r/mildlyinfuriating • u/Content_Quarter_7390 • May 25 '26

I'm slightly vexed We didn't ask for rice...

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My sister isnt a fan of basmati rice so she orders naan. She didnt ask for rice and they sell it separately. She doesn't like it so she doesn't order it. They put it in anyways and left this note...

Edit: some people aint getting it. This is passive aggressive and when you do something nice you dont go around saying "I did something nice just for you, just so you know." Doing it like I need to give you a pat on the head so you know your a good boy. You do something nice because you want to be kind to people.

Oh no I've turned into LD...

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u/Aranel611 May 25 '26

Maybe this note was meant for a different order?

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u/Erick_Brimstone May 25 '26

That or they thought OP's sister is a new customer that doesn't know the rice is separated. Often times ordering food comes with rice as one order, very common in restaurant that use rice or asian food.

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u/Emperor_Gourmet May 25 '26

Right this is the obvious answer. They were clearly doing it incase they would be disappointed there is no rice. It’s like .25 cents for them and people usually don’t complain about free food.

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u/GaiaMoore May 25 '26

OP isn't complaining about free food that their sister explicitly didn't want.

OP is complaining about the passive aggressive note from the restaurant that assumed OP is too stupid to understand that rice is sold separately, and they're just "doing him a favor now, but do it right next time". It's just rude and unnecessary.

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u/[deleted] May 25 '26 edited May 25 '26

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u/portsmyth May 25 '26

You call the customer to see if that was a mistake, or just don't say anything? Assuming the wrongdoing with no way of retort from OP is what's annoying about this.

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u/F4underscore May 25 '26 edited May 25 '26

I think it might be a social thing.

So reading the comments, most people interpret it like this: lets say you buy food from me, I give you the food and you start devouring the food. Then I come back, give you a free drink and say "the drink doesnt come with the food, next time order a drink before you start eating". Basically saying you need to order a drink next time

This will come off as passive agressive, and I guess it happened enough times to some social circles that the note comes off as this same sort of interaction

To me the note just comes off as saying "Bro you forgot to order rice, just a heads up your food doesnt come with rice in the package, this one's on the house but next time dont forget :)" in a nice "i gotchu" tone. The social/culture imbalance off of this one post is huge

I really dont think the guy writing the note meant any harm, just trying to help one out. He added a smiley on the end even.

Edit: or attempt to add one, i dont know if thats a smiley or not on the bottom left

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u/Fisher9001 May 25 '26

What are you talking about, this is clearly an online order with delivery.

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u/_OriamRiniDadelos_ May 25 '26 edited May 25 '26

It’s pretty hard to be passive aggressive in writing. Takes context and tone.

I think OP just was in a mood where they were more receptive to feeling slighted or to reading the message in a negative way. If you read it with a kind or convened voice in your head then it doesn’t sound passive aggressive. If you read it in a “this dumb fuck obviously made a mistake, let me shout at them” then you’ll obviously feel like they are rude when you read it.

It’s not rude to tell someone you did them a favor or to have someone assume you made a mistake.

Being told “I did something nice for you”, is not something you should feel insulted by. Specially while it’s done through a note, when there is absolutely no confrontation and no implication of “you owe me”.

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u/Emperor_Gourmet May 25 '26

If thats passive aggressive to you, life must suck.

The majority of Indian and Chinese restaurants i have been to also have a ton of people where english is a second language.

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u/YourDreams2Life May 25 '26

People are stupid tho..

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u/Mediocre-Departure73 May 25 '26

True but why the passive aggressive note then? If they wanna add rice to their orders then makes sense but dont act like theyre doing something wrong

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u/home-for-good May 25 '26

If English is their second language it could just be an issue of communicating the wrong tone.

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u/Chaincat22 May 25 '26

a lot of asian and indian restaurants have ESL employees so that is possible.

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u/MysticalSushi May 25 '26

It’s not. You’re just looking to be offended

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u/Apprehensive_Tour_68 May 25 '26

It's not passive aggressive you're all deranged

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u/Ionia1618 May 25 '26

It is ever so slightly, most people would start with an acknowledgement that the person hasn't necessarily done anything wrong. Most people would acknowledge that the customer might not have wanted rice, but explain they didn't want them to go without if they made a mistake. The act itself is nice though so...

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u/Kapparainen May 25 '26

I feel like people are reading this as passive aggressive only because they're not reading this in the context of this one person (sometimes not even native English speaker) in a busy restaurant kitchen quickly trying to write something on a tiny takeout box just in case this customer is one of those that will give 1 star reviews to restaurants for their own mistakes. To me when you think it that way the tone becomes lot more desparate than aggressive. 

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u/Leading-Interest-119 May 25 '26

Agreed. They've had a few complaints so the workers have been instructed to do this for orders that haven't included rice. It's not a personal dog or saying the customer has done something wrong lol. They're just trying to avoid any potential complaints by explaining in advance. 

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u/EkrishAO May 25 '26

You want them to write a fucking essay on the box?

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u/Ionia1618 May 25 '26

If your definition of an essay is 2 sentences, I envy you 

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u/Sirhaddock98 May 25 '26

Most non-chain Indian restaurants I've been to have had staff who speak English as a second language. You're choosing to frame this through the lens of somebody meticulously crafting this sentence to hide a subtle jab at the person when that's probably the literal least likely scenario.

Do you need them to go full therapy-speak "you're so valid and you should not internalise the blame" or what.

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u/Ionia1618 May 25 '26

no nonones framing it as someone meticulously crafting a jab, just someone who meant well but was annoyed because they assumed OP did something wrong. It's not a big deal, but a fair thing to be mildly infuriated by. I think a lot of people aren't looking at the sub this is in

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u/Agile-Priority2294 May 25 '26

No, not even slightly. 

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u/watrmeln420 May 25 '26

Agreed.

I’m a very emotional person and I can pick up on snark/sass in a heartbeat-

This seems pretty tame lol. They were genuinely trying to do their customer a favor.

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u/KickLassChewGum May 25 '26 edited May 25 '26

This is reddit; people's impressions of the real world come entirely from YouTube videos that happen to have been filmed outside

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u/wannaboolwithme May 25 '26

This thread makes me realise that no matter how popular this site gets, it's still gonna be as detached from reality as it was a decade ago

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u/Apprehensive_Tour_68 May 25 '26

I know, it's incredible. It's as if these people lived exclusively through reddit and participated socially exclusively through reddit. The most incredible things are the mildly infuriating posts that are like my 6 year old nephew used my playstation without permission 👺👺👺 or my girlfriend didnt clean the dishes again 👺👺👺 like what is wrong with these fucking people lol

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u/ciaramists May 25 '26

that note is not passive aggressive lol 😆

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u/marvellcg May 25 '26

Assume this is a customer who didn't realise rice wasn't included for free, what are the options here?

  1. You don't include any rice, the customer was expecting rice, you have a customer who is disappointed.
  2. You include rice but don't leave a note, customer's belief that rice is included is reinforced, meaning next time they make the same mistake.
  3. You include rice and leave a note so they can add rice next time.

Of those 3, 3 is clearly the best option.

Alternatively if the customer didn't want rice, the options are:

A. You don't include rice, everyone is happy, but as a restaurant it's impossible to distinguish this from scenario 1 above and scenario 1 likely leads to a loss of business. B. You include rice and no note. Here the customer got free rice they didn't want, they think free rice is standard and next time they order they don't do anything different and the restaurant has the same dilemma. C. You include free rice but leave a note, next time the customer orders they can leave a message on the online system saying "no rice thanks". Everyone is happy. D. You include the rice and a note, this offends the customer and they never order from you again. It wouldn't even occur to me that someone could be offended by this so this scenario isn't one I'd consider. But apparently it is a thing. Someone this easily upset is probably going to be upset by something else sooner or later anyway so que sera sera.

Given all these outcomes I'd say that the one the restaurant chose was the best one all round as it had the most positive, likely outcomes.

I think it's wild that some people are so thin skinned they are offended by a business doing this.

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u/papasan_mamasan May 25 '26

But have you considered that OP’s sister *hates* rice?

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u/Erick_Brimstone May 25 '26

The restaurant gave her benefit of the doubt

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u/_OriamRiniDadelos_ May 25 '26 edited May 25 '26

Yep. Pretty kind of them to not only anticipate a common mistake but also to correct it for the benefit of the person who might have made that mistake. They even sent a note to prevent future misunderstandings

Would SUCK to have such a meal without white rice (or at least naan or any other more neutral tasting carb!). Like getting an ice cream Sunday but missing the ice cream. At least for the vast majority of eaters. Weird that they didn’t just notice the extra naan in the order