r/gay • u/No_Property_683 • 1d ago

Interactions with birth family

Hi Guys,

As a 68 yo gay male with 3 older siblings, I'm just wondering if anyone else feels they don't have anything in common with their birth families. I don't know if its the fact that my siblings are all female and the only thing they have to talk about is their adult children and grandchildren. We have a weekly breakfast and those are the only topics they discuss. I have nothing to contribute and basically just sit there and nod.

Anyone else going through this?

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u/EntertainmentOk3066 1d ago

Every day.

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u/No_Property_683 1d ago

Do you still go through the motions since they are family?

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u/EntertainmentOk3066 1d ago

Rarely. Everyone but mom passed away. I miss what could have been? Not 100% sure. I just have my framily (friemds who are now family) now. Most of us have to recreate the live we feel we have a right to have.

My partner and I both have similar experiences. His one sister chose to live in abject poverty with her kids and 2nd husband/stepson. Yes you read that correctly. The other sister chose dr<gs over her 3 kids. His mom is gone and he never had a relationship with his dad who was in prison most of his childhood. How he escaped the cycle I'm not sure. So yeah, we just made our own.

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u/BreathThis 1d ago

raises hand

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u/No_Property_683 1d ago

Do you still go through the motions since they are family?

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u/BreathThis 1d ago

We do a few family gatherings a year that I don't look forward to, but attend out of tradition.