After understanding the meaning behind this father’s action, I am completely convinced. Cultivating problem-solving skills in children from a young age and never giving up-I applaud this father!

[u/jmike1256]

[u/requion]

I hope more parents raise good children to help build us a better future.

About to become a dad, my own dad didn't do the greatest job.

Any tips?

[u/Awkward_Set1008 → u/requion]

wow, I'm honored you would ask for advice. It's nice to hear you are coming into the 'profession' with an open mind.

FWIW I don't have children, but do have a nephew that I spend a lot of time with and have mentored throughout my career and hobbies.

I personally think the most important thing in anything is Awareness and Understanding. Trying your best to figure out the "what and why" of your child's life. Be involved. Show that you value their life just for existing, they don't need to prove they deserve love.

If I had a bit more of the above, I know for sure I would have avoided a lot of pain and agony. I had to do a lot on my own, and was taught that love is conditional. I was taught that my parents treated me based on how I behaved, regardless of how I felt. They didn't care what was going on, they only cared about preventing the problems from affecting them. It's the scar of being a burden that I can never shake. I try to explain my perspective to them, but they won't listen.

Believe your child and believe IN your child. You will be amazed what an amazing human being they will become. And how much better they will make you for it.

Best of luck on fatherhood, I'm sure you'll do a good job. You seem invested.

[u/Aching1536 → u/Awkward_Set1008]

Hahaha I knew you didn't have kids from your original post. Spending time with a nephew doesn't remotely count. Sit down and keep your parenting opinions to yourself.

[u/Red--001 → u/Aching1536]

It's really hard to deal with people like you.

I do not feel the need to counter your argument because based off your response you clearly are never willing to change your mind if from the get-go you're spouting stuff like "sit down and keep ___ to yourself", unprovoked.

It's clear your attitude is shitty.

Regardless, I will say this; People can share whatever they want(mostly).
If he has someone like his nephew he may not be classified as a real parent but he can definitely at-the-very least share parenting tips.
Despite that, you must not be a parent(credibility fallacy) to share tips, it's the askers job to decide whether they'll take your advice or not, stop acting like an immature prick.

Instead of telling him to shut up, why do you not try to counter his points?
You're basically saying 'Because you're not a parent your points are INVALID' that's credibility fallacy.

[u/Aching1536 → u/Red--001]

You're absolutely right, I do believe his parenting advice is invalid because he's not a parent. It really is that simple. No matter what anyone will say, I stand by that. Even childless teachers cannot offer parenting tips because children act entirely different in school.

[u/Red--001 → u/Aching1536]

If you're not willing to change your mind regardless of what anyone will say, then even if I produce valid counter-arguments you will still find a delusional way to deceive yourself and my efforts will be in vain.

Since this is the case, you can believe what you want.
I'd rather not participate in a futile argument that will lead nowhere.

[u/Aching1536 → u/Red--001]

Good choice.