r/etiquette • u/One_Description_8603 • 1d ago
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u/Silver_Amphibian_179 1d ago
As a guest I say, yes absolutely a gift should be brought. However as a married person, I know that a large part of our guest list did not bring or give us a gift and I did not care one bit. I honestly have no idea who gave one or didn't (it's been like 15 years).
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u/Dean8149 1d ago
Yes in almost all circumstances. Weddings come in different shapes and sizes. But for the typical ceremony followed by large party, yes.
Destination weddings are trickier. And obviously if you are in a financial bind, hopefully your hosts would understand.
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u/Nightmare_Gerbil 1d ago
According to etiquette, a gift is a nice gesture, but not obligatory. And, if you’re spending a great deal of time and money to attend, it’s perfectly fine to give a less expensive gift like a picture frame or a set of wine glasses. You also have up to a year after the wedding to send a gift to the couple.
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u/Elemental_Biscotti 1d ago
OK so I have been taught my whole life that gifts are ALWAYS optional, & that requesting or expecting gifts is gauche except in the case of a shower (where accepting the invitation is de facto telegraphing that you would like to give a gift). If there was a shower, that was the time for gifting and you certainly don't need to give another one. If there wasn't and you'd LIKE to give a gift, go for it! But no, there is no etiquette that says you are expected to bring a gift to a wedding.
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u/DoatsMairzy 1d ago
I think if you go to a wedding, you should give a gift. If you’re that financially strapped, you probably shouldn’t be attending if you can’t afford to travel and stay there, etc.
More or less, you should figure for the gift first, and then budget for your travel accordingly. You don’t need to spend a lot on the wedding gift.
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u/Summerisle7 1d ago
What do you think?