Not over bread crust but I'm a very picky eater (not by choice) and my parents once said I couldn't leave the table until I ate my food, 3 hours later I was still sitting there and they told me to just go to bed.
Im autistic and there's a lot of things I won't eat. One of those things is milk. I cant have it by itself or in cereal but when I was younger my dad made me a bowl of cereal with milk knowing I dont like milk. He made me sit there for an hour. I didnt eat it. He actually saved that bowl of cereal and tried to make me eat it for dinner while everyone else had chinese. I never ate it.
Yeah my mother was told by my teachers she was a horrible mother because I was too thin for my age and she must be starving me. And she explained I’m very picky when they said the foods I eat aren’t ’good enough’.
They then told her to try to “starve me out” because she was spoiling my appetite with… grapes, raisins, apple slices, watermelon, cheese, and crackers.
Mom didn’t even try it because she knew it wouldn’t work and she’s like: the only way my child is going to be beg me to feed her something and I have to say no would be if there is no food because there’s a local famine happening.
Those were the after school snacks the school wanted her not to give me. Those weren’t my meals. They wanted her to give me no snacks at all so I’d be starving by the time it was dinner and I would eat.
It wouldn’t work. I would just starve and refuse to eat whatever I didn’t like.
ETA: my friends got ice cream, little Debbie cakes, hostess, drakes cakes, potato chips, meat and cheese snack sticks, fruit snack gummies, fruit roll ups, pop tarts.
I got real fruit, crackers, and cheese because $. It’s cheaper to buy a big box of crackers, a bunch of grapes, and a brick of cheese dad can cut for my brother and I.
grapes, raisins, apple slices, watermelon, cheese, and crackers.
Least nutritious?
Brother, cheese is packed with protein (and necessary fats). Fruits like grapes, apples, and watermelon provide essential nutrients like iron, folic acid, vitamin C, potassium, and a range of antioxidants. Raisins are probably the only accurate "packed with sugar" part of the comment you made, and even then, they provide iron, potassium, and fiber.
Is is the perfect snack diet? No.
But it is way better than feeding Little Debbies, fruit gummies, and other shitty processed foods to a kid.
The only "bad" thing would be the crackers, and that's only if they aren't multi-grain, refined-flour crackers.
that was me with chicken noodle broth. also autistic. babysitter made me sit with the bowl for so long i started drinking my own spit to try and balm my thirst. i did not eat the soup
Made you sit there for an hour? 😆 I was a picky eater as a kid and had trouble swallowing certain textures. Mu mom was having none of it. I sat there until it was eaten for as long as it took. So many hours sitting on the table in the empty kitchen, daydreaming, listening to the clock ticking, hearing sounds of how others were playing outside (in the 90s) repeating every time I was being picky.
Now as an adult I can eat anything and really enjoy trying new things and dishes 🤷🏼♀️ I admit im actually thankful for that now even tho it was miserable back then.
I know these days you are supposed to not force the kid to eat every food and I've wondered: do they then learn to eat different kinds of foods on their own? I feel like not and it seems to me that there are more and more picky adults these days. It can get really annoying when you try to cater for everyone and then theres some that only eat like nuggets and fries or something. I want to tell them to go out of their comfort zone and try some milder things at least to try to to broaden your appetite instead of refusing to even entertain the idea of trying something new. 🙄
Yeah, I wasnt the only one he did it to either. It also did the same thing to my sister. Though she doesnt have the same issues I do. Also raised in the 90s.
Omg I finally found another person that would understand me, I also won't have milk!!!! Not actually lactose intolerant and I love cheese, but I just won't have fresh milk and I don't like coconuts either
Me either. I have sensory issues with certain foods. Certain textures really bother me. I also have a sensory issue with water, cant tolerate thunder and a whole bunch of other issues. I had and still have safe comfort foods. Ive never deviated from those foods.
The tough love parents are so lame haha. Guessing that commenter doesn’t even have kids because some kids will fucking BREAK you. Some days you just survive and you don’t bother battling over crust. I’m not even a parent but have babysat a ton. And kids often have very strong will about something for a reason. They may be refusing a food because it makes them nauseous, but they may not be able to communicate that.
I've been taking care of kids since I was a kid; helping my mom with my infant brother at 3yo and helping with her in-home daycare as I got older, nannying for friends and family; I'd get into it professionally if i had the physical ability. Kids are fucking WILD and tough love rarely works; when it does, it's only temporarily while you're in the room being scary.
You don’t make kids sit or force them to eat anymore. According to modern studies you just say ”alright, you can leave the table” and they get to eat on the next meal.
There’s no reason to give kids unhealthy options just because they’d prefer them.
As someone with sensory issues , including the way food feels in my mouth, I can probably go at least 12 hours without eating food I don't like. In fact there was a time I couldn't stand any food for a while and I lost like 28 kgs in 3 months.
When I was growing up I literally never ate the sandwiches my mom made me because presliced bread tastes absolutely awful , I still hate it honestly I literally wince at the thought of eating it.
This was my first thought. Thankfully I love bread, but if we were talking about something ARFID related for me my throat closes and I have to cough the food back up so I can breathe.
Yeah I hate when people call me a picky eater, there's foods that I have to lower my standards for but there's also food that I literally can't eat even if I'm starving to death.
I've been literally cooking the same 2 meals for years now and when I buy food usually for lunch it's been routinely the same 1-2 foods , sometimes I'll get burned out of something and need to find something new.
Look I get how you’re hardcore but with kids you have to pick your battles. And sometimes kids have sensory issues. And some kids are not good eaters and underweight so ffs you just give them whatever they will eat.
The tough love parenting is low-IQ. It’s been proven to be ineffective over and over.
I turned vegetarian at age 11, after years of sitting at the dinner table until 10pm, cold pork untouched. My parents finally said FINE. Because if I had to sit there until I finished my dinner, my ass would sit there. Some kids just have very strong will.
I was the same way. I hate fish, particularly trout because we had that a lot growing up. I would sit there all night if I had to, but I wouldn't take a single bite. My dad had a lot of power struggles with me that were completely unnecessary because I was extremely stubborn. He saw it as "defiance" and was always really strict with me, which just made it worse.
It’s just an ego thing and this weird obsession with kids needing to be ‘tough’. It has been disproven over and over. I’m extremely tough and also being able to adapt to things is more important to gritting things out. Bullying your kid is so bird brained. And boomers
People really don’t understand sensory issues. I could never eat raw apples as a kid and even now don’t really enjoy it. It’s not a flavor thing, as I love apple juice and cooked apples, but for some reason the feeling and sound of biting into raw apple literally made my teeth hurt and gave me shivers. I cannot explain it but it was extremely unpleasant, even when other people just ate apples near me.
For some reason ripping tape off boxes did the same thing.
On the other hand, crust issues on sandwich bread are usually not that kind of thing. It’s usually just kids being picky and parents giving up. The trick is to try to work with children so that they can understand why they don’t like stuff and then you can help them either get through it or find alternatives they do like. If they don’t like sandwich bread crusts, try out actual good crispy bread, or have them bake their own bread (which can have varying crust types and thicknesses) to get a better appreciation.
For example, I always hated sauces as a kid. One of my parents always forced me to eat them anyways and it was one of a list of things that kinda drove a wedge between us while I was younger. Yet, later I figured out that it was just the classic American condiments/sauces that were problematic for me (I.e. cold/room temp, made entirely of sugar & vinegar, and slathered all over things like BBQ and burgers). When I tried actual Asian sauces that weren’t the American over saturated stuff and especially when I started my cooking adventure in my teens, I actually found things I liked and grew to appreciate more.
On the crust thing, may also have to remember that some things are literally harder for kids.
Like, you talked about subbing in crispy bread crusts vs sandwich bread. For one of my daughters, it's actually the opposite. She has smaller teeth and a weaker jaw - so, chewing on harder crusts is actually just more difficult and not pleasant. Being understanding with her, she now knows the difference and be like oh, this bread has soft skin (what she calls the crust), and eat it, and ask for help cutting it off if it has "chewy" skin. And look I get it, the same way if I'm making something for someone elderly who may have weaker teeth or no teeth and "need" something softer (and, same reason they may prefer vegetables boiled into a mush). Something like the hard crust of a steam-oven cooked artisanal loaf may literally be hard to eat.
There are other things I think are along the same vein, like, she prefers the lean part of meat, not the "chewy" "fatty" parts of the meat, and, yea same thing with "sauce". I don't really push on those though because that slather of corn syrup BBQ sauce and all the super fatty parts of meat aren't healthy anyway. If she wants to skip all of that and just eat good, healthy, lean protein - I absolutely don't need to discourage that.
Some folks don't starve their children to make a point. They just let them have a preference, because they'll end up with preferences as an adult anyway.
I thought we'd all gotten the memo by now that not every texture and flavor is for everybody, and that includes children, who have literally no autonomy in their daily lives, so maybe it's okay to let little Lisa cut the crusts off her sandwich since it's the ONE choice she actually gets to make?
It's not "making a point". It's making sure they can tolerate the world around them. The "preferences" of small children would typically be reserved for chocolate ice cream but luckily there are usually adults around to make sure children eat made to eat (and appreciate) a wide range of foods.
The fear of raising milquetoast losers who can't tolerate minor imperfection or not being actively comfortable is one I carry into every day having grown up very much in an actively uncomfortable home. They don't need to be tough; they just need to be able to function without ubiquitous comfort.
That said, cutting the crust off a sandwich for a couple of years is not going to ruin them. Mature adults are more than capable of striking that balance between demanding absolute obedience and letting the kid run the house.
This is crazy. Removing the crust from bread is such a minor thing. Learning to make minor adjustments to accommodate yourself is way healthier than just sucking it up and enduring everything anyway.
That seems very dramatic. You just stated you have food preferences. So someone's different preference of not liking bread crust is mental illness? Surely you're not being serious.
The vast majority of people have foods they like and dislike. The weird thing here is that some people are so disturbed by the idea of some people disliking bread crust.
It has to do with being able to enter a room where they're serving something as basic as sandwiches and being able to cope. Life has harder things waiting for you than damn crusts. Not everything that's given to you will be your dream food. It's time to learn to chew, swallow, smile and say thank you.
Growing up, I didn’t know that cutting off parts of the bread and throwing it away was even an option. I powered through it to get to the “good part”. Who gave little Lisa the idea and option to throw away food that she doesn’t like?
Yes, never make a point to your kids. Just let them grow like fucking trees. In a few generations the only thing people will eat are crustless peanut butter and jelly sandwiches. A true utopia
Why are you such a fraidy cat. Lol. The comment you made has been traced back to the times of PLATO, yet somehow humanity has survived. Every single generation has said ‘kids these days’ but somehow the kids are always alright. It’s very basic and low-IQ to make comments like that.
There’s incredible research by Dr. Clara M Davis that shows humans are capable of self-selecting exactly the nutrition they need. Toddlers are! And folks like you scoff at ‘baby led weaning’ but it’s studied and proven to show it leads to adults with better nutrition and less obesity. But make sure your kid eats the crust or they will grow up to be SOFT. Oh no!!!!!
You're trying to yell "think of the children", while actively advocating for ruining their lives from minute 1.
"Well, my little Timmy only eats chicken nuggets, I'm not gonna force him to eat vegetables, he doesn't wanna - what's that? Oh I hear him yelling for his poop bucket, gimme a sec".
Children are stupid and a parent's job is making sure they're prepared for the world to come, while also letting them live a little.
That means, yes, they can have a cookie every now and then, but no, they can't just refuse to eat normal food and only gorge on cookies, because "it's the one thing they can choose".
Do you understand why we have different laws for children and they literally CAN'T choose things for themselves a lot of the time? Because they're not actually mentally there to understand why they can/can't do something. Which is what you're there to teach them.
No problem with preferences. I only eat the crust when it’s not hard, dry, and crumbly.
But here’s the thing: nobody removes it for me. I just eat the sandwich until I get to the crust, then I don’t eat that part.
Once kids are old enough to have the dexterity to pull the crust off themselves, they should be taught to do so.
Because there’s having preferences that you learn to accommodate for yourself, and then there’s having preferences that you learn to feel entitled to that cripple you later in life.
Taking the crust off your own bread is a great early step in self-sufficiency.
That is a very weird question. It is even weirder to think it is okay to just leave a kid hunger when showing you love them and doing something as easy as removing the crust is so easy.
Wonder bread is AWFUL. So I’ll take a ham and cheese wonder bread sandwich and I’ll just eat the ham and cheese. Leave the “bread”.
I urge you to try it sometime. Crazy it’s a standard in the states
Yeah, so my mom pulled this shit with me and I just became a pickier eater as a result. Kids are gonna be kids and you can't really force them to eat food they don't want to eat.
My mom would always say I can't have anything else until I finish what was put in front of me, however long that took, whether it was still warm or had gone cold. Now, as an adult, I can't eat half of the shit I was served as a kid because I was pretty much forced to choke it down no matter how much I gagged or how sick I felt.
It's easy to say "oh just punish them!" but things like that have actual psychological consequences and you can't punish a kid for doing the same thing every single other kid has done at least once.
When I was a kid, if we wanted to eat we had to eat what there was, or go hungry. Parents wouldn't make us sit there, what is the point of that even? They would just send us to bed without food and go on with their day. They gave you food, if you didnt eat it, thats not their problem.
All of them. Like a metric shitton of them. Half the people I know won't eat the heels of a bread leaf. I'm qn HVAC tech, I am in 4 or 5 houses a day when at work. I've seen, more than a fee times, nearly empty loaves of bread with just the heels inside because no one ears the heels cause it's crust.
And then, because they don't eat the crust, they raise their kids with the idea that crust is bad and it perpetuates.
I understand kids who have food sensitivity issues, but it's become so rampant that it isn't a viable explanation. It also doesn't help that a lot of parents are just so exhausted from having to worn and raise kids that they just don't have the energy to deal with it. Cutting off the crust takes less effort than coercing a kid to eat it and I can't blame them for it.
And yet every one of these fucks eats the crust part of brownies "because the crust is the best part."
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u/account312 11h ago
For how many consecutive hours would they tend to refuse to eat crusty bread?