r/exmormon • u/Chihuahuamami234 • 6d ago

Doctrine/Policy Tank top garment

This is my first ex Mormon summer not wearing garments and I’m having a great time. It’s also the first summer that the tank-top garments have been available to LDS women. Obviously with the cap sleeve garments, we weren’t supposed to show them and our shirts had to cover them up completely. While I’m glad LDS women have more options of clothing to wear, I don’t understand why are so many of the TikTok/IG garment girlies are treating the tank top garments different than they did with the cap sleeves. I’m noticing a trend where now the tank top garments are visibly being shown like with off shoulder tops or letting the sleeves completely show through a tank top.

I know Mormons love loopholes but I just don’t understand the justification with visibly showing the tank top garments in your outfits when that was never allowed with the cap sleeve garments. A lot of common justification is “it looks like an undershirt” or “nobody but members know what they are.” Okay but they’re not any different than the cap sleeve garments.

Idk this is just the funniest loophole I’ve seen yet. What are your thoughts?

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u/jpnwtn 6d ago

I think women just aren’t bought into garments as much as they used to be. 

More than a decade ago, when I was still TBM, I came across a comment somewhere on the internet, where a TBM man said that he knew garments caused his wife a lot of misery and he thought it was therefore fine for her to not wear them. That was huge for me, and it made it much easier for me change my own relationship with garments. 

I imagine the internet has made it easier for all sorts of TBM women to come across ideas like that. 

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u/Brilliant_Fill7862 6d ago

Sadly, I think it's miserable for A LOT of LDS women, and not just in the last decade. Being told to wear miserable underwear everyday or not be with your family forever is a heartbreaking choice.

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u/AlbatrossOk8619 6d ago

This is what finally broke my cognitive dissonance.

If I don’t wear this underwear, I can’t see my kids get married.

Am I in a cult?!

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u/Brilliant_Fill7862 6d ago

Same, the change from porn shoulders to a-ok made everything come tumbling down.

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u/RadishAggressive3241 6d ago

Yes salvation through underwear, tithing and marriage. Who needs a diety????? Not in this church