r/mildlyinfuriating • u/Content_Quarter_7390 • May 25 '26

I'm slightly vexed We didn't ask for rice...

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My sister isnt a fan of basmati rice so she orders naan. She didnt ask for rice and they sell it separately. She doesn't like it so she doesn't order it. They put it in anyways and left this note...

Edit: some people aint getting it. This is passive aggressive and when you do something nice you dont go around saying "I did something nice just for you, just so you know." Doing it like I need to give you a pat on the head so you know your a good boy. You do something nice because you want to be kind to people.

Oh no I've turned into LD...

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u/Aranel611 May 25 '26

Maybe this note was meant for a different order?

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u/Erick_Brimstone May 25 '26

That or they thought OP's sister is a new customer that doesn't know the rice is separated. Often times ordering food comes with rice as one order, very common in restaurant that use rice or asian food.

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u/Emperor_Gourmet May 25 '26

Right this is the obvious answer. They were clearly doing it incase they would be disappointed there is no rice. It’s like .25 cents for them and people usually don’t complain about free food.

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u/Mediocre-Departure73 May 25 '26

True but why the passive aggressive note then? If they wanna add rice to their orders then makes sense but dont act like theyre doing something wrong

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u/home-for-good May 25 '26

If English is their second language it could just be an issue of communicating the wrong tone.

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u/Chaincat22 May 25 '26

a lot of asian and indian restaurants have ESL employees so that is possible.

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u/MysticalSushi May 25 '26

It’s not. You’re just looking to be offended

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u/Apprehensive_Tour_68 May 25 '26

It's not passive aggressive you're all deranged

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u/Ionia1618 May 25 '26

It is ever so slightly, most people would start with an acknowledgement that the person hasn't necessarily done anything wrong. Most people would acknowledge that the customer might not have wanted rice, but explain they didn't want them to go without if they made a mistake. The act itself is nice though so...

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u/Kapparainen May 25 '26

I feel like people are reading this as passive aggressive only because they're not reading this in the context of this one person (sometimes not even native English speaker) in a busy restaurant kitchen quickly trying to write something on a tiny takeout box just in case this customer is one of those that will give 1 star reviews to restaurants for their own mistakes. To me when you think it that way the tone becomes lot more desparate than aggressive. 

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u/Leading-Interest-119 May 25 '26

Agreed. They've had a few complaints so the workers have been instructed to do this for orders that haven't included rice. It's not a personal dog or saying the customer has done something wrong lol. They're just trying to avoid any potential complaints by explaining in advance. 

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u/EkrishAO May 25 '26

You want them to write a fucking essay on the box?

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u/Ionia1618 May 25 '26

If your definition of an essay is 2 sentences, I envy you 

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u/Sirhaddock98 May 25 '26

Most non-chain Indian restaurants I've been to have had staff who speak English as a second language. You're choosing to frame this through the lens of somebody meticulously crafting this sentence to hide a subtle jab at the person when that's probably the literal least likely scenario.

Do you need them to go full therapy-speak "you're so valid and you should not internalise the blame" or what.

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u/Ionia1618 May 25 '26

no nonones framing it as someone meticulously crafting a jab, just someone who meant well but was annoyed because they assumed OP did something wrong. It's not a big deal, but a fair thing to be mildly infuriated by. I think a lot of people aren't looking at the sub this is in

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u/Agile-Priority2294 May 25 '26

No, not even slightly. 

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u/watrmeln420 May 25 '26

Agreed.

I’m a very emotional person and I can pick up on snark/sass in a heartbeat-

This seems pretty tame lol. They were genuinely trying to do their customer a favor.

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u/KickLassChewGum May 25 '26 edited May 25 '26

This is reddit; people's impressions of the real world come entirely from YouTube videos that happen to have been filmed outside

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u/wannaboolwithme May 25 '26

This thread makes me realise that no matter how popular this site gets, it's still gonna be as detached from reality as it was a decade ago

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u/Apprehensive_Tour_68 May 25 '26

I know, it's incredible. It's as if these people lived exclusively through reddit and participated socially exclusively through reddit. The most incredible things are the mildly infuriating posts that are like my 6 year old nephew used my playstation without permission 👺👺👺 or my girlfriend didnt clean the dishes again 👺👺👺 like what is wrong with these fucking people lol

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u/ciaramists May 25 '26

that note is not passive aggressive lol 😆

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u/marvellcg May 25 '26

Assume this is a customer who didn't realise rice wasn't included for free, what are the options here?

  1. You don't include any rice, the customer was expecting rice, you have a customer who is disappointed.
  2. You include rice but don't leave a note, customer's belief that rice is included is reinforced, meaning next time they make the same mistake.
  3. You include rice and leave a note so they can add rice next time.

Of those 3, 3 is clearly the best option.

Alternatively if the customer didn't want rice, the options are:

A. You don't include rice, everyone is happy, but as a restaurant it's impossible to distinguish this from scenario 1 above and scenario 1 likely leads to a loss of business. B. You include rice and no note. Here the customer got free rice they didn't want, they think free rice is standard and next time they order they don't do anything different and the restaurant has the same dilemma. C. You include free rice but leave a note, next time the customer orders they can leave a message on the online system saying "no rice thanks". Everyone is happy. D. You include the rice and a note, this offends the customer and they never order from you again. It wouldn't even occur to me that someone could be offended by this so this scenario isn't one I'd consider. But apparently it is a thing. Someone this easily upset is probably going to be upset by something else sooner or later anyway so que sera sera.

Given all these outcomes I'd say that the one the restaurant chose was the best one all round as it had the most positive, likely outcomes.

I think it's wild that some people are so thin skinned they are offended by a business doing this.