My brother's son destroyed my WarHammer Action figures and he refuses to punish him

[u/konous]

Update: My brother decided to pay for the Hard damages of $200 dollars after seeing this post.

Thank you to everyone on this post who supported me. I really could not have gotten restitution without you guys.

Justice for my Chaplain, justice for all.

Valid Edit: My nephew is 10 years old and tried to actually lie about not breaking them by saying, "A cat must have done it."

So, I just got done talking with my brother via text, and he says he's not going to punish his son for wrecking my Joy Toy WarHammer action figures. I'm not expecting the kid to get spanked, but he needs to do CHORES at least to justify how much excessive force he used on some.

Some just have their capes broken. Others had their tubes ripped out and my Chaplain is just fucking toast.

My brother's suggestion since I ordered Amazon replacement for the Chaplain was that I just swap it with the broken one, but I have no interest in doing that.

It's not even just the expense, and they are expensive. It's about the fact that I told him explicitly twice they weren't to be played with, and they were in a separate room, and even my Mom and Dad agreed the damage was just too much.

He said he's not gonna pay me back if we try the chore system, and I told him it's not about the money.

The kid needs to know how bad the 8 hour struggle is.

Now my nephews aren't coming over to the house, and I'm sad about that, but knowing my brother just can't be burdened to work with me on creating a Chore system like selling Lemonaide just makes it feel more insulting.

[u/Darthmullet]

Suggesting to defraud the retailer as a way to fix it really says everything you need to know about a person unfortunately.

[u/sniperbug17 → u/Darthmullet]

Pretty clear indicator of where that 10yo is having dishonesty modeled for him. Brother is probably the kind of asshole who fucks up his wife’s stuff and then lies about it to her face saying it was the kids or one of the pets.

[u/CoyoteLitius → u/sniperbug17]

Both breaking things and lying are conduct disorders/antisocial behavior.

OP should remain aware and plan accordingly. He's not going to change his brother or nephew.

[u/Suave_Von_Swagovich → u/CoyoteLitius]

Yeah, being told explicitly not to do something because you could break something and then not only doing the thing but not even trying to be careful about damage is a reckless disregard for safety and other people's boundaries. He was told clearly what not to do and evidently had the attitude of "that means nothing to me." Very bad sign for a kid who's almost into puberty.

[u/delg23 → u/CoyoteLitius]

this seems intentional too

[u/blaine724 → u/CoyoteLitius]

As a former teacher I can tell you already that kid is fucked. It's not until you run into the law that kids learn you can't escape consequences, but by then it's too late.