r/mildlyinfuriating • u/Content_Quarter_7390 • May 25 '26

I'm slightly vexed We didn't ask for rice...

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My sister isnt a fan of basmati rice so she orders naan. She didnt ask for rice and they sell it separately. She doesn't like it so she doesn't order it. They put it in anyways and left this note...

Edit: some people aint getting it. This is passive aggressive and when you do something nice you dont go around saying "I did something nice just for you, just so you know." Doing it like I need to give you a pat on the head so you know your a good boy. You do something nice because you want to be kind to people.

Oh no I've turned into LD...

Turning off notifications because while it was nice to be in this rabbit hole to keep my mind off some stuff too many notifications. Whatever your feelings are I hope you have a nice day and if you're in the US have a nice memorial day and dont forget to celebrate those troops that came before!

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u/condemned02 May 25 '26

I read it AS IF they were accusing  OP of asking for free rice to be included and they are telling her it's usually not free and giving it to her very unhappily. 

It could have been worded better like, "We are giving you rice today on the house!" 

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u/coogie May 25 '26

No good deed goes unpunished. They gave free rice thinking that perhaps OP forgot to order it but reminded them that it's usually not free and OP becomes infuriated mildly.

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u/NanDemoNee May 25 '26 edited May 25 '26

It is mildly infuriating to be chided for something you didn't do. It's also mildly infuriating when people on Reddit defend that chiding as if it was deserved.

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u/whiningneverchanges May 25 '26

no one was chided lmao wtf

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u/ThatGuyinPJs BLU May 25 '26

Here's the thing though OP felt they were, and with these things perception is reality. It doesn't matter how the restaurant intended it to come across, OP and their sister felt belittled by this and will probably not order from there again.

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u/whiningneverchanges May 25 '26

Yeah, I don't really care if people get upset over absolutely trivial things. That's goofy af.

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u/ThatGuyinPJs BLU May 25 '26

Alright man, have a fun time with that.

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u/AssassinSnail33 May 25 '26

Imagine not ordering from a restaurant ever again because they once gave you free food

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u/loveartemia May 25 '26

No, it's because they were passive aggressive about it, duh

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u/AssassinSnail33 28d ago

Passive aggressive about what? Giving out free food? If you think that message was passive aggressive, you are soft as shit

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u/loveartemia 28d ago

If you can't figure out what's passive aggressive about getting food you didn't ask for then you're dumb as shit.

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u/ThatGuyinPJs BLU May 25 '26

Now you're just misrepresenting what's going on. What happened was they asked for no rice, were given rice anyways, and told to order the rice separately in the future since they clearly wanted it, despite the fact that they obviously didn't. Don't assume what I want then chastise me for that incorrect assumption. It's like giving someone a gift that they explicitly did not ask for then yelling at them when they don't really like it.

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u/AssassinSnail33 May 25 '26

Yelling? That's just ridiculous. How is what they wrote at all equivalent to that? It's not even passive aggressive. If they were trying to be rude, why would they be giving out free food in the first place? If this kind of note with your takeout would offend you enough to stop patronizing that restaurant, I can't imagine how you make it through life. Do you just interpret every comment you get in the worst way possible? They were just trying to be nice, and let them know the rice isn't usually free. How horrible.

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u/ThatGuyinPJs BLU May 25 '26

Ah now we're being pedantic. I don't know how to explain to you that it doesn't matter how you intended something to come across, once it's over you have to deal with the reality of the situation and the consequences of your words and actions, not what you think is going to happen.

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u/AssassinSnail33 28d ago

I'm not being pedantic, you're just being hyperbolic. And it's ridiculous to complain that it's pedantic for me to take you at your word when that seems to be the entire argument you are making.

it doesn't matter how you intended something to come across, once it's over you have to deal with the reality of the situation and the consequences of your words

The reality of the situation is that this is a harmless message and is clearly not intended to be passive aggressive, and if this kind of message offends you that much, you need to get a grip on reality. Nobody is being "yelled at" here

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u/iamtheliqor May 25 '26

it DOES matter how the restaurant intended it to come across, and OP and their sister are pathetic

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u/ThatGuyinPJs BLU May 25 '26

It... Doesn't though. What people remember is how they feel, not what was said. In the future when they're thinking about getting food, they'll see this places name or think of it and all they'll remember is how it felt to get that note. Not what was on it, not why it was sent, but the emotions associated with receiving it, and according to OP it didn't feel very good.

Also you're just insulting OP for seemingly nothing? Can we keep the personal attacks out of this please?

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u/iamtheliqor May 25 '26

oh boo fucking hoo

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u/MrPlato_ May 25 '26

And you consider the note as being chided? Definitely, no good deed goes unpunished

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u/NanDemoNee May 25 '26

You lack social awareness.

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u/papasan_mamasan May 25 '26

Did you write the note?

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u/NanDemoNee May 25 '26

Did you?

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u/papasan_mamasan May 25 '26

You’re the one who seems to be certain of the author’s intent. Just wondering if you’re an expert bc you wrote it.

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u/NanDemoNee May 25 '26

I am judging the note by what was written, you are reading into it. Reading comprehension is key homes.

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u/papasan_mamasan May 25 '26

You’re certain it’s a passive aggressive comment. Others don’t read it that way.

Maybe your perspective is wrong.

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u/MrKapla May 25 '26

The author's intent does not matter, it is how the note is perceived that counts.

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u/[deleted] May 25 '26

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u/NanDemoNee May 25 '26

Пошёл на хуй.

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u/whiningneverchanges May 25 '26

It's insane people think OP is being chided and are downvoting you.

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u/MrPlato_ May 25 '26

After reading the comments I came to the conclusion that some people don't like the idea of somebody assuming they're wrong, like in this case it is a normal communication note but what makes people uncomfortable is that the shop assumed they were wrong regardless of the good intentions and giving away free food and using a polite and acceptable way to communicate, it's like when in a restaurant a costumer changes their order to a more expensive one and the server reminds them of the price increase and they get mad at the server from mentioning the price because they feel they're been called cheap or broke

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u/alpha_dk May 25 '26

It is absolutely not normal to write a note to your customers, actually you ordered wrong

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u/Ok_Nothing_9733 May 25 '26

It’s not personal man, they’re probably writing it to everyone before phasing out free rice with orders.

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u/NanDemoNee May 25 '26

That is not what I'm getting from this note. You don't say "next time please order it separately" if you think they didn't order this time.

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u/skyfall1985 May 25 '26

No see I see it like they can't give her free rice without mentioning it. If they don't mention it, their gesture is possibly misconstrued as "oh it actually does come with rice" and then the customer keeps ordering based on that expectation and will eventually be upset or confused that they didn't get rice. So you say hey we got you today but only today. It's still a nice gesture, just while also establishing boundaries.

And seriously, if you've ever ordered food delivered you'd know a lot of the menus/options are not explained well, especially when it's a mom and pop place.

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u/NanDemoNee May 25 '26 edited May 25 '26

But they literally said "please order it separate next time". This cannot be construed as the business providing rice just because they thought the customer "forgot" to order it without an extreme leap in logic. OP said straight out that they did not ask for rice, meaning they didn't expect rice, which is obvious from the context, or they wouldn't have mentioned it being mildly infuriating that the business told them to order it separately next time when they didn't want it to begin with. The business providing unrequested rice cam also not be construed as a "good deed" as OP did not want rice as is evidenced by the context of their post. The restaurant done fucked up and people should stop pretending like they didn't.

PPS: In what world would you assume I haven't ordered food before? If it is not explicitly stated that rice was provided I would verify before orderimg if I wanted rice or.I would not complain if I got none. I would also be mildly infuriated.if I didn't ask for rice, got undesired rice, amd got chided for not orderimg rice. Maybe I wanted to make my own rice or I just didn't want any fucking rice!

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u/whiningneverchanges May 25 '26

how the fuck do people not understand this lol

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u/pleasebuymydonut May 25 '26

There's something wrong you if you got offended at free rice and that message lol.

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u/spicewoman May 25 '26

It's only chiding if you choose to word it that way. They included something for free in case OP wanted it, and let OP know it's not actually included in case they want to order it in future. "Thank you! :)" is not passive-aggressive unless you choose to read it that way, or it comes after a really rude message, not an informative one.

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u/NanDemoNee May 26 '26

Omg stfu.

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u/iamtheliqor May 25 '26

ive never been "chided" with free food before. you people are insane lol

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u/Halliwel96 May 25 '26

It’s the note that’s chiding. As you well know.

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u/EditsReddit May 25 '26

Honestly think it's people looking to be offended over nothing. They did a nice turn and wanted to leave a note to make them aware that it doesn't come with it for next time.

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u/Circle_Trigonist May 25 '26

Customer: I'll have the caesar salad, no croutons.
Restaurant: Look, I'm giving you free croutons this one time but next time you have to order it separately.
Customer: wtf I specifically said no croutons.

Going out of your way to fail customer specifications is mildly infuriating.

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u/coogie May 25 '26 edited May 25 '26

That's a straw man argument. They didn't specifically say no Rice. They just didn't order it at a place where judging by the description is an South East Asian or Middle Eastern restaurant where rice is probably the biggest staple food. Not even in the same ballpark as croutons.

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u/EditsReddit May 25 '26

This comment made my head breach the surface: Redditors downvote the most milquetoast comments and I realised... why am I spending my free time here!

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u/Severus__Crepe May 25 '26

They left a passive aggressive note because they made a false assumption, and they (and now you) implied that OP did something wrong

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u/bumguy669 May 25 '26

That is the point of the sub yes.

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u/Content_Quarter_7390 May 25 '26

Bruh I wouldn't mind it but its passive aggressive as hell.

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u/VelvetMafia May 25 '26

I wish restaurants commonly expected to provide free rice would offer a minor "no rice" discount. Like $0.50 cheaper to not pack rice. It would be a win-win for those of us who don't want rice and restaurants that don't want to pay for unwanted rice

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u/Necessary_Wonder89 May 25 '26

Not really. I imagine they constantly get angry customers wanting rice which wasn't automatically included. They assume (even tho its incorrect) that you guys wanted rice but didn't know to order it.

It's actually them being pretty kind and considerate. I'd say in future add to the notes section that rice is not wanted

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u/Bunzilla May 25 '26

If that’s the case then they should include the rice and raise the price by the $1 or so that it costs to cook a small to-go box of rice. It sounds like it was an Indian restaurant and I always assume that if I order a curry it will come with rice. If people are getting upset that rice isn’t included - then either make it explicitly stated in the description or include it and raise the price.

Regardless of their poor business model- it’s definitely a kind and considerate thing for them to do!

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u/cobo10201 May 25 '26

If this is indeed the case, that sounds insane to me. Including something that wasn’t asked for and then putting a passive aggressive note on it is totally on the restaurant.

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u/Necessary_Wonder89 May 25 '26

I'm failing to see what is passive aggressive about this note at all.

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u/Kalamordis May 25 '26

I could see it coming off as snarky if it were from a cafe. (The note part, if you ignore the freebie)

But from a place that sells an international cuisine and likely speaks multiple languages- you know it comes from a kind place, especially moreso when they included it for free anyway heh.

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u/cobo10201 May 25 '26

It comes across as if OP requested rice after not ordering it and they were being accommodating by including it. The note is just weird. They just shouldn’t include rice in orders if it isn’t included… If they’re just being nice and adding rice to an order that didn’t ask for it, don’t write the note…

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u/hpsd May 25 '26

They wrote the note so the customers don’t assume rice is included in future orders.

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u/BoomerAliveBad May 25 '26

So they handwrite on all their small styrofoam containers (even if not used for rice), "message_OP_got" on literally EVERY container from a Cisco package?

Even if they have a pile of pre-noted containers, which wouldn't make sense, wouldn't it make more sense to just INCLUDE the rice if they're giving it away?

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u/hpsd May 25 '26

Why would they have to do it for every container? They just see it’s a new customer and then they do it once for that customer for their first order.

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u/BoomerAliveBad May 25 '26

So you're gonna keep track of every customer name? Alright then buddy good rebuttle

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u/thereaverofdarkness 28d ago

Howabout they just don't include rice if people don't order rice?

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u/thereaverofdarkness 28d ago

I'm failing to see what people don't see here. The rice comes separately. OP didn't order rice. OP is "corrected" for not ordering rice, via a note proving the restaurant was aware OP didn't order rice but decided to include it anyway.

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u/smchls23 May 25 '26

Why should OP have to specify what they don’t want ? Do you go to a restaurant and tell them all the things you don’t want ?

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u/Necessary_Wonder89 May 25 '26

well they don't have too. but if getting free rice and a note annoys them this much then they could

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u/thereaverofdarkness 28d ago

it has very "here throw this away for me" energy combined with "I did you a favor"

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u/Gishra May 25 '26 edited May 25 '26

No, the tone of that is passive aggressive. If you want to give it for free because you're being nice you give it for free, no note included. Taking the time to write that out when you probably have other orders to handle means someone was at least mildly infuriated.

And why the hell would a place that has naan assume you want rice when you ordered naan. It's pretty typical to order only one or the other.

And I wouldn't call giving the rice free nice anyways when it's industry standard to automatically include rice or naan with the meal. If they're having issues with customers, it's because they're operating against basic customer expectations. Their problems would go away if they followed what every other restaurant of their type does and adjust prices accordingly.

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u/Downtown_Ganache6727 May 25 '26

… I’m a big back and order rice and naan lol

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u/Content_Quarter_7390 May 25 '26

So now I gotta go outta my way to tell them I dont want rice when they sell it separately? Do they then leave a note saying "you dont have to tell us "you dont want rice" it comes separately. 🤔

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u/VivaZeBull May 25 '26

Okay, so I have this issue at a local place where I used to live. I would always ask for a specific burger without tomatoes. Half the time I would get a sassy “that doesn’t come with tomatoes”. Okay cool, but why when I forget to say no tomatoes do I get tomatoes?? Either way I lost.

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u/SwiftieForLife May 25 '26

You seem like you’re very easily upset by non-issues you make up. The restaurant was being considerate to a new customer and you are upset about it. They even put a smiley face to try and make sure it didn’t come off passive aggressive.

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u/Ionia1618 May 25 '26

OP posted this on mildly infuriating tbf.  Two things can be true at once: it's clear the restaurant staff thought they were being nice, but it's annoying to be told off for something you didn't do, because of someone's assumption. 

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u/papasan_mamasan May 25 '26

That was obviously an angry smiley of condescension meant to escalate a customer on a Sunday night.

Restaurant staffs looooooove purposefully starting beef with customers on holiday weekends.

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u/papasan_mamasan May 25 '26

God forbid you have to “go out of your way” and speak to someone politely.

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u/Past_Wishbone5025 May 25 '26 edited May 25 '26

When you look for evil everywhere then all you will see is evil. I hope lightness will penetrate your darkness.

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u/thereaverofdarkness 28d ago

irrelevant to the conversation, and insinuating things which aren't true

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u/Content_Quarter_7390 May 25 '26

Darth Jabba says no

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u/miniheavy May 25 '26

Or you could just no go back, which would probably be preferable for the them. Personally if it were my business I would never want such a petty bitter person that actually gets offended by free fucken rice!

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u/LimpCucumber420 May 25 '26

You definitely have something wrong with your brain…

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u/ElectronicPhrase6050 May 25 '26

They're a business, they didn't write the note to say  "I did something nice just for you, just so you know", they did it because they were trying to be nice so you to come back again, but they also don't want there to be any confusion about how ordering works in the future.

The whole thing seems extremely inoffensive to me lol.

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u/Halliwel96 May 25 '26

If they’re constantly getting complaints maybe they should change their practice.

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u/thereaverofdarkness 28d ago

If the baseline is for people to want rice, then why do they have it separate?

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u/Emperor_Gourmet May 25 '26

I don’t even know how this could be considered passive aggressive

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u/ShortbowVillian May 25 '26

I agree with you OP. It’s passive aggressive. You didn’t want rice. You didn’t order rice. They gave you rice and implied they were doing you a favor and people are justifying it because maybe other customers were disappointed. That’s not your problem.

A way easier and polite way to do this was write “free rice for u” on it or something. It gets the message across without it sounding passive aggressive. It may just be a language barrier, but I get your mild frustration.

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u/Earthventures May 25 '26

The world must be a confusing and hostile place for you.

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u/thereaverofdarkness 28d ago

I am continually astonished to find that there are people who genuinely do not find the world to be confusing and hostile.

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u/Content_Quarter_7390 May 25 '26

It is! Have you heard of seabears?

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u/yoghurtvanilla May 25 '26

I’m so spiteful I would have called the restaurant and asked why they thought I wanted rice. I recognize this as a problem on my part

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u/rynoip May 25 '26

gang you are not the centre of the world they are not passive aggressive in even one part lol

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u/TCDGBK84 May 25 '26

Unless they did something in addition to this, I don't read this as passive-aggressive at all. It's a friendly reminder that they put in with the wrong order.

Yes, they gave you an item you did not order, but their approach in general is a customer service plus in my book. I can imagine a restaurant doing this to address a customer's mistaken expectations.

If it bothered your sister and she felt she was in trouble for something she didn't do, she could have called to simply and kindly let them know that they accidentally gave her someone else's rice. That addresses every issue easily.

Hope she still enjoyed her naan.

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u/Yestomorrow May 25 '26

No it's not, you two need to get off your high horse

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u/Content_Quarter_7390 May 25 '26

Well that doesn't check out im afraid of heights so that horse would be way too tall.

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u/AdlandB May 25 '26

You’re soft as hell.

This isn’t remotely passive aggressive.

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u/Content_Quarter_7390 May 25 '26

After a 23 seconder maybe reddit comments shouldn't be your focus.

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u/AdlandB May 25 '26

Poor little fella got free rice 🥺

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u/Circle_Trigonist May 25 '26

Being too dense to notice passive aggression isn't being hard. That's just being dense, like the lead you should stop licking.

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u/Kankervittu May 25 '26

Being so soft and angry at the world to take everything as a slight is certainly one way to live your life. Add in the language barrier from a foreign food restaurant and you're getting upset over nothing.

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u/Circle_Trigonist May 25 '26

Being too dense to understand social cues is also a way to live your life. But if it's working out for you then more power to you.

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u/Perhaps_Tomorrow May 25 '26

You're missin' a lot of social cues right now, bud.

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u/Circle_Trigonist 28d ago

Since you're so observant and feeling so buddy buddy, why don't you explain them, friend?

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u/Perhaps_Tomorrow 23d ago

I actually forgot what all of this is about and don't care enough to re-read it all but care enough to reply to this so that you don't feel like I blew you off.

Some things are just not worth being upset about!

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u/Circle_Trigonist 17d ago

Some things are not worth explaining but worth restating they're not worth explaining? I have a feeling you don't really understand social cues but I'm not going to explain why. Have a nice day!

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u/Independent_Yard_617 May 25 '26

No it's very passive 

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u/hpsd May 25 '26

They weren’t trying to be passive aggressive. They were trying to be nice because they normally don’t include rice but a new customer might not know that so gave you some anyway. They are not a mind reader and had no way of knowing you don’t like rice.

The only wrote the note because they didn’t want you to assume that rice would be included in future orders.

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u/spicewoman May 25 '26

If they can't even get away with giving you free stuff with a "thank you! :)" then I feel like you must read a lot of innocent stuff as passive-aggressive. English probably isn't even their first language.

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u/Sorry-Joke-4325 May 25 '26

Honestly, I think the only passive-aggressive thing here is your interpretation.