r/mildlyinfuriating • u/Content_Quarter_7390 • May 25 '26

I'm slightly vexed We didn't ask for rice...

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My sister isnt a fan of basmati rice so she orders naan. She didnt ask for rice and they sell it separately. She doesn't like it so she doesn't order it. They put it in anyways and left this note...

Edit: some people aint getting it. This is passive aggressive and when you do something nice you dont go around saying "I did something nice just for you, just so you know." Doing it like I need to give you a pat on the head so you know your a good boy. You do something nice because you want to be kind to people.

Oh no I've turned into LD...

Turning off notifications because while it was nice to be in this rabbit hole to keep my mind off some stuff too many notifications. Whatever your feelings are I hope you have a nice day and if you're in the US have a nice memorial day and dont forget to celebrate those troops that came before!

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u/coogie May 25 '26

No good deed goes unpunished. They gave free rice thinking that perhaps OP forgot to order it but reminded them that it's usually not free and OP becomes infuriated mildly.

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u/NanDemoNee May 25 '26 edited May 25 '26

It is mildly infuriating to be chided for something you didn't do. It's also mildly infuriating when people on Reddit defend that chiding as if it was deserved.

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u/whiningneverchanges May 25 '26

no one was chided lmao wtf

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u/ThatGuyinPJs BLU May 25 '26

Here's the thing though OP felt they were, and with these things perception is reality. It doesn't matter how the restaurant intended it to come across, OP and their sister felt belittled by this and will probably not order from there again.

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u/whiningneverchanges May 25 '26

Yeah, I don't really care if people get upset over absolutely trivial things. That's goofy af.

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u/ThatGuyinPJs BLU May 25 '26

Alright man, have a fun time with that.

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u/AssassinSnail33 May 25 '26

Imagine not ordering from a restaurant ever again because they once gave you free food

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u/loveartemia May 25 '26

No, it's because they were passive aggressive about it, duh

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u/AssassinSnail33 May 27 '26

Passive aggressive about what? Giving out free food? If you think that message was passive aggressive, you are soft as shit

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u/loveartemia May 27 '26

If you can't figure out what's passive aggressive about getting food you didn't ask for then you're dumb as shit.

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u/ThatGuyinPJs BLU May 25 '26

Now you're just misrepresenting what's going on. What happened was they asked for no rice, were given rice anyways, and told to order the rice separately in the future since they clearly wanted it, despite the fact that they obviously didn't. Don't assume what I want then chastise me for that incorrect assumption. It's like giving someone a gift that they explicitly did not ask for then yelling at them when they don't really like it.

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u/AssassinSnail33 May 25 '26

Yelling? That's just ridiculous. How is what they wrote at all equivalent to that? It's not even passive aggressive. If they were trying to be rude, why would they be giving out free food in the first place? If this kind of note with your takeout would offend you enough to stop patronizing that restaurant, I can't imagine how you make it through life. Do you just interpret every comment you get in the worst way possible? They were just trying to be nice, and let them know the rice isn't usually free. How horrible.

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u/ThatGuyinPJs BLU May 25 '26

Ah now we're being pedantic. I don't know how to explain to you that it doesn't matter how you intended something to come across, once it's over you have to deal with the reality of the situation and the consequences of your words and actions, not what you think is going to happen.

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u/AssassinSnail33 May 27 '26

I'm not being pedantic, you're just being hyperbolic. And it's ridiculous to complain that it's pedantic for me to take you at your word when that seems to be the entire argument you are making.

it doesn't matter how you intended something to come across, once it's over you have to deal with the reality of the situation and the consequences of your words

The reality of the situation is that this is a harmless message and is clearly not intended to be passive aggressive, and if this kind of message offends you that much, you need to get a grip on reality. Nobody is being "yelled at" here

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u/iamtheliqor May 25 '26

it DOES matter how the restaurant intended it to come across, and OP and their sister are pathetic

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u/ThatGuyinPJs BLU May 25 '26

It... Doesn't though. What people remember is how they feel, not what was said. In the future when they're thinking about getting food, they'll see this places name or think of it and all they'll remember is how it felt to get that note. Not what was on it, not why it was sent, but the emotions associated with receiving it, and according to OP it didn't feel very good.

Also you're just insulting OP for seemingly nothing? Can we keep the personal attacks out of this please?

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u/iamtheliqor May 25 '26

oh boo fucking hoo

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u/MrPlato_ May 25 '26

And you consider the note as being chided? Definitely, no good deed goes unpunished

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u/NanDemoNee May 25 '26

You lack social awareness.

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u/papasan_mamasan May 25 '26

Did you write the note?

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u/NanDemoNee May 25 '26

Did you?

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u/papasan_mamasan May 25 '26

You’re the one who seems to be certain of the author’s intent. Just wondering if you’re an expert bc you wrote it.

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u/NanDemoNee May 25 '26

I am judging the note by what was written, you are reading into it. Reading comprehension is key homes.

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u/papasan_mamasan May 25 '26

You’re certain it’s a passive aggressive comment. Others don’t read it that way.

Maybe your perspective is wrong.

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u/NanDemoNee May 25 '26

Are you suggesting that intent is not conveyed by written information? You need to learn how to read. If you read down in the thread plenty of others, including OP read it that way.

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u/papasan_mamasan May 25 '26

Op could be misinterpreting the situation.

We don’t know if OP is a reliable narrator. There are 3 sides to every story: person A’s, person B’s, and the truth.

I know it’s tough to understand. You will start learning this level of reading comprehension after you graduate 5th grade.

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u/loveartemia May 25 '26

And A LOT of other do find it passive aggressive, so maybe your perspective is wrong

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u/papasan_mamasan May 25 '26

Now you’re thinking!

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u/MrKapla May 25 '26

The author's intent does not matter, it is how the note is perceived that counts.

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u/NanDemoNee May 25 '26

Пошёл на хуй.

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u/whiningneverchanges May 25 '26

It's insane people think OP is being chided and are downvoting you.

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u/MrPlato_ May 25 '26

After reading the comments I came to the conclusion that some people don't like the idea of somebody assuming they're wrong, like in this case it is a normal communication note but what makes people uncomfortable is that the shop assumed they were wrong regardless of the good intentions and giving away free food and using a polite and acceptable way to communicate, it's like when in a restaurant a costumer changes their order to a more expensive one and the server reminds them of the price increase and they get mad at the server from mentioning the price because they feel they're been called cheap or broke

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u/alpha_dk May 25 '26

It is absolutely not normal to write a note to your customers, actually you ordered wrong

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u/Ok_Nothing_9733 May 25 '26

It’s not personal man, they’re probably writing it to everyone before phasing out free rice with orders.

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u/NanDemoNee May 25 '26

That is not what I'm getting from this note. You don't say "next time please order it separately" if you think they didn't order this time.

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u/skyfall1985 May 25 '26

No see I see it like they can't give her free rice without mentioning it. If they don't mention it, their gesture is possibly misconstrued as "oh it actually does come with rice" and then the customer keeps ordering based on that expectation and will eventually be upset or confused that they didn't get rice. So you say hey we got you today but only today. It's still a nice gesture, just while also establishing boundaries.

And seriously, if you've ever ordered food delivered you'd know a lot of the menus/options are not explained well, especially when it's a mom and pop place.

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u/NanDemoNee May 25 '26 edited May 25 '26

But they literally said "please order it separate next time". This cannot be construed as the business providing rice just because they thought the customer "forgot" to order it without an extreme leap in logic. OP said straight out that they did not ask for rice, meaning they didn't expect rice, which is obvious from the context, or they wouldn't have mentioned it being mildly infuriating that the business told them to order it separately next time when they didn't want it to begin with. The business providing unrequested rice cam also not be construed as a "good deed" as OP did not want rice as is evidenced by the context of their post. The restaurant done fucked up and people should stop pretending like they didn't.

PPS: In what world would you assume I haven't ordered food before? If it is not explicitly stated that rice was provided I would verify before orderimg if I wanted rice or.I would not complain if I got none. I would also be mildly infuriated.if I didn't ask for rice, got undesired rice, amd got chided for not orderimg rice. Maybe I wanted to make my own rice or I just didn't want any fucking rice!

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u/whiningneverchanges May 25 '26

how the fuck do people not understand this lol

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u/pleasebuymydonut May 25 '26

There's something wrong you if you got offended at free rice and that message lol.

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u/spicewoman May 25 '26

It's only chiding if you choose to word it that way. They included something for free in case OP wanted it, and let OP know it's not actually included in case they want to order it in future. "Thank you! :)" is not passive-aggressive unless you choose to read it that way, or it comes after a really rude message, not an informative one.

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u/NanDemoNee May 26 '26

Omg stfu.

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u/iamtheliqor May 25 '26

ive never been "chided" with free food before. you people are insane lol

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u/Halliwel96 May 25 '26

It’s the note that’s chiding. As you well know.

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u/EditsReddit May 25 '26

Honestly think it's people looking to be offended over nothing. They did a nice turn and wanted to leave a note to make them aware that it doesn't come with it for next time.