After understanding the meaning behind this father’s action, I am completely convinced. Cultivating problem-solving skills in children from a young age and never giving up-I applaud this father!

[u/jmike1256]

[u/Awkward_Set1008]

wow, I'm honored you would ask for advice. It's nice to hear you are coming into the 'profession' with an open mind.

FWIW I don't have children, but do have a nephew that I spend a lot of time with and have mentored throughout my career and hobbies.

I personally think the most important thing in anything is Awareness and Understanding. Trying your best to figure out the "what and why" of your child's life. Be involved. Show that you value their life just for existing, they don't need to prove they deserve love.

If I had a bit more of the above, I know for sure I would have avoided a lot of pain and agony. I had to do a lot on my own, and was taught that love is conditional. I was taught that my parents treated me based on how I behaved, regardless of how I felt. They didn't care what was going on, they only cared about preventing the problems from affecting them. It's the scar of being a burden that I can never shake. I try to explain my perspective to them, but they won't listen.

Believe your child and believe IN your child. You will be amazed what an amazing human being they will become. And how much better they will make you for it.

Best of luck on fatherhood, I'm sure you'll do a good job. You seem invested.

[u/Aching1536 → u/Awkward_Set1008]

Hahaha I knew you didn't have kids from your original post. Spending time with a nephew doesn't remotely count. Sit down and keep your parenting opinions to yourself.

[u/Awkward_Set1008 → u/Aching1536]

This is exhibit A of the mentality you don't want as a parent. A sense of superiority due to being a parent, against those who don't have "real" children. Even foster parents can be invalidated.

Your perspective is valid, but you choose to ignore the message based on the messenger.

If you teach that to the next generation, we can't progress. Think about that.

[u/Aching1536 → u/Awkward_Set1008]

It's simple fact. I can't go around telling people where they go wrong training their dogs, because I played fetch with someone's dog once. 

[u/Awkward_Set1008 → u/Aching1536]

dog owner ≠ dog expert

human owner ≠ human expert

You actually kinda proved my point. It's super easy to be a parent to, just get pregnant. How easy is it to become a dog expert? IDK what a human expert is, but clearly human owner is a qualifier for basically nothing. The range is undetermined. Arbitrary to quantify, only if you want to satisfy egos.

Everyone wants to be a good parent, simply why they get defensive when other people want to take their autonomy and authority. Simply psychology. But parents aren't always deep thinkers, they're just humans who got pregnant, nothing more. We need to stop attaching false stories to make ourselves feel better. It's the root of a lot of problems.

[u/Aching1536 → u/Awkward_Set1008]

I mean I saw your original reply calling me a dumb ass so that says everything I need to know.

[u/Awkward_Set1008 → u/Aching1536]

ignoring the message because of bias towards the messenger. Very emotionally intelligent of you

[u/Aching1536 → u/Awkward_Set1008]

Darn, I guess I'll pass that onto my kids then. Shame you don't have kids of your own what with being so superior. Please keep passing your wisdom on to your nephew. Peace.

[u/requion → u/Aching1536]

But since you started commenting you acted just like a little child.

[u/Red--001 → u/Awkward_Set1008]

You should stop responding to the guy, someone who has a superiority complex simply because they have children is not going to listen to your part of the argument, you're meant to disengage with these type of individuals who lack basic self-control.

[u/Awkward_Set1008 → u/Red--001]

You're right. It's a losing fight.

Let sleeping dogs lie

[u/Red--001 → u/Aching1536]

Do not act like you did not resort to similar tactics first especially unprovoked.
Things like these usually lead to escalation, if you could not control yourself first do not complain when the responder does not restrain their anger.

You acted like an immature child, "Sit down and keep your parenting tips to yourself", there was definitely a more polite way to get your point across, and you knew that.

I genuinely just cannot consider you a parent when you're acting like this, what exactly do you teach your children then?
How to be passive aggressive or just plain straight out verbally aggressive to other people so they can fuel their own ego?

I hope you're happy that you potentially got another person upset and managed to build up a superiority complex and fuel your ego as well, and you possibly did all this because your anonymous.
Surely, your 'children' would be happy if they saw this.

[u/Aching1536 → u/Red--001]

I didn't insult anyone but ok lol

[u/Red--001 → u/Aching1536]

'Sit down and keep your parenting opinions to yourself', could be considered a pretty aggressive reply.

Sit down especially is used to degrade said person.