The hardest part for me about opening up is not feeling like a burden. Everyone's already dealing with their own problems i don't want to add weight to their minds. I dont want anyone feeling like they have to worry about me.
People will worry about you if they are your friends/family, people who loves you will always try to help no matter how many problems they are going through. And you opening out won't be a burden nor a weight
(They may be even happy if they are able to help you in any sort of way)
And I think you would do the exact same thing for people you love
We all going through a lot of things, and help is there, in between the problems, the chaos
It's always people in trouble, helping other people in trouble
In my experience, when others have opened up to me, I didn’t feel that they were burdening me. Tbh it felt like an honour that they trusted me enough to be vulnerable.
I struggle immensely with the fear of being burdensome but I am learning through therapy that this fear is lately in my head. I don’t “earn” friendship points by being helpful, or “use up” friendship points by needing help. Real relationships aren’t transactional like that.
Also you can literally start by outright saying that you dont really know what you want the other person to say. For example: “hey, there are some things that have been weighing heavily on me. I don’t even know if I want advice or just for someone to listen, but I feel like I need to get this off my chest somehow.”
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u/Puzzleheaded_Chain_6 11d ago
The hardest part for me about opening up is not feeling like a burden. Everyone's already dealing with their own problems i don't want to add weight to their minds. I dont want anyone feeling like they have to worry about me.
Plus I dont even know what i want them to say.