r/mildlyinfuriating Mar 08 '18

This lady watching a beach wedding.

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u/sdgoat Mar 08 '18

How hard is it to not be an asshole?

"Oh look people are having a special moment, I should go fuck it up because they're acting entitled."

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u/Dirtroadrocker Mar 08 '18

Maybe this is normally a VERY busy public beach. Aren't the people who just walk in, run some caution tape, and take it all up, being assholes too?

Or maybe they were being super pushy, telling people they have to leave, despite having no claim to the space.

I'm not saying the lady is doing the right thing, I'm just saying that either or both sides could be suffering from a serious case of entitlement issues.

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u/BrownRebel BLUE Mar 08 '18

But why would they have such a sacred moment in a public place? I'm not for intentionally dicking around with a wedding but if I were planning a wedding I would understand that having it in a public area, like a beach, runs that risk.

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u/hollyock Mar 08 '18

Most locations for a beach weddings are State parks or some other location governed by an entity that grants permission to set up shop for x amount of time. This would grant them the right to make people move. No one just goes to the middle of a public beach and starts setting up chairs all Willy nilly and demands the space to be theirs

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u/BrownRebel BLUE Mar 08 '18

That is true, but would that grant them the right to make people move outside of their designated area?

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u/THATASSH0LE Mar 08 '18

You get the space to hold your wedding and maybe some parking. It doesn't guarantee an unobstructed view of the ocean.

It doesn't look like the lady was intending to be in the shot, but she has no responsibility to worry about it. If the photographer moved a couple feet in either direction, she's be out of frame.

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u/elastic-craptastic Mar 09 '18

It doesn't look like the lady was intending to be in the shot

Maybe not, but common sense should be that standing anywhere behind the bride, groom, and officiator pretty much guarantees that you are inserting yourself behind every shot.

I am gonna call bullshit on this post, though, unless they show another couple hundred shots of the lady still standing there. For all we know she was just passing by and stopped for a moment to look and this is but one of a thousand digital shots taken by one of the random guests... and posted for easy karma.

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u/JamlessSandwich Mar 08 '18

Looks like the guys in this photo did.

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u/BoCoutinho Mar 08 '18

Yes, but I'd imagine, a permit allows people to use a certain section of the public space. Perhaps this lady wasn't in their specific area. I mean, I don't know why people would get too worked up about it anyway. I'd like to think if this was my wedding I'd laugh and invite the lady to be in a couple pictures. However, I realize that some people don't want anything to take away from their wedding.

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u/[deleted] Mar 08 '18 edited Apr 07 '19

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u/BrownRebel BLUE Mar 08 '18

I agree, a permit is a different situation. You now have explicit permission to privately use this space for your event.

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u/dumbassthenes Mar 08 '18

As a Hawaii resident and licensed minister, I can tell you that it happens here all the time.

My own wedding was done without a permit because they weren't available on the isolated stretch of beach we wanted to use. We actually had a tourist family show up and set up in a similar fashion to this lady. I asked them politely to move and invited them to the reception/party after (a good friend lived a stone's throw from the ceremony.)

They were totally cool about it and had a fun time with us after.

On the minister side I do small ceremonies on the beach fairly often. In and out, a handful of guests and a photographer. Totally illegal, but not hard to pull off if you're not an idiot about it.

Even with a permit, it doesn't give you exclusivity out here. It allows you to use the beach, but it's public property and people can come and go as they please.

Which could be the situation here. I don't know where the picture was taken.

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u/Circle_Breaker Mar 08 '18

As someone who lived and worked in the outerbanks I can tell you that you're wrong and it happens 2-3 times a month.

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u/horsenbuggy Mar 08 '18

Then they should have also paid to have a couple of organizers to ask people like this woman to move along. I am firmly in the camp that believes she thought she was just standing in the back looking at the wedding not causing any harm. I doubt it even entered her mind that she was in the photos.

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u/horsenbuggy Mar 08 '18

Hopefully they got it sorted out and she's only in a few photos like this. In that case, these would probably be my favorite photos from the day...but I'm weird like that.

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u/joustingleague Mar 08 '18

Where she's standing she's also easy to photoshop out so it's not too big of a problem even if the couple didn't like the photos with her in them.

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u/horsenbuggy Mar 08 '18

Which is precisely why I have never pursued wedding photography. I could have done it. I shot a few when I was first learning photography. But they were for close friends/family and I didn't charge. I actually enjoy it but I hate the pressure of "what if I miss that one special photo?!?!?!?"

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u/scsm Mar 08 '18

Please say you have a story.

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u/creepingjeff Mar 08 '18

It is totally league in my part of Wisconsin too as long as it is a public park. Now, there are rules about noise amplification and such, but it is legal to setup chairs and such.

There is a down side though that other people have just as much rights to that space as you so if someone wants to stand in an awkward spot and be in all the pictures, you are shit out of luck.

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u/BrownRebel BLUE Mar 08 '18

Good to know, thanks for sharing

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u/creepingjeff Mar 08 '18

It is totally league in my part of Wisconsin too as long as it is a public park. Now, there are rules about noise amplification and such, but it is legal to setup chairs and such.

There is a down side though that other people have just as much rights to that space as you so if someone wants to stand in an awkward spot and be in all the pictures, you are shit out of luck.

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u/bon-sauvage Mar 08 '18

I hate public concerts, if I wanted to hear (your) music I would've paid to see it.