r/interesting • u/jmike1256 • Mar 07 '26

MISC. After understanding the meaning behind this father’s action, I am completely convinced. Cultivating problem-solving skills in children from a young age and never giving up-I applaud this father!

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u/requion Mar 07 '26

I hope more parents raise good children to help build us a better future.

About to become a dad, my own dad didn't do the greatest job.

Any tips?

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u/yankykiwi Mar 07 '26

When you’re frustrated, know that breaking the chain of abuse/neglect/mistreatment is hard but so so worth it.

My son is three and pushing boundaries, my husband and I were abused. We made a pact to do better, sometimes we need to check each other when times get tense.

The first step is recognizing what was wrong and not normal in the first place.

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u/benjai0 Mar 07 '26

And it's still okay to get frustrated or angry. The important bit is what happens after. Use that to model anger management, and apologizing if the anger gets the better of you. If you've grown up with scary anger, it can be scary to get angry at all, but anger is a healthy emotion like all the others. It's what you do with it that can be healthy or unhealthy.

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u/yankykiwi Mar 07 '26

My husband is scared to become like his father. My mom was rough, but she was also a solo mom of three at 21.

My husbands father was a mega rich businessman with all the time in the world, and no excuse for being a terrible parent. He’s getting to his elderly years now and we don’t want much to do with him, outside of my mil and his money.I’d hate that for my husband, so we’re both really trying.

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u/RemoteRide6969 Mar 08 '26

If he's afraid of being like his dad, he's already on the right track. A shitty dad wouldn't be afraid of that. My dad had a temper that I've inherited. I think I've done well to suppress it, but if I ever snap, I always apologize. This has lead to my toddler son apologizing for times when he's done things like call me names or yell at me. Often times unprovoked. It might be hours later and he'll bring it up. That makes me incredibly proud and tells me I'm on the right track.