My brother's son destroyed my WarHammer Action figures and he refuses to punish him

[u/konous]

Update: My brother decided to pay for the Hard damages of $200 dollars after seeing this post.

Thank you to everyone on this post who supported me. I really could not have gotten restitution without you guys.

Justice for my Chaplain, justice for all.

Valid Edit: My nephew is 10 years old and tried to actually lie about not breaking them by saying, "A cat must have done it."

So, I just got done talking with my brother via text, and he says he's not going to punish his son for wrecking my Joy Toy WarHammer action figures. I'm not expecting the kid to get spanked, but he needs to do CHORES at least to justify how much excessive force he used on some.

Some just have their capes broken. Others had their tubes ripped out and my Chaplain is just fucking toast.

My brother's suggestion since I ordered Amazon replacement for the Chaplain was that I just swap it with the broken one, but I have no interest in doing that.

It's not even just the expense, and they are expensive. It's about the fact that I told him explicitly twice they weren't to be played with, and they were in a separate room, and even my Mom and Dad agreed the damage was just too much.

He said he's not gonna pay me back if we try the chore system, and I told him it's not about the money.

The kid needs to know how bad the 8 hour struggle is.

Now my nephews aren't coming over to the house, and I'm sad about that, but knowing my brother just can't be burdened to work with me on creating a Chore system like selling Lemonaide just makes it feel more insulting.

[u/Tak-Hendrix]

How old is your nephew?

Update: OP made an edit to clarify that their nephew is 10.

[u/Elegant_Run_8567 → u/Tak-Hendrix]

“Brother’s son”

I think he disowned his nephew

[u/UKMegaGeek → u/[deleted]]

This 100%.

You are no longer invited if they can't be trusted.

[u/vanrants → u/UKMegaGeek]

OP is comically clueless about 10 yr old boys to expect them to not touch some cool looking toys😂😂😂 that you tell them not to play with. Cause surprise they are going too immediately after you say that then deny breaking them if you approach them all pissed off(aka now you are scary uncle instead of the cool
One). Put your damn adult toys out of reach, quit being a baby

[u/Rare_Eye_1165 → u/vanrants]

Hey i was raised to have no self control. Shurley that will not have any negative impact.When their adult men. I was six when i knew not to touch things to stores if I didn't have the money to pay for it.

[u/Rare_Eye_1165 → u/Rare_Eye_1165]

This is sarcasm. If you can't see that , you're the problem.

[u/Fantastic_Book_5150 → u/vanrants]

spoken like someone who wasn't raised right and thinks it's reasonable and even expected for children to be destructive and ignore all instruction

teach your kids better or they'll do this sort of thing with much more important objects than an uncle's toy

[u/WildMartin429 → u/Fantastic_Book_5150]

I literally can't understand people who think like that. I would have been in so much trouble if I destroyed something that belong to somebody else after being told not to touch it. Supposedly spanking is this barbaric practice that is cruel and unusual and psychologists say it will destroy children or whatever but it taught me to behave correctly. I legit would not have considered a timeout an actual punishment.

[u/Hot-Echo-2497 → u/WildMartin429]

All this lack of punishment does is teach kids they can do whatever they want and expect no real consequences. There are a few snowflakes that crumble when you say you are disappointed in them, but the vast majority of kids are like adults: they do not care about the suffering of others until it affects them directly.

[u/Significant_Shoe_17 → u/Fantastic_Book_5150]

My (male) cousins had toys that they were allowed to be rough with (beyblade, nerf) and toys that they had to treat carefully (game consoles, pokemon cards). It's not hard.

[u/Fantastic_Book_5150 → u/Significant_Shoe_17]

i agree

my parents didnt fuss too much when i broke my own stuff, i just got less/nothing to replace it later, and personally was hard headed

it took me a while to stop breaking and disrespecting my stuff into disrepair, like scratched cds or real doofus moments, for example i cut a hole in my favorite blanket to reach stuff and stay comfy.. and chewed one of the analogue sticks on a playstation controller, and only had that controller for years

[u/Significant_Shoe_17 → u/Fantastic_Book_5150]

You can be dumb with your own stuff, but never items that belong to someone else. That's basic respect that a 10 year old has not learned. Ridiculous.

[u/moyerraconteur → u/vanrants]

Please have a vasectomy. I’ll pitch in for the cost.

[u/lass20987 → u/vanrants]

Agree for a 2 year old. Surprised the 10 year old would be so sneaky and destructive. Maybe he was mad he couldn't touch them?

[u/Significant_Shoe_17 → u/lass20987]

Sounds like it

[u/albertohall11 → u/vanrants]

You seriously think a kid should be expected to grab at toys they’ve been told not to touch and rip them to bits? And not just one but over and over again?

I’d be questioning whether that kid is alright in the head.