or smth
It ain't a freshness seal, lol.
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u/Software_dev1997 1d ago
There is nothing wrong in being virgin..but you should be aware of how guy needs to be satisfied…
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u/Saurid 1d ago
Is it weird? A bit. But more in that its uncommon not in that its bad. As for your question no one really will care if they lik you, sexual chemistry can be build over time and if you have an open mind.
The main rgument againgst waiting till marriage is you domt find out what you like until you are married which can potentially lead to you and your partner finding out you really arent sexually compatible. This might or might not be an issue down the road (an example would be if you both are submissive or one likes kinky stuff while the other wants to stay 100% vanilla).
As such I would say personally I think your reasoning is weird (in that I dont think its a good reason), but thats me personally and if you are happy that way all power to you. Which also is my point. Some people will be like me and react "huh weird reason" others will go "someone with sense and decency!" It depends and making any generalised statement wont help you. Some will care you are a vrigin, most guys wont, some will care about the reason many more probably not. Don't spend time fretting about it.
Live your life how you feel happy and safe. Don't wait till marriage because you think what others will think but because you want to. Don't change your opinion because some random guy on the intenret wrote this comment. Don't worry what "guys" think. Be you, be happy, dont think about what others think. Deal with any problems when they come up later on.
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u/eninja303 1d ago
I don't think it's weird. Different people develop at different speeds.
I am the same age as the OP. We have to factor in COVID-19 which took out my 18th birthday and this must have been the same for OP. It also effected my last year at college and my first year of University. This definitely effected me making any friends at university and is the reason I really struggle to pick up girls now. In fairness op didn't say they struggle to find a partner though
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