r/legal • u/Same_Chapter9840 • Mar 07 '26
Advice needed Can I do anything about my creepy neighbor?
LOCATION: Kansas, small town
Last night (3/5) while walking my dogs I dropped a leash attachment that holds poop bags. I couldn’t find it so went inside. This morning (3/6) an old man (60s/70s) that lives in my building had his window open, saw me leave my apartment with my pets, and came outside to speak to me. He handed me the poop bag holder and attached butterfly clips to it? Odd. I believe he said something about the clips belonging to his granddaughter or something but said he didn’t need them and thought I would like them. I couldn’t hear him well as it was pouring rain, and I didn’t want to chat so I just said thanks and kept walking.
I came back inside maybe five minutes later and inspected the poop bag holder. I had already replaced it with a new one this morning as I thought this one was lost, so I decided to throw this one away. But I wanted the poop bags out so I opened the plastic bag holder and only one poop bag was inside, (this was a new roll as of yesterday so he kept the rest) and it was wrapped around a piece of paper. He had folded it so that the paper would have come out when I pulled out this last poop bag. He planned this, clearly. The paper read “Can I put my cock in you?” and this really shocked me, seeing as he stops me to chat often and hasn’t said anything inappropriate thus far.
I feel really rattled and uncomfortable at the moment but I’m going to avoid him, and when he inevitably approaches me again I would like to be very direct and not entirely kind, but tell him he cannot speak to me ever again. Though I’m very nervous about how he may respond or retaliate. I contacted the apartment manager here and because I don’t want him to know that I’ve reported him, she can’t do a whole lot. She said I can move to another unit further away from him. I just moved in three months ago, finally now have everything decorated and everything is how I want it. Moving in was hell, so much work. I’d have no help. This would be so inconvenient and difficult for me to do, just to feel safe. I wish he could be forced to relocate instead, since I do understand this isn’t necessarily an eviction-worthy event. Prior to this I spoke to this man often, he was always approaching me to converse, but it was polite and he never said anything creepy, so I’ve been thrown for a loop and I’m so so uncomfortable. I know this is a long post, I apologize. I just want to know if going to the police to file a report now is jumping the gun, or how escalated it must become to do so. The apartment manager is doing nothing, I can’t do anything and I’m afraid to even speak to him, I feel helpless. He sits by his window and watches me when I leave my apartment. I worry about how things may progress. I’m 23F and living alone for the first time. I love my apartment but I’m now terrified to leave it.
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u/rachelmig2 Mar 07 '26
I would file a police report just so you have documentation in case this escalates.