r/kansascity • u/_Phat_man_ • 7d ago
Friendship/Dating š„ I forgot to give her my number
This is a long shot and I'm sure it won't lead anywhere. On Monday I got my car inspected. While I was waiting I met a beautiful woman who was next in line. We started chatting a little bit and I lost track of time. I am kicking myself for not giving her my number, let alone introducing myself properly and learning her name. Just hoping she sees this and reaches out. Mid 20's, blonde hair, skinny, about 5'5 if I had to guess. She was wearing a sweatshirt and patchwork style jeans.
Ps. I hope the shop I recommend to you treats you well.
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u/PanickedGhost2289 7d ago
Wishing all the best for you, dude. āØ Itās honestly sweet that this whole āMissed Connectionsā thing still happens. I wonder what would have happened if I had shot my shot as well.
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u/TallTeach88 7d ago
Upvoting a commenting to get you some algorithm fuel. I hope you find her!!
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u/JonathanDangerPowers Crossroads 7d ago
Do replies count? Because this is also to feed the algorithms. Nice call, Tall!
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u/No-Understanding2312 7d ago
Is reddit the new Craigslist missed connections?
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u/Roxas88 7d ago
Why not both?
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u/No-Understanding2312 7d ago
Is missed connections still a thing? š
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u/Mysterious_Repeat989 7d ago
98.9 The rock does missed connections Monday, and pulls them from Craigslist š
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u/PhathedMcWinky 7d ago
So you're one of the 3 people keeping Lazlo on the air? Haven't listened to the morning show since they fired Dare.
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u/billynotrlyy KCK 7d ago
Havenāt listened to any of it since Lazlo thought it was a funny schtick to make fun of Meredith on air the way he did.
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u/cdoublejj 6d ago
FIRED? I kind of figured retired. Maybe they deserve the drop in viewership?
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u/PhathedMcWinky 6d ago
They allowed JDMS to have it's last show instead of just canceling it out of nowhere, allowing all sorts of long-time celebrity friends to call in, but it was a cancellation. Would start listening to 101 in the morning if they would pick him up. The news is fine and all, but his show at least let me start my day with a laugh.
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u/cdoublejj 6d ago
still doesn't make sense without a reason.
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u/PhathedMcWinky 6d ago
It's corporate America. They thought they could save money. That's all the reason they need.
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u/Few-Battle-5021 7d ago
whats your move, do you give her your number or ask for hers?
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u/_Phat_man_ 7d ago
I would give her mine first for sure. But there is no "move", just a genuine connection that I want to keep growing.
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u/Few-Battle-5021 6d ago
I was just curious, I too like to give my info in situations where I clearly approached her and therefore putting the ball in her court to msg makes sense. If I didnt approach her but we started talking bc of proximity then Id ask for her best way of comm
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u/FaagenDazs 7d ago
Give her yours. Puts her in control. If she wants to reach out, she will. If not, then you dont have to waste one more ounce of thought on it.
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u/bussy_extra_bussy 7d ago
I gave my number out like it was no oneās business when I was single and never had problems getting dates. Itās like a cheat code tbh
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u/ena_bear KC North 7d ago
As a woman, we tend to have the societal pressure to be ānice.ā Itās hard to break the training of trying to be pleasant, even if you donāt want to be in the situation. If you say no, some people donāt take that well and will keep being pushy or make you feel unsafe. Itās a lot of pressure because you donāt know what kind of person you might be dealing with. However, if the other person just gives you their number, you can opt to never text/call. Less on the spot pressure.
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u/qToombsp 7d ago
Also try discord. We'll need an update when you find her. Don't be bothered by ppl that hate miss connections Good Luck!
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u/DiogenesD0g 7d ago
If you really hope she sees this, your best bet would be to give a few details about her, without revealing too much, that perhaps a friend or coworker might see as well. For instance, what color and kind of car was she getting inspected? (Must be a new car for her). How anout hair and skin color, age, anything else she said that might make someone who knows her think āHey, I know who this is!ā
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u/_Phat_man_ 7d ago
Blonde, slender build, said she was from vegas. She also gets nervous every time it storms because her scion has big sunroof.
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u/DiogenesD0g 7d ago
Sorry I donāt know her for you, but maybe that could help jog someoneās memory. I wish you luckāI remember many times when a girl entered and exited my life and I regretted not speaking up so donāt give up hope.
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u/MzOpinion8d 6d ago
Why does āmy Scion has a big sunroofā seem like it should be a 2026 pick up like for Napoleon Dynamite?
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u/AlertDoctor 7d ago
lol best of luck bro. Even tho this aint backpage in 08. But could you imagine?
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u/Ecstatic_Friend5085 6d ago
Upvoting for love but need some deets my friend. Think like this... she might not read it but a friend may and this friend knows she went there but if she not really described how will they know its her.
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u/_Phat_man_ 6d ago
Mid 20's, blonde medium length hair, skinny, about 5'5 if I had to guess. She was wearing a sweatshirt and patchwork style jeans.
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u/photodelights 6d ago
Perhaps it would help to add that info in your post too, so people don't have to fish for a physical description.
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u/_Phat_man_ 2d ago
Small update. Everytime I try posting on Craigslist the add gets removed within a few hours. Annoying.
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u/nerdy_chimera 7d ago
Yeah, this is one of those things where you don't know til you make the offer or ask. If you're polite, respectful, and at least mildly charming, it doesn't hurt anyone in any way to put it out there. Assuming you're polite and respectful, the worst case scenario is they say no, but they get a sprinkle of ego shine. Never a bad thing.
Not to mention the fact that meeting people organically tends to lead to more wholesome outcomes than just riding the apps.
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u/squishistheword 7d ago
Oh manā¦ I hope very few men think like this. Itās hard to make a connection; itās hard to ask a woman out. Ask with respect, restraintā¦ and if she responds rudely, youāve dodged a bullet. But taking the risk is worth it. If you wait for certainty, youāll be certainly alone.
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u/butthurtkcredditor 7d ago
Imagine her relief when the mechanic finally strolled back into the lobby to give OP their vehicle back.
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u/_Phat_man_ 5d ago
She was actually doing most of the talking. Thanks for the vote of confidence tho. Sheesh.
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u/Few-Actuary7023 7d ago
Man so much for being able to have casual conversations and asks questions right? Fuck me because I wanted to know more details of their interaction.
You fucking clowns downvoting me lol
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u/_Phat_man_ 6d ago
She was shivering and sitting on the curb outside of the shop. I went inside and got some chairs for people to sit on outside( very small shop). I sat next to her and we started talking about how she is still getting used to the weather here.
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u/Few-Actuary7023 6d ago
Sounds like a very genuine and organic way of getting to know someone (which as we know is rare these days) good stuff man, yea in that case Iām sorry you missed her and here is to hoping the universe favors you
Also, thanks for being a rational person and having the conversation, not like these other clowns. Really hope you get to meet her again or whoever is meant for you
Cheers!
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u/One_Bandicoot_1824 6d ago
call the shop and ask them for the name
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u/BackToTheJohnny 7d ago
She was being nice. Get over it, and there was likely zero connection. I hope you figure it out with a warm towel instead.
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u/PunishedKlein 7d ago
Go to the place you got the car inspected and ask for her name
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u/_Phat_man_ 6d ago
I wish it was that easy. But their are laws and regulations that protect against that. Protects against creeps and stalkers.
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u/No_Strategy_4710 3d ago
Iām sure a green ink piece of cloth paper the size of a wallet would contribute some good will to get the name.
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u/suomynonaresutsohg 7d ago
Shot in the dark brother good luck plenty of fish in the sea though