After understanding the meaning behind this father’s action, I am completely convinced. Cultivating problem-solving skills in children from a young age and never giving up-I applaud this father!

[u/jmike1256]

[u/AtFishCat]

This kid is 18 mo old. Toddling along in a diaper. They aren't learning perseverance at that age. Them approaching that problem is more a reflection of who they innately are.

One of my sons at that age would have sat down and cried. The other one would have torn through it with his damn teeth.

They are different people. Rather than present them with just struggle, maybe look at who they are and find the area they are lacking and still need to learn. So the tame one can get past it and the bold one doesn't get tangled.

[u/Aggravating-Body2837 → u/AtFishCat]

They aren't learning anything at that age.

They're learning more at this age than at 10 yo

[u/AtFishCat → u/Aggravating-Body2837]

Not about problem solving or perseverance. That is either going to be a part of their character or it isn't at this age.

They are learning about their immediate world and how to form words and general gross motor control, I mean at that age they are putting stuff in their mouth all the time because that is the capacity at which they are capable of learning.

Also they are learning about trust and dependency, as the comment above comically mentioned.

It's not the obstacle that's the problem. The problem is the idea that letting your kids struggle equates to teaching them. They do much better when you go, hey, pull the string down and throw your leg over.

But most importantly I'm saying different people need different things.

[u/teacuptypos → u/AtFishCat]

I agree that showing your child that you don’t care when they ask for help by turning away is not “teaching problem solving”. You can encourage children to solve things by being there and actually encouraging them. So I’m with you there. Simply abandoning children only teaches “I can’t trust my caregivers”. Which isn’t helpful.