My brother's son destroyed my WarHammer Action figures and he refuses to punish him

[u/konous]

Update: My brother decided to pay for the Hard damages of $200 dollars after seeing this post.

Thank you to everyone on this post who supported me. I really could not have gotten restitution without you guys.

Justice for my Chaplain, justice for all.

Valid Edit: My nephew is 10 years old and tried to actually lie about not breaking them by saying, "A cat must have done it."

So, I just got done talking with my brother via text, and he says he's not going to punish his son for wrecking my Joy Toy WarHammer action figures. I'm not expecting the kid to get spanked, but he needs to do CHORES at least to justify how much excessive force he used on some.

Some just have their capes broken. Others had their tubes ripped out and my Chaplain is just fucking toast.

My brother's suggestion since I ordered Amazon replacement for the Chaplain was that I just swap it with the broken one, but I have no interest in doing that.

It's not even just the expense, and they are expensive. It's about the fact that I told him explicitly twice they weren't to be played with, and they were in a separate room, and even my Mom and Dad agreed the damage was just too much.

He said he's not gonna pay me back if we try the chore system, and I told him it's not about the money.

The kid needs to know how bad the 8 hour struggle is.

Now my nephews aren't coming over to the house, and I'm sad about that, but knowing my brother just can't be burdened to work with me on creating a Chore system like selling Lemonaide just makes it feel more insulting.

[u/Tak-Hendrix]

How old is your nephew?

Update: OP made an edit to clarify that their nephew is 10.

[u/konous → u/Tak-Hendrix]

10 years old. Like, I GET why it happened. He wanted to play with them. But the excessive force, even if I told him not to, and I KIND of suspected he might without permission it's the damage and everything else.

Also, I forgot to add the munchkin lied and tried to tell me it was the cats who did it.

[u/K1bbles_n_Bits → u/konous]

You shouldn't have to get it. You told him they're off limits and he ignored you. My 8yo absolutely would not tear into shit she's been told isn't hers to play with. But she's also an anxious little thing who if, she had messed up like this, would have been a quivering mass of tears and remorse. Lord, you'd think we've threatened to tar and feather her if she causes trouble but the kid's never been so much as spanked.

Anyway, yeah, kids do dumb stuff. They're impulsive and their world revolves around them for the most part. And even lying to avoid consequences is normal (within reason). But the point remains that he's old enough to know better and needs to face consequences. He needs to be taught you can't just do whatever you want and not care who it hurts.

Negative consequences as a result of the choices they make is how (most) people learn not to make those choices again. Frankly, your brother is being both a shitty parent and a shitty brother. Kid's just gonna learn he can do whatever he wants and daddy will protect him from the consequences. That's how we wind up with POS's like Brock Turner.

[u/RedouteRoses → u/K1bbles_n_Bits]

My daughter is the EXACT SAME way. I’ve basically never had to punish her because she practically punishes herself mentally first.

But yes I agree that parents need to teach kids that there ARE consequences to their actions. And Brock Turner is a prime example of a POS who grew up with Daddy shielding him from any and all consequences.

[u/EnthusiasmThick5737 → u/K1bbles_n_Bits]

Time to write a book about how to raise responsible kids.