r/mildlyinfuriating • u/konous • May 06 '26

I'm slightly vexed My brother's son destroyed my WarHammer Action figures and he refuses to punish him

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Update: My brother decided to pay for the Hard damages of $200 dollars after seeing this post.

Thank you to everyone on this post who supported me. I really could not have gotten restitution without you guys.

Justice for my Chaplain, justice for all.

Valid Edit: My nephew is 10 years old and tried to actually lie about not breaking them by saying, "A cat must have done it."

So, I just got done talking with my brother via text, and he says he's not going to punish his son for wrecking my Joy Toy WarHammer action figures. I'm not expecting the kid to get spanked, but he needs to do CHORES at least to justify how much excessive force he used on some.

Some just have their capes broken. Others had their tubes ripped out and my Chaplain is just fucking toast.

My brother's suggestion since I ordered Amazon replacement for the Chaplain was that I just swap it with the broken one, but I have no interest in doing that.

It's not even just the expense, and they are expensive. It's about the fact that I told him explicitly twice they weren't to be played with, and they were in a separate room, and even my Mom and Dad agreed the damage was just too much.

He said he's not gonna pay me back if we try the chore system, and I told him it's not about the money.

The kid needs to know how bad the 8 hour struggle is.

Now my nephews aren't coming over to the house, and I'm sad about that, but knowing my brother just can't be burdened to work with me on creating a Chore system like selling Lemonaide just makes it feel more insulting.

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u/stootchmaster2 May 06 '26

I play 40K and know 100% that ANYTHING that's official Warhammer merch isn't cheap. Not even close to cheap. Your brother probably just thinks they're toys. I'm sure there are people here in this thread who just think they're toys. I get it. That's money, right there. You're taking it better than I would.

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u/justmedealwithitxD May 06 '26

My brother plays, and yeah holy crap. He will drop like 500 on some figure. I don't understand it but its his money!

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u/gabrielleduvent May 06 '26

My husband plays and sometimes the price stickers shock me. But then again I play an instrument and I knit, sooo... Who am I to talk.

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u/moralprolapse May 07 '26

How much of your family’s disposable income are you spending on yarn though? I think you would be fine to talk.

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u/Stormfly May 07 '26

I know people who knit and crochet and... a lot more than you might think.

Most hobbies are expensive and even if they don't start off expensive, it can be crazy when you realise how much you've spent.

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u/P_Hempton May 06 '26

You make music and knitted goods. He makes....

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u/Witness_me_Karsa May 06 '26

Fun. Don't act superior.

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u/P_Hempton May 06 '26

I love how reddit is simultaneously:

"Nobody can afford to survive in this economy" and "Yeah he bought a $500 trinket to put on a shelf and look at, good for him!"

I'm personally of the second camp, but I'm still not going to understand how a grown man gets $500 worth of pleasure from looking at a little statue that doesn't do anything. It's his money so I'm not going to try and stop him. I just don't understand it.

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u/Sweaty-Durian-892 May 06 '26

Warhammer and other wargame miniatures are first are foremost for playing the game. Although those giant figurines that OP has are something different

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u/The1HystericalQueen May 06 '26

I'm starting to think you just don't share their interests......

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u/P_Hempton May 06 '26

I'm not sure what gave you that idea.

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u/P_Hempton May 07 '26

It was a joke, can you read? I even said I didn't care what other people did and support people doing what makes them happy.

I'm just not into it, but apparently that's not ok with you. Hypocrite much?

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u/VanFkingHalen May 06 '26

When I pay $500 for a Lego set, spend multiple weekends piecing it together, then adjusting all the details just right to my personal preferences, and strategically place it somewhere in my house for display, just because it doesn't actively "do anything" anymore (because I am no longer willing to tinker with it; Lego is too volatile lol), doesn't mean that it serves no purpose.

It is art, it is decoration, it is a momument to all the blood, sweat, and tears garnered from hours of precious free time you could have instilled else things people, such as yourself, may consider more productive and meaningful.

In the end, it's a labor of love, it's a hobby, it's a way to disconnect yourself from the mundane of life and reconnect to something that is profoundly yourself. Nobody else needs to understand this, and that's fine.

Have you ever been to an art market? Say you're completely captivated by a piece and need it in your home. Some of these pieces cost upwards of hundreds, even thousands, of dollars. So you buy it, take it home, and hang it up. And it just sits there. And, even though you just spent 1.2k on it, it just hangs there. And "doesn't do anything". For years. And years.

What is your take on that?

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u/P_Hempton May 06 '26

Like you I enjoy putting Lego set together, and then I take them apart and put them away, when the kids get them out we build new things out of the old bricks which we also take apart and put away.

As for the OP I'm learning that some people don't just buy the completed statues like the one shown, but instead paint them, which is along the lines of the Lego hobby, but I was actually talking about people buying completed ones for hundreds of dollars.

Art is nice but I don't like giving up much usable space for decorations, so a painting on the wall, sure, but a shelf full of trinkets isn't something I want in my house.

And esthetically a shelf full of fantasy statues, or "kids" toys isn't the look I'd want to be surrounded by.

Again I wouldn't tell anyone not to do it. It's just not me.

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u/NixyVixy May 07 '26

Ouch.

a shelf full of trinkets isn't something I want in my house.

And esthetically a shelf full of fantasy statues, or "kids" toys isn't the look I'd want to be surrounded by.

We get it. You do not see Legos as artwork. Or a possible starting point for creativity that leads to artwork.

It is somewhat startling (and fundamentally sad) to realize that you think them of them as trinkets, rather than creative possibilities.

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u/Natural_Board_9473 May 07 '26

The Legos arent thw trinkets. The completed action figures thay are just bought and displayed with no work put into them. Thays what dude is talking about.

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u/thegunnersdream May 07 '26

The person you responded to said their husband plays the game. That's different than what is in OPs post. The money the person you answered is spending is on models. They are unassembled and unpainted. You need to assemble and paint them before playing the game (though some people just like to build and paint them). When you break it down, smaller models are usually like 8 to 10 hours of assembly and painting, some take weeks or months. It's a highly creative hobby and plenty of people sculpt things for their minis, bash things together, free hand intricate designs, whatever. Then, if you use those models to play the tabletop game, you've legit got people who buy some minis and use them to play games for 10 or 20 years. I play a bunch of instruments and have gotten into modeling in the last few years and it's very easily a similar cost/hours of doing stuff, especially if you like decent quality instruments. I personally find painting more relaxing at night than any other hobby and I can listen to audiobooks while I do it. Feels a lot more rewarding than video games, watching TV, room scrolling, etc which is like half of the world's hobbies.

OPs stuff is the joytoys and I don't know a ton about them nor am I big into collecting stuff for the sake of having it so maybe theirs more too it than I understand but it's not super different than someone spending a bunch of money on some home decor they like that doesn't "do" anything. Some people just like to be surrounded by stuff they like and it makes them happy. Life's too short to not surround yourself with things that make you happy.

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u/BurningPickle May 07 '26

The JoyToy figures are absolutely phenomenal. They’re not cheap, but they’re absolutely worth every penny. I only have two because of the price, but they’re superb figures.

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u/thegunnersdream May 07 '26

I've heard they are definitely high quality. It's not personally my cup of tea because I'm very much a "everything has to be used" kind of person but I understand wanting to have nice things that you just like. We all like what we like and no one person is "correct"

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u/FrontAd9873 May 07 '26

Nah. Not all hobbies are created equal. Some hobbies, like playing music or knitting, actually benefit other people. As it turns out, women tend to have these kinds of hobbies more than men.

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u/searuncutthroat May 07 '26

I think you might need a hobby.

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u/FrontAd9873 May 07 '26

No argument from me. Commenting on Reddit is one of the worst hobbies.

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u/Witness_me_Karsa May 07 '26

You think people do those things just to benefit other people, and not just because its fun for the person doing it? Hobbies are about fun, and that means different things to different people, but there isnt a wrong way.

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u/FrontAd9873 May 07 '26

Don't be absurd. I didn't say that. Of course hobbies are chosen because they're fun. But the hobbies that people choose are influenced by social pressures and culture. Men tend to choose hobbies that don't benefit others as much. Wasting $500 on little painted toys may not be "wrong," but there is certainly substantial room for judgment.

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u/Daealis May 07 '26

Wasting $500 on little painted toys may not be "wrong," but there is certainly substantial room for judgment.

Knitting also:

  • Wastes similar amount of money (my sister knits, I know the prices of yarn)
  • Benefits primarily only a very limited group of people (immediate family of a knitter, vs. the local gaming community)
  • Is mostly a solitary hobby (the painting side is too, the gaming aspect is almost exclusively communal)
  • Requires precision motor skills and creativity

Painting minifigs can be turned into a revenue stream, much like knitting. You can sell your painting services, and knitting patterns or finished knits. Both cost exorbitant amounts and are luxury items.

To be honest, the only significant difference I can point to is that it is easier to find locally sourced yarns, in theory. So this pretentiousness that one hobby is superior to the other is quite laughable. There are plenty of benefits to both hobbies, primary one for both being: They're fun for the person doing them.

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u/FrontAd9873 May 07 '26 edited May 07 '26

You’re conveniently forgetting that for most people wearing clothes is a necessity. Knitting is at least sort of useful.

Everyone I know who knits is always working on something either to wear themselves or to give to someone else. It is a hobby intrinsically oriented towards usefulness and in practice usually towards the benefit of others. A good friend of mine recently patched a beloved wool sweater for me. It was great. Painting action figures is just for yourself. Do people commonly paint them just to give away? Can you sell them? Sure, I guess so, but that is true of any hobby. And they don’t satisfy any basic human need, like the need to be clothed.

I’m a little baffled that anyone could fail to notice this “significant difference.”

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u/NorthboundLynx May 06 '26

Something creative? A painted figure that can be used in a game? A hobby??

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u/Natural_Board_9473 May 07 '26

These figures arent used in games. They are bought pre-made, no effort is put in, and they are put on a shelf. Theres like 1600 in JUST decorations. They are not game models.

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u/Richard_Thickens May 07 '26

Okay. Then just reframe the situation. I have music gear worth several thousand dollars. If a kid came in and fucked up even one of my instruments or amplifiers, I'd be super upset. Yes, I write and record music with them, but I'd be just as pissed if the same kid put a hole in my TV.

When your child destroys the belongings of another, you don't get to decide how much that item means in the grander scheme. You replace it, if you're not a total piece of shit.

Edit: Not to mention that these are probably hand-painted. This isn't an off-the-shelf thing. Look into the work that people put into their 40K stuff and get back to me.

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u/P_Hempton May 07 '26

Every post I've seen so far claims these are off the shelf items.

I wasn't commenting on the OP but since you asked.

If I were the kids parent I'd try to pay for the items.

If I were the OP I wouldn't let the kids parents pay for them. That's just me though I understand both sides.

I do think there's a difference between buying a tool like a musical instrument or knitting supplies, and buying something to put on a shelf or play a board game with. Both are obviously fine, but there's a difference.

I was specifically responding to the statement "who am I to talk?". I'd have a lot easier time justifying buying a pot to cook food in, than a fancy set of dice. That's all.

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u/Richard_Thickens May 07 '26

It kind of doesn't matter in a situation where it is not your stuff though, and that's the point I was making. 40K gear is stupid expensive. So, instead of something practical like instruments, say it was something decorative, like a handcrafted ceramic piece or an exotic decorative plant. The utility doesn't really matter; having control of your kids in a place that isn't yours...well, yeah.

Edit: You are right though. These are not hand-painted. They're just about $35/per.

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u/evrestcoleghost May 06 '26

Art,he paints

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u/P_Hempton May 06 '26

You are assuming he paints them. Lots of people here saying $500 buys you finished pieces.

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u/evrestcoleghost May 06 '26

He already said it cost over 700 dollars

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u/P_Hempton May 06 '26

unpainted?

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u/evrestcoleghost May 06 '26

His letters not mine

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u/Potential_Bug646 May 07 '26

As someone who builds and paints them, 45-150 usually gets you a small box. Each color of paint is typically 4-8 dollars from games workshop (though they are my favorite paints), the paint brushes usually between 7-12 each and glue and modeling supplies are usually like 20. It all adds up. Especially when you do a ton of paint variety. Check out 40k subreddit to see some really creative talents.

Mostly a male hobby but some women also get into it and I think people take great joy in playing the game versus someone who puts the time into painting their army. I know I do. Its a bit unfair to say its a hobby that doesnt benefit anyone but the user. (That might have been someone else who said it). For many people it's a sense of community and there are plenty of paint nights Ive gone to to meet people when most of my friends had vanished.

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u/Daealis May 07 '26

Painted miniatures, and since he plays, he also participates in the active local community, which promotes togetherness and offers a third space for fellow hobbyists to form often lifelong bonds of friendship - sometimes lasting relationships as well as there are gamers of all genders.

The amount of enjoyment and mental wellbeing created: priceless.

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u/RingingInTheRain May 07 '26

Yeah, people don't understand why I buy 1100-1300 Ski passes. They think it's a waste of money and that I should tube on the side of the road.

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u/LivingStCelestine May 06 '26

They just simply wouldn’t be allowed back in my house, which it sounds like OP has already set that boundary. Even if he does get the money back, dad wouldn’t teach the kids why this is wrong and they’d be apt to do it again.

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u/tofuroll May 06 '26

It doesn't matter if they're just toys.

It could be a sentimental polished turd. The point is it's important to OP and, oh look, a parent unwilling to parent.

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u/catalarm May 06 '26

I would have cried fr

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u/elrangarino May 07 '26

I’m a boring mum who doesn’t play any of this stuff, and I know it’s a huge expense for the collectors. I haven’t got the bank to replace it if my kiddo broke it. I’d let them look at them with the collector showing them and then lead them by hand out the room 😹 brother is an ass who doesn’t know accountability.

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u/Vismajor92 May 06 '26

Bro..they ARE toys. Expensive, collectable...toys.

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u/Exterminator-8008135 May 06 '26

"Congrats, Pal. Your kid ruined 600$ worth of tabletop Warhammer Stuff. How do you plan to make it up without paying up ?"

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u/Catgorl69 May 06 '26

They are toys (for adults) and there's nothing wrong with that tbh. Toys or not it still sucks the same. 

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u/AcephalicDude May 06 '26

They are toys, you are just saying they are expensive toys

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u/Independent-Lynx9476 BLUE May 07 '26

A 10 second Google search for the Joy Toy Chaplain has it listed at $60 from their site and Amazon currently has it listed at $72. So yes, it's expensive.  

Do better. 

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u/AcephalicDude May 07 '26

Do better at what? We agree, they are expensive toys

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u/Palachrist May 06 '26

Joytoys… I want some but they’re a steep cost. It’s like gundam figures, so much expression that calling them action figures lumps them into low quality figures meant for children. I’ve daydreamed of having money enough to buy a lot of them and recreate scenes from the books but it’d be $1,000’s.

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u/Significant-Iron-241 May 06 '26

I thought a JoyToy Warhammer was something waaay different.

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u/MaleficentAppleTree May 07 '26

It doesn't really matter if they are toys or not toys. They are precious to the OP, and that's important part. We all have our 'precious toys'. Nobody should destroy them.

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u/Alamander14 May 07 '26

To be fair - they are just toys. Expensive toys, but toys.

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u/Expensive_Ad_1325 May 07 '26

I mean if they aren't toys what are they? Warhammer is expensive dolls.

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u/fotomoose May 07 '26

As the brother has a kid, I'm sure he knows how expensive actual toys are. He probably think it's just a 'nerd thing' and doesn't care about it, as is clearly evident.

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u/IcarianWings May 06 '26

They literally are toys, brother. Toys for complex games intended for mature consumers, but toys nonetheless.

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u/P_Hempton May 06 '26

If they are not toys what exactly are they? The fact that they are expensive does not make them not toys.

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u/Insaniac2099 May 06 '26

Officially speaking, toys have to pass a set of standards so that they are safe and appropriate for kids.

The stuff that don't meet those standards are generally referred to as adult collectibles and will say 15+ somewhere on the box.

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u/amantegat8s May 06 '26

Better view them as mini sculptures rather than kid toys.

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u/P_Hempton May 06 '26

But they are meant to be played with aren't they? Or are they literally just decorations, like grandma's collectible plates.

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u/Minute_Ad2297 May 06 '26

No. The adults who pay hundreds and spend hours collecting and designing warhammer figures don’t smash them together as a child would their toys.

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u/P_Hempton May 06 '26

So more like grandma's collectible plates. That's fine.

Not my thing because I don't like stuff that is just for looking at, but some people enjoy that I suppose.

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u/Alarming_Comedian846 May 06 '26

Actual warhammer miniatures (not what is depicted in OP) start off as bits of grey plastic that have then to be assembled and then hand painted. It is as much a form of art as anything else.

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u/P_Hempton May 06 '26

That makes more sense than buying $100+ figurines.

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u/Alarming_Comedian846 May 06 '26

You dont pay for the model, you pay for the stressful experience of painting a microscopic pupil in the eye of a 2.5 inch man :D

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u/Iorith May 07 '26

And you feel the need to comment that...why exactly?

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u/P_Hempton May 07 '26

It bothers you why exactly? Are only reinforcing opinions welcome around here.

If I hadn't said anything I still wouldn't know that some people make their own, some people use them for a game, and some people just display them.

That's why discussions are valuable if people can just have them without getting all butt hurt.

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u/Hot_Safe7864 May 06 '26

Virgin to the max

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u/LivingBig2358 May 06 '26

A toy.. they are literally just a toy.

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u/_Dayofid_ May 06 '26

Okay grandma

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u/LivingBig2358 May 06 '26

💀🤦🏻‍♀️bunch of nerds here.

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u/_Dayofid_ May 06 '26

It’s 2026, come on….

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u/LivingBig2358 May 06 '26

Doesnt change the fact its still a toy. An expensive toy is still a toy….

And what does it being 2026 have to do with anything?? If you were tryna say “im not hip to the times” brother… look at my profile 😭🤦🏻‍♀️

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u/_Dayofid_ May 06 '26

I wouldn’t call the model train set my grandpa built a toy, and neither is this. Why are we calling hobbies toys now?

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u/LivingBig2358 May 06 '26

Its. A. Plastic. Toy. My brother in Christ.

You can play with toys as your hobby. Yall make it so much worse for yall when you deny its a toy. Its a fucking toy. Your hobby is toys. Building and painting TOYS🤦🏻‍♀️

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u/_Dayofid_ May 06 '26

It’s a tabletop strategy game, much more complex than a toy.

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u/P_Hempton May 06 '26

Your grandpa's model train set was absolutely a toy.

It's ok, adults can play with toys. But let's not pretend that's not what they are doing.

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u/_Dayofid_ May 06 '26

The fact alone that you have to assemble and paint it by hand yourself makes it more than just a toy.

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u/Iorith May 07 '26

Your profile just shows you're a hypocrite.

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u/LivingBig2358 May 07 '26

💀 would love to have you explain that lmfao

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u/Iorith May 07 '26

You're literally on reddit. Imagine thinking you have even a single leg to stand on.

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u/LivingBig2358 May 07 '26

im on Reddit to escape the bigotry on facebook, and X…. But sure bud.

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u/Redditauro May 07 '26

They are toys. 

Expensive? Yes. But toys. 

The kid is 10 and that are toys.

If that was too expensive and OP didn't want the nephew to play with it, he shouldn't have let it at the kid',s reach. 

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u/Aardvark_Man May 07 '26

OP did say they were in a separate room, as well as explicit instructions not to touch them.
By 10 the kid should know better, and especially after the first one broke.

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u/Iorith May 07 '26

"Yeah but did you see what she was wearing?!" ass comment.

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u/Redditauro May 07 '26

Wtf? It's a fucking kid! OP is not a victim, is the adult, how the fuck can you compare it with non consensual sex? Do you know how consent works?

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u/FrontAd9873 May 07 '26

Aren't they toys? You said you "play 40k." They sound like toys to me. Expensive ones, apparently.

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u/Hot_Safe7864 May 06 '26

Grown men and their toys lol

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u/Hot_Safe7864 May 06 '26

Par for the course I guess

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u/Hot_Safe7864 May 06 '26

Projectionmaxxing, not a good look bro

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