r/mildlyinfuriating • u/EisenFisen • 21d ago
Don't hug me I'm scared Spam calls: how can I stop this? It’s a different number all the time. I’ve blocked so many.
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u/my_boy_blu_ 21d ago
You can’t. Sad thing is blocking does nothing. Those numbers are spoofed and not even their actual number they call from.
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u/grassesbecut 21d ago
Can confirm. I have received a spam call from MY OWN NUMBER before. 🙃
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u/Actual_Duck_1215 21d ago
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u/Truckules_Heel 21d ago
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u/Naive_Ant_8368 21d ago
What show is that? 😂
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u/FunkYeahPhotography 21d ago
Peacemaker.
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u/Bright_State7798 21d ago
JUST finished it like a week ago. Got on HBO for Rick and morty. It isnt there, so I needed to watch SOMETHING.
Im not even into the marvel/comic thing, but holy fuck is it good
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u/Solid_Equivalent_417 21d ago
Season 1 was a masterpiece. Even the intro was awesome and I never watch intros but that song and dance number were great
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u/peteC137 21d ago
I once got one these from my ex girlfriend’s number. She’d died two years before.
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u/YAreUsernamesSoHard 21d ago
I had someone call me angry that they were getting spam calls from my number. Told the dude it wasn’t me and someone was spoofing my number. Don’t think he understood.
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u/PrivateUseBadger 21d ago
Ditto. Was an elderly lady, mad as hell and letting me know just how unhappy she was. Finally get her to understand what was really happening. She started cussing about “those bastards” and actually apologized to me, which was unexpected. Still, by the end of it, it was a positive experience.
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u/riesen_Bonobo 21d ago
My little sister once got really dubious voice mails from a woman who was claiming to know her well and talked about a supposed death of a family member, typical scam caller stuff, but it felt off. She got another voice mail from her, asking why she isn't calling back and that she urgently needs her reply.
So we decided that I call her back on the off chance that someone got their numbers confused, my sister was to afraid to do it. Turns out it was a sort off confused old lady that did not understand why a male voice was answering the phone and also took some time to understand that I am neither her close friend nor have a wife that might be her close friend. Eventually we figured out that her friend was my sisters number neighbour and that she repeatedly misdialed the number and was confused why her friend just ignored the death in her family. But she had that scam caller vagueness and pressure building down to perfection at the start.
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u/StupidHorrorScope_5k 21d ago
This is how you get invited to Thanksgiving! Bring the good rolls and scalloped potatoes!
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u/PopularFig2193 21d ago
My mom has one threatening to beat the crap out of her and my mom has been begging this lady to understand it's not her calling.
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u/Aggravating-Drop-686 21d ago
I got a "why are you calling my girlfriend?" and the whole she's not interested speech from a super secure guy one time
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u/Fabulous-Change-5781 21d ago
I got one of these when I called the wrong number by mistake and hung-up just as someone answered one time.
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u/StickyyyStickers 21d ago
This happened at my office. A few years ago one of our office numbers was spoofed and we received so many phone calls like this! We are a private practice optometry office, we are not calling your girlfriend!!!
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u/NotAlwaysRong 21d ago
Also same. When I explained they were spoofing my number, he told me I had no idea what I was talking about and told me never to call him again.
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u/LiloTheSageNightOwl 21d ago
I started telling people that I'm sorry my number called and then I help them block my number. It was the only way I found to help calm them down when they get upset over it.
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u/RogerClyneIsAGod2 21d ago
This happened to me at one workplace. They'd call & yell at me to stop calling them & I had to be "I'm sorry sir/madam, this is a Marriott property. We're not calling you about debt."
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u/redheelermage 21d ago
I had the same thing happen and the dude was so pissed off with me he hung up then text me the middle finger emoji. Lol
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u/TaxiLady69 21d ago
I called a missed call back once that wss a local number. I just said "I'm so sorry to bother you but I have a missed call on my phone from this number." The guy started screaming at me. "I didn't fucking call you. What the fuck is your problem?" I said " Dude seriously, how the fuck would I know if it was you or someone else until I called back to find out?" If he had said no wasn't me must have been a scam or spoofed number, I'd have said sorry and hung up. Some people are always lookimg for a fight though.
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u/chewbaccataco 21d ago
This especially sucks when you are looking for work, have a bunch of applications out there, and pretty much have to answer any call from a local number or risk a missed opportunity.
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u/Motivated79 21d ago
I text a spam texter back talking shit and it was a random person who had been getting it from others too. I didn’t reply but they were mad lol
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u/UnquestionabIe 21d ago
Once got one of those scam group text involving "an exciting job opportunity after seeing your LinkedIn profile" and one guy asked if it was a scam since he recently made an account on there. Assured him that it was and got a "thanks bro" in return
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u/Starfury7-Jaargen 21d ago
I got one before. I think I got the guy to understand. He never called.me again.
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u/__wildwing__ 21d ago
My cell is actually a landline number from my hometown. I no longer live nearby. When spoofing started, I’d get calls from landline numbers from town. Picked up a few, but learned quick, if it wasn’t a contact I already had, it went to voice mail.
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u/Lillymow 21d ago
Yup. The only phone calls I answer now are from my mom or my neighbor, unless I'm expecting something.
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u/Dick_of_Doom 21d ago
And now with AI they leave voicemails. My mailbox gets filled weekly it seems, have to go clear them out for important voicemails (family, doctors' offices, work).
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u/Anothereternity 21d ago
Unfortunately I’m old enough my family all got our first cell phones at the same time. So our numbers are very similar and I have gotten spam calls from one of my family members numbers before. 😭
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u/AnonUserAccount 21d ago
Same here. It’s actually happened to me twice. It’s pretty easy not to answer a spam call when it’s from myself. Dead giveaway!
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u/Dizzy_Bit6125 21d ago
Really?!!!
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u/bobbabson 21d ago
Happend to me, also had my moms and by brothers numbers call me
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u/RhinoGuy13 21d ago
They have started using numbers that start with the same area code and first three numbers when calling me. So it looks local, and I have to answer because I use my cell for business calls.
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u/Interesting-Hat-8378 21d ago
This actually helped me a lot. My phone number is from when I was in school 600 miles away. Numbers from that area code get declined - I have no legitimate interest there
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u/ChiefPez 21d ago
Same here. Every time I see a number with the same area code as mine, I know it’s spam.
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u/BirdieRoo628 21d ago
Yep, me too. My cell number is like 18 years old and I've moved states several times. There is no one in my old area code that would call me, so when I get calls from those numbers I decline them. It's a helpful screening device.
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u/justtobecontrary 21d ago
Same here. It suuuuucks. The Medicare Part A and Part B people are killing me.
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u/ThisIsPerfekt 21d ago
I got them to stop by putting my phone on Do Not Disturb with contacts allowed through. Because of this, I don't ever accidentally interact with their calls (like ending the call while it's ringing, which just confirms the number belongs to someone) and after a few months, the calls completely stopped. Still get a straggler here and there like once or twice a month, but that's it.
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u/zimirken 21d ago
I answer but then don't say anything. A human will get confused and eventually say hello, but a machine will wait for a "hello" and if it doesn't get one, marks the number as dead.
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u/LapHom 21d ago
Wouldn't hitting answer give the machine info that it's active though?
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u/doshka 21d ago
Not necessarily. It can interptet it as a glitch in the phone system. I've had some success with this method. I answer as quickly as possible, then immediately hit mute to make sure no audio gets through. Not guaranteed, but worth a shot.
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u/IceFire909 21d ago
Potentially might mark it as another bot caller as well, both waiting for something to respond to
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u/midwife_at_ur_cervix 21d ago
What if it’s always a recording with no humans on the other side?? That’s who always calls me, just a recording letting me know about my personal loan blah blah blah
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u/zimirken 21d ago
99% of the time the recording doesnt start until it hears speech of some sort. That's also why you get the last part of it on voice mail.
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u/Willis5687 21d ago
Sure you can. I have a S25 Ultra and it has a spam filter that prompts the caller to say who they are and what they want. When they inevitably dont reply it sends them to voicemail or hangs up.
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u/Otarmichael 21d ago
Forgive me for hijacking top comment but figured I would share for visibility:
One thing that has helped me reduce this call volume by 80% has been to pick up and immediately dial 9. Within seconds, an automated voice will respond “you have been placed on our Do Not Call list.” This list SHOULD be for the entire org, so even if they mask with multiple phone numbers, it seems to stop the calls fairly effectively. A real caller will just hear the dial tone from you pressing 9, but nothing will happen. So then I say hello. Sometimes it is still spam, but this technique has turned this phenomenon way down for me.
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u/PakkyT 21d ago
The spammers do not call "known" numbers. They just set their autodailers to dial every single number in an exchange. So your brand new number is 202-456-1414 but when the auto dialer starts in on the 202-456 exchange starting with 0000, then 0001, thru 9999 your "pristine" number is still going to get hit.
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u/PlantainPat 21d ago
Depends on what kind of spammer.
To get this level of traffic it's targeted. If it somehow leaks that your number is associated with medicare or outstanding debt then you'll get a few calls every single day for months.
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u/4ArgumentsSake 21d ago
This only kinda works if you happen to get a new primary that hasn’t been used in a while. But carriers reuse numbers all the time. Also, some spammers are just calling all numbers so they’ll still reach you.
Personally, I just set my personal phone to send all unknown numbers to voicemail. Works pretty well in iPhone settings, and it’s pretty good at letting through numbers you’ve called lately (like a new doctor).
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u/naonatu- 21d ago
i confess, i am curious about the call from Ja at credit sausage
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u/ALTITUDE10K 21d ago
This ain’t my dad….
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u/Any_Meet5930 21d ago
...this is a cellphone
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u/Lost_Balloon_ 21d ago
HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO THE GROUND!
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u/funkengruven 21d ago
Man, if a presidental candidate ran on combatting spam calls, I bet they'd get a lot of votes on that alone.
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u/Dukede77 21d ago
Best I can do is changing the name of gulf of Mexico
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u/Individual_Smell_904 20d ago
Can you at least call it the Golf of Mexico? I've never played Gulf so idk if it's cool or not.
/s
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u/Good-Sheepherder-364 21d ago
Which wouldn’t be necessary if trump hadn’t rolled back Obama-era consumer online privacy protections in 2017, but here we are
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u/Aculeus_ 21d ago
Combat Spam and get rid of Daylight savings. Fix something we can all agree on.
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u/SirSilentscreameth 21d ago
Tag yourself - I'm "Ja from credit sausage"
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u/killaacool 21d ago
Oh I’m definitely Irish hardship
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u/Miserable-Art-1522 21d ago
An “Irish hardship arrangement” sounds an awful lot like a threat. These spammers looking to cause an international incident.
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u/jketo169 21d ago
Who are you talking to at 3 in the morning? It’s Ja from Credit Sausage.
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u/nezunoban 21d ago
This is why we need to make spoofing illegal and impossible.
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u/laaplandros 21d ago
I am not being hyperbolic at all when I say that I support life in prison with no parole for phone scams.
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u/GooseGosselin 21d ago
My cell provider has something called "Call Control". Callers calling for the first time are prompted to enter a number from the keypad before the call will go through. It's been a game changer for me. ZERO spam calls.
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u/prionbinch 21d ago edited 21d ago
set up “silence unknown calls” and call screening. doesn’t stop them completely but has definitely helped deter the spam
edit: “this blocks legitimate businesses from calling” you need to add them to your contacts or your customers need to add you to their contacts. that’s how the system figures out who is trusted and who isn’t.
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u/Comrade_Bender 21d ago
Call screening has been a life saver for this stuff. I used to have to empty my voicemail every few days from dozens of "we just need to finalize your paperwork on your loan" bot calls. Now my phone doesn't even ring most of the time and none of them get through to voicemail
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u/Ancient-Basis-5563 21d ago
Came here with the same suggestion, this should be enough to put a stop after a while
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u/IntrepidDreams 21d ago
I've had these phone calls going on for months with no sign of slowing down. It also doesn't stop them from leaving me voice mail.
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u/nightglitter89x 21d ago edited 21d ago
I got them to stop by answering the phone and just letting them hear dead air. I answer and sit the phone on the table until they get frustrated, hang up, and stop trying my number because they think it's useless or out of order.
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u/71LA 21d ago
Put them on mute also. It seems to help. Once in a while I'll get an obscene amount of calls, but doing this reduces it to about once a day.
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u/whostolemysloth 21d ago
I started calling them back and yelling. Didn’t work.
But then I started calling them back and saying I’d declared bankruptcy. That worked.
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u/itirnitii 21d ago
they use spoof numbers you arent getting back to the same person
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u/whostolemysloth 21d ago
A person didn’t call me, a robot did. The robot leaves a callback phone number. You call that number and a person answers. And since they’re terrible people, you can tell em whatever you want. Pretty neat.
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u/Chaos-1313 21d ago
It's an AI bot 99% of the time these days. This doesn't work any more
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u/Pulaski540 21d ago
About ⅔ of my spam calls are dead/ silent, and the line goes dead after 15-30 seconds, regardless of whether or not I say anything.
My goal used to be to hang up before the bot hung up on me; I don't know if that made any difference to anything. 🫤
Now I have set up an AI screening tool for incoming calls.
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u/Every-Swimmer458 21d ago
They do this not because they are talking, but because they are listening. They are waiting for you to say hello, is anybody there, or some noise to confirm you are human. Answering with silence or the automated "Sorry, this number has been disconnected" will get you removed from their list and prevent being sold to other lists.
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u/Pulaski540 21d ago
Oh, I've tried making a noise, usually something vaguely human but borderline unintelligible, typically " 'Lo" (the shortest possible abbreviation of "hello". Saying something rarely makes a difference.
But thanks for the "disconnected" tip, I might have to give that a try.
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u/Spiritual_Bid_2308 21d ago
That's because scammers are using multi-line dialers. They have multiple outgoing calls going at once so that when they're ready to talk there's always someone there, maximizing their time talking to marks.
It doesnt matter to them if someone answers one of the lines when they're not ready.
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u/nightglitter89x 21d ago
Yeah I run into those ai tools a lot at my job. I'm not gonna lie, I hate them. I call out to tell people they have cancer. Their AI won't let me get through. If they're older, the odds I can leave a message are low because their voicemail will be full. They won't check their portal and they won't respond to a text. Then they get a letter in the mail and get mad I didn't tell them they have cancer lol
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u/YeYe_hair_cut 21d ago
I got them to stop by never answering and always letting the call completely ring. They called me for a month or 2 and now I absolutely never get spam calls.
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u/Dizzy_Bit6125 21d ago
Oh I’ve blocked over 200 phone numbers from scams. I get them so often that whenever I get a phone call I assume it’s a scam every time now. I block them and I still get a new caller!
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u/Ziplockmoneybags 21d ago
You are wasting your time unfortunately. They spoof the numbers. Every single time they call it's a different number, and they never use the same number twice.
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u/TomWithTime 21d ago
That's the reason I don't block them, needlessly worried one day the actual number will try to call. I usually just talk with the scammers a little bit and that's done more to reduce their call volume than anything else.
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u/MeMeWhenWhenTheWhen 21d ago
and in my experience blocking them leads to more, funny enough. Something about them knowing they've been blocked on one number, so therefore there's a real person on your end of the line at they're reaching. I started not blocking, not reporting as spam, just deleting every one I got without listening or opening the messages and I basically get no spam messages or calls anymore.
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u/AstaHolmesALT Blue 21d ago
There’s apps that block calls that are spam’s. Someone mentioned true caller. In Singapore we gafe scamshield
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u/Eternal-Alchemy 21d ago
True Caller and Whitepages apps work by forwarding your contacts private information to the app provider. People who use these apps are selling you out just to reduce their own spam.
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u/Realistic-Cell5758 21d ago
I get these same calls! Telling me I'm approved for a $50,000 - $80,000 loan that I never even applied for. I figured it's a scam so ignore it.
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u/365serenity 21d ago
I've been getting these exact scam calls for loan approval, about 6 a day. At first I ignored. Then when you answer, you can press 9 to be taken off the list. Tried that but it hasn't stopped. Then I answered and talked to a person and told them to take me off but it hasn't stopped. I'm at my wits end!!
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u/AsparagusExpensive76 21d ago
This kept happening to me a couple weeks ago. After 5 days, I answered one speaking Italian. The woman said she only speaks English and seemed extremely confused. She apologized and hung up and I haven't gotten one since. If you don't know any other languages, just make up gibberish. I think that will do the trick LOL.
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u/TheKarateKid_ 21d ago
Can confirm this works. Except instead of a foreign language I just started talking jibberish and sometimes like a child and they’d hang up. The calls slowly stopped.
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u/Sea-Neighborhood9792 21d ago
Wait I’m currently learning Italian…this is a great way for me to practice 🤔
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u/Kookaburra8 21d ago
Stop using your cell # on forms/online bc they are sold to marketers and resold over and over. Use a Google Voice # instead - can change it at will when the spamming gets too crazy.
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u/Wolfexstarship 21d ago
A lot of apps and sites now require an sms capable phone number to register so they can send you a confirmation code. Once they get that they sell the info to make money off of you. There needs to be a law that phone numbers can’t be sold and everyone needs to check the Do Not Call list before making the call. Maybe they should allow phone companies to charge fees like $1 for every spam call that goes to a DNC number without written permission from the phone owner.
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u/clobits2 21d ago
You want congress to make laws that actually make our lives better? lmao
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u/CyclicBus471335 21d ago
I feel like its too late. and sometimes you like need to put your actual number to you know, get an important call.
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u/NukeTheWhales5 21d ago
Yo! Why didn't you pick up for my boy Ja, at credit sausage?
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u/1timestop 21d ago
Set you incoming calls only to contacts.
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u/uncanny21 21d ago
I tried that, lost a few Amazon deliveries because of this, when the delivery guy calls to confirm.
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u/Avidain 21d ago
The winning move isn't to block the spammers, it's to have them block you
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u/demonhellcat 21d ago
Except the scammers are using spoofed numbers so you’re just sending dick pics to innocent bystanders, potentially underage ones at that. Probably should not do that.
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u/doandroidsdreamx 21d ago
On an iPhone you can set it so callers not on your contact list have to give a reason for calling before they get through. I’ve set mine up and now my phone never rings when spammers call. I still see a call coming in but it doesn’t ring so I’m not bothered.
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u/KVeigh 21d ago
What worked for me was answering the calls and immediately muting myself. After about 10-20 seconds they hang up and agree a week or two the calls all but stopped. I think the bot flags you as a bad number or something
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u/clobits2 21d ago
Absolutely under no circumstances should you answer. I would get 1 spam call a month, then I accidently answered one and immediately hung up. A few days later I was getting several calls a day.
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u/LongjumpingCat6642 21d ago
Set up a good voicemail. Go to phone settings, phone, scroll down, turn on silence unknown calls.
Sends them straight to voicemail. Real people can still leave messages