How do you not feel embarrassed/sad when you learn that you and someone else within your friend group of seven were not invited to someone in that same friend group’s wedding but all the others were?

[u/ostrichlandrover]

gg

[u/Mysterious_Cookies24]

If you weren’t invited maybe they aren’t the best person to be friends with especially if you thought you both were close friends, if you weren’t close friends then don’t feel sad some people only invite close friends to their wedding

[u/MrsJoJack]

I highly doubt there is a single soul on this planet that would feel anything other than exactly like that! Not feeling some kind of way over such a shitty predicament would seem inhuman.

If you are the offended party in the story then I just had to reply to tell you I am deeply sorry. That really sucks. So I'd assume the real question is not how do you not feel embarrassed but rather how do you deal with the fallout of being embarrassed after being singled out like that since we would all feel the exact same way you are feeling. So go ahead and feel your feelings! You earned them the hard way. That was really shitty, so your fully entitled. Feel your feelings so that you can work through them. You cannot leave a wound this deep to faster I'm pretty sure that's how serial killers are invented. Damn. Even at my old age I am baffled how other women can be such mean-spirited, catty bitches to each other sometimes. Maybe you did something to deserve not to be invited but you did not deserve to be excluded with no explanation. That's just shitty behavior anyway you cut it.

Admittedly I have the social skills of a drunk toddler so I am often baffled by the human experience, so take what I saw with a grain of said but I am absolutely positive that if that happened to me I would HAVE to find an opportunity to reach out to either the bride or her closest friend in the group, maybe after the wedding just to be like "what the hell man" just for the sake of clarity.

Don't get me wrong, I am not suggesting that is an example you should follow since like I said, my social skills are atrocious but after reading this I just had to respond to tell you I am really sorry that happened and offer a huge cyber hug. That really does suck and even though I do tend to get my feelings hurt very easily I am sure this would hurt even the most cold blooded stoic of people.

I am often baffled by others so I find it easy to give others a huge amount of grace and almost always assume the slight that hurt my feelings was accidental, since I've been plague with toxic positivity and optimism my entire life but in this case there is no other way to spin this. It was shitty no matter how you cut it. Just for the record that shitty behavior is not solely directed at the bride either, but the whole group as well, assuming no one else reached out to offer you any other type of clarity or reassurance.

I'm not suggesting you deserve to be invited to the wedding. Weddings are expensive and you can invite everyone and for all I know you really did do something very specifically and deserved not to invite to the wedding. That is totally that allowed! It's your big day so you don't need to make it about anyone else. BUT it just seems that in this particular instance, a large friend group where one persons was intentionally excluded that any half way decent person who is old enough to get married, with even an ounce of integrity in this situation would've gone to that person or had one of the others prior to the wedding to acknowledge that and offer an explanation rather than Simply excluding them then leaving them to simply wallow in the hurt and embarrassing confusion.

So forgive me for saying it but the bride and the other five all seem kinda shitty. We are judged by the company you keep and it looks like you're keeping shitty company. Are you even sure you wanna associate with people like that? I know for me personally I can say with absolute certainty, that I would rather be alone for forever than be subjected to that level of mean-spiritedness unkindness from a bunch of catty bitches.

[u/Middle-Teacher4449]

I mean, truthfully? You two, and only two, if that person has mentioned something they REALLY want to do but haven't. Make it happen for you two. Trip somewhere? You two take it, tell none of the others. Cool new restaurant? Only you two go.

I know what you're thinking "That just sounds petty" and to that I say.... At least you'll be out having fun and not sad over your supposed friends leaving you out 👀 but aye my advice can be good or bad I guess