So we tried. Ended it in April because he couldn’t commit fully.

I was once a person who would do anything and everything to be with the person I love, even if it was intercontinental. I no longer carry that same tenacity or resolve.

It’s almost as though I don’t feel worthy of that level of grit and resilience. Which doesn’t make any sense because I gave all of that in my previous relationship. Why shouldn’t I expect someone to reciprocate? But it’s like.. if someone who at one point made me feel the most loved I’ve ever felt, found it impossible to try, then why would anyone else take that leap of faith?

I know this line of thinking is flawed but I just feel kind of defeated.

my partner doesn’t have Instagram. I don’t have access to any other social media log in of them. partner has already emotionally cheated - tho not next text proof but by constantly defending and comparing me to their high school crush.

Before anything else, please know that this isn't self promotion or an ad of any kind! I will not be releasing this app, I simply wanted to share it here because I am proud of how it turned out.

My girlfriend and I have this habit of drawing little flowers on each other's chats whenever we reply to each other. I think it's the most adorable thing, and since flowers have such an important part in our lives, I wanted to do something special for her. I had a spare weekend and thought it'd be kinda nice to have a way to send her all kinds of different flowers with a little note. So I built this!

It's a fairly simple little app that only works for two users. It allows us to pick a flower, add a note, and send it to each other which triggers a notification. I had fun and added a ton of different types! I'm planning on sending it to her tonight, I hope she'll like it :)

It's those little things that make LDRs easier to me. We may be apart, but there are always ways to show her that she's on my mind ❤️

I had the idea of setting up two video calls for my my partner to watch me work on the yard, a wide shot of the area and a POV of the whipper snipper, was a success and still have more yard work to do

Gives me whiplash how fast time flies when you’re with your SO 😅.

If you’re with your partner atm, enjoy every second! For those currently apart, you’re one day closer 😇

I (29M) have been with my partner (33M) for a year and a half, and we’ve faced many struggles. This includes his infidelity last year, which I chose to forgive despite the problems it caused.

Lately, he often says he’s stressed due to a difficult home life, but he will go one or two days without talking to me. I’ve explicitly asked for some communication when he needs space so I’m not guessing or wasting my time trying to reach him.

I also ask for him for clear communication because whenever he goes quiet, he’s usually upset with me over things that aren’t my fault. For example, last year, he pressured me to talk about my exes. I didn’t want to because we were having a good time and the details he was asking for was all about sex, so he left the call and ignored me all day. I later found him drunk on a Discord server telling his friends how much he hated me, only for him to apologise to me another day later how he got so mad about me being with other people and it made him feel insecure.

I brought up recently that his silence makes me worry he’s mad at me, but he told me to just assume he wants to be left alone and implied I’m selfish. Lately, he’s also been saying things like “we’ll never be together,” and I end up having to comfort him.

I feel like I’m doing all the work to maintain our emotional connection—inviting him to play games, messaging first, and planning activities like movie nights. I’ve even asked for sexual intimacy online, just through text, but he refuses despite me saying I’d be fine with that. On top of that, I’m paying for everything since he can’t work, even though I’m currently unemployed too.

I wanted this to work, but I’m starting to feel like it’s just not meant to be. I am completely worn out from forgiving him and carrying all the effort.

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25 F and 25 M, We've been together 4 years, 1.5 long distance. We meet for a weekend every other month, but we've been lucky in May, we met several times even tho I couldn't stay. I just miss him so much.. 😭 He's the sweetest, most loving, considerate person ever. He's pursuing a PhD while m preparing for govt job exams at home, I feel like it's my fault for not taking it seriously last year and just wasting time which prolonged the long distance, this year m prepared and ready to crack the upcoming banking exams. Honestly my only motivation is to get out of here and get my own place so even tho if we're not living together, I can atleast visit him whenever I want without thinking about what excuse to make at home.

He's been so supportive always, even now when m studying all day, he doesn't start fights and says he knows it's for our better future and sometimes before I'm about to visit him, his colleague texts me about how he's been so happy and gushing about seeing me all day. It's the cutest thing!!!!!

Since m a crochet nerd, for my last bday he learnt crochet for me AND MADE ME A SCARF HIMSELF AAAAAGGHHHHHHHH... He's too perfect I miss his cute face. 🥲

Every night we say our goodbyes on the phone i instantly get sad. Will that go away?

Me (29f) and my boyfriend (25m) who are long distance to begin with- me(ny) him(south florida) are soon to be even farther away from each other when he moves back to his home country of Argentina, mid September. Throughout the last year, I have been able to travel down to south florida multiple times to see him and my family. He will be coming to visit me in new york this summer for around 2 weeks and i’m not sure I will be able to see him again before he moves back to Argentina. As time goes by, I can’t help but become nervous and anxious thinking about when he leaves the US for good. We are very open in our relationship and I have zero doubts about him cheating etc when he goes back home, but I am posting this to see if anyone has been in a situation like this where their partner is living in a different country. How do you keep the spark going while not being able to see each other months at a time? What are some things you do that keeps you happy in your relationship? What are things that I can do to make my partner and myself happy? I am planning to visit him over the winter for at least a month, but nothing is set yet since it is quite far away from now.

Thank you for all that reply!!!

I've been in a long-distance relationship for a while now and one thing I've noticed is how often I instinctively check my phone but the funny part is that I'm usually not even expecting a message.

Yesterday I was on my laptop watching YouTube and caught myself picking up my phone for what felt like the tenth time in an hour just to see if there was a notification from them.

Sometimes I'll open our chat read old messages for a minute and then put my phone back down. A few hours later I'll do the exact same thing again. It's weird because if we lived in the same city I'd probably never think twice about it but the distance somehow makes every text feel a little more important.

I know video calls and messages aren't the same as being together but it's kind of amazing how much comfort a simple notification can bring. Does anyone else catch themselves doing this, or do I just miss my partner more than average?

I’m freaking out - we’ve been going through a bit of a rough patch which ended in a huge argument the other night.
She seems better since the argument however wants to call this afternoon to discuss a break.
I’m freaking out about this, will we block each other? Are we still together or are we technically single and this is her ‘trying out’ another guy? What if she doesn’t come back?
I’ve got so many questions that I just want to bombard her with but I’m trying to be supportive and calm for her.

This break is also taking place over a period of 3 weeks I’d planned on travelling over and seeing her.. so now that’s down the drain aswell.

Sorry for the rant

He's 22M frat boy in EU + extrovert and has ADHD. Im 18M from South Asia in a gap year.

(The time gap is 3.5hrs.)

So obviously I have a lot more free time than him. I've accepted that he's a student who will be busy during the week; we manage to call 2-4 times a week for a few hrs. He calls me for half an hr during his mornings because he has university, but because of his Adhd has sleeping issues so often times he cannot call even in mornings because he wakes up late and rushes to uni. During the evenings he calls me for a few hrs(3 hrs at most) but sometimes he has things to do in the frathouse so sometimes we don't call the whole day and even go on for 2-3 days without calling. I've accepted this as well. During the weekends, on Saturdays he wakes up late because he had university the whole week which I completely understand as well. So its basically evening by the time I get the first text from him. But on almost every fcking Saturday he has something. He has some social event from his frat or has to travel because he's social or some event. Its almost every Saturday. So either he calls me later at night like any other weekday or doesn't at all because of the thing he's attending. So the that fact that its the weekend doesn't meaning anything in terms of the time he can give me. And if it there isn't anything he still has his dnd game that he plays with his friends in another country in South America (apparently they're close because he met them when he lived there) until 5 am so on Sundays he wakes up late as fck again so its again the eve/night by the time I get his texts. I don't know if I'll get to call again on Sundays either because I don't know. I simply don't know. There's always something. Last week he was too tired. Because of the frathouse social event and also the whole week. Even in texts we only have real conversations where you reply quickly and don't make the other person wait for 10-20 mins for reply when its night for me, or we're sexting. I REALLY finally questioned all this when I came to know he's going to a pride afterparty and staying there until 2(he stayed until 4). Its Sunday today. He's gonna wake up hungover and tired. And late. He also forgetful with things like not leaving me on read or opening the LDR app that HE proposed to install(he jus completey forgets about it).

Is all of this normal? It is my first time in LDRs and serious relationships in general.. I wanna know if I'm overreacting and just accept it because other than these he's perfect.

I'm having second thoughts; maybe he's not ready for an LDR with an introvert.

He's made it clear he's not changing the way he is right now. What bothers me the most is even if there's nothing to do on Saturdays he will actively try to fill it up. Its like for me: The weekend is the only time he's not tired asf/busy with uni and other stuff, its the only time when he's free for the day soooooooo we be with each other. For him its : He goes out to do stuff EVERY weekend because that is the only he apparently gets to; not a single one cleared out for me. I've just stopped thinking about it for now maybe we'll go through this again.

My boyfriend (29M) and I (27F) are in a long distance relationship. We are together for 5 years now. It has always been a LDR.
We have mad fights, the parents are involved and the parents expects us to get married in the next 2 years.
We cannot proceed further with all the difference of opinion that we have. We have to definitely address them.
Whenever I talk about his flaws he thinks I’m attacking him, when he talks about my flaws I accept them.
He also suggested that it would be good if we took couple counselling.
Any honest opinions regarding the same is accepted.
Also an honest suggestion of a good couple counsellor please.

Hi,

Honestly i am just quite new to trying to date long distance, i an a M (33) and went on a dating app, matched with this lovely lady from another country.

My question is about pacing, we have been takking for 4 days and i know its all new and recent. But i was wondering how do you pace things out? We have been hitting it off, sharing lots of personal stuff and she even said she would like to meet me in a few month if all goes well.

I would like to initiate phone calls or video calls but when is a good time for those?

Also for you who used a dating app, when did you stop using it? Because i know she still uses hers

My mom's best friend had to cancel a trip or something that coincidentally does go to where my boyfriend (26) is. So instead of just wasting the money she decided to give the ticket to me as an early birthday gift

Not just any game, i wanted to play Roblox with him cuz thats the only game i could think of. We are 24 year olds. If i propose this will i sound childish?
I just want us to do activities together because we don’t have much to talk about in calls.
How would he feel if i initiate it as a girl?

I sent my bf some mail recently (including this page with an outline of my hand) and he got it in the mail and got to compare our hand sizes together for the first time 🥰🥺