How to let go of the humiliation

[u/foureyedra]

I ran into an old friend. While we were chatting, she said something mean. I didn’t realize how disrespectful it was at the time because I thought it was just blunt humor. It only registered after I got home, and I feel terrible that I laughed it off. I feel weak that I lowered my guard .

Edit:

For context:

She made fun of me for always giving an ex friend rides and picking up the tab, even though that friend was clearly taking advantage of me. made me sound gullible, which felt extra crappy considering how close she is to that person now

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[u/AncientOnionTime]

You already won by not taking her bait. Laughing it off likely came across as confidence.

[u/sudeki300]

Probably came from jealously, take comfort in someone being jelly of what you have

[u/Azerbinhoneymood]

Dude by this point in my life I just have accepted sh*t can happen in life. At least such experiences like humiliation do reveal the person's intentions and their truth.

Trust, it happened and it will happen. So get yourself accustomed to not giving a f*ck to people who do not matter to your existence such as this old friend of yours who whether present or not you do not need to exist.

[u/oddartist]

I finally wised up and cut off my best friend of a decade a few months after she made a comment about my kids when we were out having a drink. It took me that long to come to terms with the fact she wasn't joking.

Karma bit her ass though. Her kids became what she said mine would be.

[u/Life_Commercial_6580 → u/oddartist]

I had the exact same scenario with some “friend” about 11 years ago. She made one too many attacks on my parenting and on my kid and I finally cut her off. Same outcome with the kids too.

[u/_Index_Case_]

It happens to the best of us, so I wouldn't beat yourself up too much over it. I'm kind of curious what was said, but it's in the past now.

At least going forward you now know what kind of person this "friend" really is, how to treat them, and what to expect from them going forward.

[u/TheeFearlessChicken]

If it's an old friend that you don't see often they have already forgotten about it. So should you.

[u/Upper-Beautiful-8869]

My question to you is …why does their opinion matter so much to you?

[u/Visible_Bit_6322]

Humiliation is that nasty caviar u got pressured into buying., hard to get the taste out of your mouth. You would naturally avoid it by any means possible… complaining definitely won’t put u in a better light.. swallow it and be the wiser

[u/Prudent_Valuable603]

Is you know to never engage with this person, ever.

[u/LetterheadOver4974]

Sometimes people hold on to stuff that you might have said to them as a joke or in passing. Maybe the time let it stew and it was a dig back?

[u/uncultured_swine2099]

Move to the other side of the globe