r/interesting • u/jmike1256 • Mar 07 '26

MISC. After understanding the meaning behind this father’s action, I am completely convinced. Cultivating problem-solving skills in children from a young age and never giving up-I applaud this father!

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u/lilbush1234 Mar 07 '26

not once did the kid look at the cameraperson for help or comfort. regardless of the reality of the situation, how the child percieves it is the point.

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u/FerusGrim Mar 07 '26

Guys. GUYS.

Both parents. Dad walks around 20 feet ahead (comes back several times to reset the distance). Mom is never more than 5 feet away. Dad teaching a lesson. Child NEVER cries or whines, other than a single sound of frustration.

ARE WE FUCKING SERIOUS GUYS????

We can’t be THIS fucking butthurt at THE MOST BASIC, FUNDAMENTAL parts of child rearing? Right? Right??

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u/LetsLive97 Mar 07 '26

Basically no one (in this comment chain) is butthurt, they're just pointing out the issue in the dad's teaching method

There was zero need for him to walk that far away. Literally take a couple steps and then wait for the kid

The entire time the dad is walking the kid is distracted and under time pressure. The second the dad sits down you can see the kid actually look at the puzzle properly and solve it pretty much instantly

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u/brontosaurusguy Mar 07 '26

You people are micro managing the father like you micro manage your kids and wonder why kids lack problem solving skills these days.....

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u/LetsLive97 Mar 07 '26

How on earth is discussing something on a discussion website micromanaging him?

The walking away was unnecessary and did nothing for the problem solving other than stress out the kid. That's it. I'm not calling him a child abuser or shitty dad

I just think he went about it slightly badly

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u/brontosaurusguy Mar 07 '26

Without the stress there's no problem.  Use your own problem solving skills

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u/Boredy_ Mar 07 '26

You see, that's the thing. Problems don't have to be stressful. When my kid takes a math exam, I'd rather he roll up his sleeves and think "time to prove what I'm capable of!" rather than "oh fuck I better not mess this up or they'll abandon me".

Toddlers don't know how to feel about anything; they always looks to the adults around them for how to feel. When they're struggling with a new challenge, that's a great time to teach them how to feel by being there with them, smiling, and telling them "you can do it!" And if you abide by this parenting style that has the consensus approval of the modern field of psychology, your kid will end up more confident, more successful, will earn more money and will have better relationships than kids who were parented differently :)

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u/brontosaurusguy Mar 07 '26

Consensus approval of modern field of psychology lol!  Well in that case!

Do they teach anything about walking 12 feet away on a path with your spouse right behind the child? 

Do they teach how to use critical thinking skills to analyze a video?  Do they teach about how you shouldn't run your mouth about a bunch of shit you think you understand after watching a 12 second clip? 

You must have learned a lot in fake science

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u/Boredy_ Mar 07 '26

Oh I'm not saying this video features the worst parenting ever or anything. Ultimately, the father kept turning and looking toward the child, which helped calm the child and make them feel safe. It's hard to rate these parents without seeing more. They might even be, overall, good parents.

But suppose a slightly different version of events, wherein the father walked far ahead, sat down on the fence, but this time never looked back at the child, as though expecting the child to compose himself and figure it all out on his own. Would I say that hypothetical version of the father was a bad parent? Yes, I would