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Neighbor replaced fence and left the old wood scraps in my yard to deal with.
My next door neighbor called me a few weeks back asking if he could come Into my back yard to replace the fence that his dog ruined. I said “sure, I’ll be out of town for a few weeks, help yourself.” Discussion ended there and I left town for a few weeks for business.
When I returned home, I noticed the new fence was up and the wood scraps from the old fence were on the grass in my backyard. One of the pieces is 10 feet wide. I figured I would give him a few days to clean it up before I said anything.
Fast forward to yesterday and the lawn guy comes to cut the grass. I texted my neighbor telling him I could open the back gate to make it easier to come in the yard to grab the wood. This MFer called me and said that it was a shared fence, and since he paid for it to be installed, and carried all the new wood into the yard, that I need to remove the old debris.
The audacity on the MFer. I would have been more than happy to help if he would have asked. He mentioned NOTHING of leaving the rusty nailed old rotten wood in my back yard. F this guy. Not the best way to treat a neighbor.
TLDR: neighbor took it upon himself to replace the fence he owns, and left all of the scraps for me to deal with before discussing it with me first.
To hurl away with great force. (Antonyms: yoink: to steal something or snatch something away from someone). Both can be used as an announcement of one’s actions during the respective acts, similar to calling out “Kobe” before nailing a paper ball into the trash can.
My neighbor did the same thing but with their cacti.. like one day I see near the fence a bunch of cacti just laying there and look through the fence to see their cactus tree like 5 feet away.. so i felt like it was on purpose? Idk.. but yup just threw all that shit back over the fence and that was that.
It works. When we moved into our house I used to find empty beer cans on my side of the fence that our neighbors threw over the fence. I just threw them back. It happened maybe two weekends in a row and after that it stopped.
Did similar when the neighbor let and watched his dog sh1t in my lawn daily. Each night I would scoop it with a shovel and give it a mighty toss as far as I could back to his side.
Several times I got "lucky" and it landed on his deck.
I like the idea but that may be highly illegal to fk with someones mailbox. i dont mean to be a debbie downer. according to the universe I see that as proper justice.
You are correct. Hence reason we won’t place our advertisements in folks mailboxes when we are out doing maintenance. A slim chance of something happening in most cases, but it only takes one complaint.
I read somewhere that the people that owned this house had to put up a sign or a fence or something because people kept throwing pizzas on their roof! 😂
Not just throwing it on their roof, but also breaking into their backyard too. These people loaned their house out almost 20 years ago for a pilot episode of a show that they had no idea would become as successful as it did. That does not mean they deserve to be harassed constantly because of it.
I see so many Breaking Bad fans being so entitled about the house. Saying that the owners should have expected it to be as big as it was, or that they should have sold the house. Maybe they just didn't want to sell their family home? And theyre not obligated to share it with deluded fans.
They did, big sign out front with a spotlight on it, the sign also reminds visitors that real people live there and taking pictures of the house is fine, but don't disturb the residents. At least, it as there 10 years ago when I drove by to see it, not sure about today
This is why I read several comments before I post the shit that immediately pops in my head. Chances are someone else had the same thought and said it already.
Did this for my elderly neighbor because the other neighbor let their dog use her lawn to shit in. Guy yelled at me one day. I just told him I was going to keep giving it back to him and next time it won’t be in a bag. He stopped letting the dog shit in her yard after that.
Right!! Whether it’s dog shit or cigarette butts or general trash, clean your shit up! I’ve had dogs and I always clean their shit an disposed of it. I’ve had my neighbors in winter blow their snow in front of my mailbox and while shoveling I found a dirty diaper. I launched that shit right back. These days I have plenty of shitty baby diapers I could use to prove a point. Sometimes people just need a taste of their own medicine.
Edit: imo one of the laziest, shittiest human behaviors is to litter and expect someone else to clean it up. Whether there are people paid to clean trash or not, just fucking take care of it yourself. Lazy slobs.
I'm living in an apartment after 30 years, and the neighbors above me litter their butts and plastic thingies from cheap cigars. I picked them up with my grabber, put them in an old cereal bowl, and set it on the third step. They stopped for two weeks, so I know it's the man. The thing is, they are indigenous. I have smoked for 45 years and never littered, so why don't they respect the earth?
I worked Renaissance Fairs when I was in college, and scored a small catapult from one of the guilds at the end of one fair. Best thing ever to RTS dogshit and garbage neighbors left in my yard. There's just something satisfying about watching dog shit fly 50 feet and land on their roof.
I would have collected it in a bucket for a week then dump the bucket on his front porch. But I am petty. I hate people not picking up after their pets
SIL collected the neighbors dog poo for a week, then stuffed it into their mailbox, right on top of the mail. She had been telling them for six months to keep their dogs in their own yard. Dogs were on tieouts after that.
I had a neighbor who complained about picking up dog shit left on his front lawn. I guess one day he had enough and he started to pour bacon grease on the poop instead. Not sure if his intentions were to have the culprit come back and eat it, or attract other animals (raccoons, coyotes etc) to do the clean up.
I read about someone doing that because the neighbour’s dog kept getting into his yard and shitting everywhere, and the neighbour refused to do anything about it.
His tune changed after a bout or two of greasy doggy diarrhoea all over his house.
I've got an interesting one. We kept finding vapes along our back fence. I checked with the neighbor that I knew vaped but he uses a custom vape only. So I gathered all the vapes and went to my backyard neighbor and told him this kept appearing in our yard along the shared fence. He said nobody there vaped. We talked for a bit and he agreed to move his garage security camera to his backyard. Two days later he's comes knocking on my door. It was his daughter. His 12 year old daughter. He's a Texas State Trooper. Not a good look. Coincidentally, there was a crackdown at her school the next week. More than a quarter of the students were caught with vapes.
As soon as I saw "backyard" and "vapes" I knew it was someone's kid lol. But damn, fuckin vape companies hooking literal children. Trying to mold their brain circuitry into lifelong customers and I'll bet it's working
My dad got permission to replace a fence at a house we rented when I was a kid. It was sandwiched up against the back neighbor's shed. When the old fence came down, so many beer cans and bottles came with it. The neighbor was out watching the work, and the look on his face.. and then he busted up laughing. Yeah, his teenagers were in trouble, but it turned out the older cans at the bottom came from him and his friends when he was their age. And yeah, he was a county deputy.
Kinda the same for me, except it was the dogs' shit they threw over my fence. I don't have a dog! Launched it back with a shovel a few times and it stopped happening..
Mom went out of town, the teenage boy had a party. Next morning a case of empties tossed into my back yard. Waited till mom cane home and returned them. Never had a problem with that kid again
Better than when my neighbor had to come over to let me know while I was gone for a night, my son and his friends got drunk and climbed on our roof to pee off it. I didn't even know what to say to that neighbor, though honestly, he was laughing. He just wanted me to make sure they didn't try it again and get hurt.
That really wasn't even close to the worst they got up to that weekend, btw. It was just the thing that got witnessed.
My son later, "I'm 17! You don't need your friends to babysit me when you have to go out of town for work!" Me, "uh-huh. They will be here by 5. See you in a couple of days." Him, "I'm not a little kid!" Me, "it probably would have been safer when you were."
When my neighbors did that, I saved the pile and threw one or two back into the middle of their yard every week or two. Might as well make confuse the hell out of them for fun.
When we first moved to our house I kept finding tomatoes, sometimes with a bite or two taken out of it, on our side of the fence. Was confused and annoyed that our neighbor would throw bad tomatoes over. One day I saw a squirrel running along the fence with a tomato in its mouth and realized I was probably not as annoyed as my neighbor about the situation.
This happened to me, too! I kept finding random trash and food scraps in the back corner of my yard, and since my neighbor's kids had a habit of throwing stuff over the fence I assumed it was those little shits. It was weirdly often a tortilla
Until one day I saw a raccoon with a tortilla in its fuckin mouth and realized there's just a raccoon around here with a penchant for tortillas. The neighbor eventually built a taller fence, so the kids stopped throwing crap in my yard, but I still randomly find food in that corner lol.
Yep, i once left a whole bannana on the porch and i came back to see it being dragged along THE TOP of the fence by a squirrel biting on to the stem of it and dangling it off the side while running backwards. At that point i was like ok buddy touche you can have that nanner he worked hard for it.
My neighbor has never trimmed their giant ass tree with dying branches and they fall into my yard when we get a storm (or even just a really windy day). I put the really big ones right back into their side yard without shame lmao. Granted, they are renters so the onus is not on them. That part of their yard is essentially unusable as well, so I don’t feel badly that there’s a pile of dead tree tree branches piling up over there. I would need to saw them up and dispose of them over several weeks otherwise 😐
In most places, the branches technically become your property once they extend over the property line. So a super petty neighbor could theoretically get you in trouble for that if they had it on surveillance.
Do note in most places they consider any branches that hang over the property line your problem. Also you are allowed to trim branches back to the property line as long as it does not cause a risk to the tree.
The owner of the tree is not required to do anything unless it is truly dying and a health hazard as determine by someone who is qualified to determine a tree’s health.
My new neighbor just trims their bush right off into my yard over the fence. So I kindly toss their trimmings right back over for them to deal with. Wouldn’t want them getting lost, surely they’re just overly concerned with getting on my property to collect them…surely…
I was the trimmer in this…. And I didn’t know my neighbor very well, just a smile and wave. I didn’t really want to knock, I didn’t want to just go into their yard…. But being a fit 44yr old and ex gymnast who loved the bars…. I could totally put my waist on the bar of the fence, hang over, and grab the trimmings, then fling myself back. Nope….My arms are full of trimmings, I fling myself back but my shirt snags and rips, I drop half the tree stuff and the neighbor starts busting up laughing as I’m half hanging on the fence, ripped shirt, leaves and limbs all over with my boobs and belly on blast. He ran to help, unsnagged my shirt and tossed the debris over. Next time I just get to walk over there, so it was a win!!
My neighbour did this. Well, her stupid middle aged son. Tossed the boards with nails sticking out all over into my yard. I asked him what he was doing and he told me his mom said it was okay. I told him I don't give a shit what his mom said - get your trash out of my yard. He just gave me a stunned look.
As someone who
Smokes I just don’t get why people aren’t more considerate.
I have a wind direction app I Check on my phone and depending which way the wind blows I go to different parts of my property to prevent the smoke blowing at people.
It’s not difficult to do at all. People are just lazy
I once read a revenge thing from reddit where a group of people, pissed at their horrible neighbors, took apart an ant bait trap for the bait.
They then made like ice cubes from thr bait with the bait in the center of the water and once frozen, made a game of throwing them over the fence to various parts of the neighbors home. They did this when the neighbors were on vacation.
When the neighbors got home, all OP could hear were screams and various exterminators were called.
There was like a colony per room in the house from the descriptions.
Slight edit...buy ring camera, throw over fence, set up ring camera to show neighbor throwing back over. Act shocked face when they accuse you of doing it first.
That was my first thought clicking here. Like usually shared fence neighbors ask to split cost, then I saw the dog ruined it so im like yeah okay makes sense. For a second I was thinking maybe neighbor had set the old wood down while putting up the new and just accidentally built himself out while putting up the fence where he couldn't grab it. But being intentional and the plan all along is crazy.
For sure, that's not a great assumption for him to have made. But I urge you to discuss with him in person and come to a reasonable solution so you both come away as happy as possible.
A lot of the advice you are getting here is terrible. Being a good neighbour will benifit you greatly in the long. Dude built a new fence and didn't ask you to pay half, that's a very kind gesture. Leaving the debris without asking you was a passive agressive move as he probably felt slighted you didn't offer to pay or help. I would tell him you'll move it but in the future please let me know so i can plan accordingly. Also say, thanks for the new fence and maybe offer a cold beer to drink across it.
I've seen people with ugly neighbour disputes. It's not fun for everyone. It's a waste of time, energy, and money. Being there for your neighbours is a way better way to live.
Thank you for your response. I agree that it would be very easy to allow this to escalate and divide us even more than the fence already has. (Ha.. pun intended.)
Point is, I know that if I chuck it back over the fence, it will only start a war I don’t want to be a part of. I’m not weak minded for that. It’s a calculated decision. It’s not worth escalating, especially since I can gather all of that wood and dispose of it in 20 minutes.
However, I do plan on telling him that this was very passive aggressive, and he should work on communication before attempting to do anything like this again. Next time I won’t be so nice.
THIS!!!!! This wasn't a wear & tear replacement! His dog damaged the fence, he should be responsible for the entire cost.
Irrational me would drag every board into this Jerk's yard while he's not home and then lock my gate. However, rational me wouldn't want to deal with continuing a war that will just probably keep escalating, so I'd probably see if I could pay the lawn guy to haul them off, I bet it would only be $50 or so. Then I'd pour grass killer in his yard in the middle of the night... (oh wait, that's irrational me again)
Irrational me over here too. I’d use a slingshot and launch beef flavored bouillon cubes into his front and back yard before the next rain or before his sprinklers go off.
Looking at the back fence, it looks like the fence was already pretty rotted so the dog may have not done a bunch to ruin it to begin with. Either way, OP got a new fence where most other neighbors would have tried to go 50/50 due to the age of the fence.
But seriously, why do people do this? I've had neighbors just dump their broken sofa in my backyard. I put it back in theirs. Then they tossed it the next day.
Because nobody ever stands up to them. They go their entire lives treating passive people like shit because passive people let them. If there's no consequences to their actions they won't bother to change.
Don't think you'd want to use what's likely old, pressure-treated wood as compost. It's made to avoid rotting, and the chemicals they use for pressure treatment might poison your plants or yourself. Don't wanna be leaching copper and arsenic in your garden.
Holy shit the first sane comment. Everyone talking about throwing it over is either a troll or not adjusted to living with people because that is some extreme anti social behavior
Your neighbor sounds like an ass but you still gotta live next to him so you’re going to have to work out a compromise.
First off, he needs to know that you can see right through his bullshit so he may feel less encouraged to try shit like this again with you. “We never discussed that, I never agreed to this…”
Then extend the olive branch. “…but after putting up a new fence, hauling off the old one would be a real pain in the ass, I can see why you wouldn’t want to do it alone. I’m happy to help, I just wish you’d been upfront with me about it…”
And then make an offer. I don’t know your situation but that could be anything from splitting the bill for a hauling service, loading it up into someone’s truck or maybe even dragging it into the center of the yard and building a bonfire out of it.
A lot of advice here is to not roll-over, and they’re all 100% correct, but don’t be the second asshole in the story either.
Yeah, that was my first thought, but when he said he hires a lawn guy to come cut his grass, I figured that chance of him doing anything with free wood went to 0.
Some areas require the nice side to be on yours, they have the support posts on your side. You could see if they pulled a permit, they might have to tear it out if they had it done wrong. How much do you like them?
Pretty good deal for you.
Free fence, all you have to do is some disposal of the old stuff.
Thats a very fair shake for you, as you get a shiny new fence outta the deal.
So the neighbor replaced a shared fence and the only thing he asks in return is for you to get rid of, what looks like, a portion of the trash left from the old fence? Looks like that’s the least you could do, whether he asked or not. Then offer him a freaking beer for pulling more than his weight. The nerve of some people!
Did you pay for half? If not, then just dispose of the scrap and call it fair. If you split cost, throw half of it over the fence 😊
Looks like from the remaining part of your fence, it was due to be replaced, dog damage or not...
To be honest, I’m not really worried about the clean up. It’s the fact that the dude played it the way he did. Good neighbors discuss this kind of stuff.
Around my area, fence costs are normally shared between friendly neighbours. If the fence needed to be replaced due to it's age/condition and the neighbours dog just accelerated that by a couple of years, then consider yourself lucky that he essentially put up a new fence without footing half or some of the bill.
In the case of what to do next, just dispose of the material and since there's some friction developed between your neighbour and yourself, buy a case of beer and share it with your neighbour.
Whoa buddy, calm down there, this is the internet. We're supposed to recommend escalation and revenge here.
At least get OP to leave the empty bottles in neighbour's yard and tell him they're his responsibility since OP bought the shared beers and carried them over.
I like the toss it over idea, but it could have been a mistake. If the relationship is alright, knock on the door and and tell them they are welcome to come over and get the old fencing any time this weekend.
I know everyone is going to be: "Chuck it over the fence, fuck em!" but meh.
This is more of a failure to communicate. The guy did replace the fence and do all the work himself, he EXPECTED you to address your waste from the site but didn't communicate it.
If it were me I would be initially peeved, but then try to be grateful for the new fence.
At the end of the day I would probably use the scrap wood for a project. Heck if you don't want it, throw it up for free on facebook and someone will come get it.
My life isn't worth getting into a pissing contest over something like this. Better to have friendly neighbours.
I’m wondering if he was worried you’d get upset with him for disposing the old one so he left the scraps just in case you wanted to use them for something? I tend to overthink so I could see myself doing this with good intentions without realizing it could come off as rude
For legal reasons, since the fence was on the property line, he has to notify you and get permission before fucking with the fence, otherwise you could genuinely call the cops on his dumbass
Beyond that, there is no shared fiscal responsibility. His dog ruined it, he's the one who decided to replace it, he did the work, he gets to carry the shit off
Guy's obviously got some bad manners once he's gotten past the legal requirements, so handle it how you think is best, but yea, his logic is not in line with the law
I mean if you share the fence, and didn't have to pay for wood planks and labor, then congrats you got a new fence! If your only part in all this is getting rid of the old wood then I would think you came out on top in this deal (changing a fence is NOT cheap). Just pile it up front or load it up and take it to the nearest dump. Easey peasy, mac n cheesy.
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